Ok so here we go. Almost 2 years ago I made this fake profile of a guy on a social media site. The profile is long gone now, but I have created new ways to talk to the people I've grown very close to i.e. Texting, Calling, Kik, and other social apps.

Im an 18 year old female and I'm in college now and I have a boyfriend that I have been with for 3 years now. I once believed we had the perfect relationship but ever since we got back together after our emotional break up, we haven't ever really been the same. A big part of the reason why is because after we broke up I began using my fake persona(Sean) a lot more and I'm constantly carrying it out 24 hours a day.

Sean(me) has a girlfriend that he's known for over a year and been in a relationship with for 3 months now and its getting way to serious. The reason I made a fake profile of a guy is because the last one I made of a girl I began to get attached to this guy and it ended very badly. I know should not be making fake profiles at all but that's another issue for another time. But I figured if I make one of a guy, I won't get emotionally attached to another girl but I was wrong. I have developed really strong feelings for this girl and even sent her things in the mail for Valentines day. She has also developed strong feelings for Sean(me).

She told both her family and friends about Sean and without my knowledge begged her parents to begin saving money so she could buy a plane ticket to see Sean this summer, just two months away.

What am I supposed to do?? I just recently told her not to come but I can't continue this. Im seriously messing with peoples lives here. She tells me things like "i love you, i dont what i would do without you." " you mean everything to me and i never wanna lose you." "12.10.12 forever baby".

Im spending so much time talking to her everyday, all day, and staying on the phone all night until we fall asleep that I don't have enough time for my boyfriend. He lives about 3 hours from me now that I'm in college and on video chat he often complains about me constantly texting while were talking and constantly accusing me if not caring about our relationship anymore. Were gradually getting worse and worse and I really don't want to lose him again. Hes the one I feel like I could spend the rest of my life with. We've been through a lot together and I don't want something fake getting in the way of something real.

How should I end Sean? Do I just tell her the truth? Do I just find a reason to break up with her? Or should I just disappear? Also, do I tell my boyfriend this? How do I explain to him what's been wrong with me? I intend to seek professional help but my therapy session is two weeks away and I really need help now.

How do you manage phone calls with her? Doesn't she realize you are female?

I wonder how you talk to her on the phone if you're pretending to be a guy...

But anyway, yeah, nice job. Now you just messed up someone's life all to satisfy yourself.

What can you do? You have to be honest and tell this poor girl that you have some deep seated issues and have been lying to her with no thoughts about how this would affect her life. You have to be honest and tell her that you were only thinking about yourself in all of this.

Man, I just have no idea what makes people do things like this... no thought whatsoever to how anything will affect someone else.

How do you manage phone calls with her? Doesn't she realize you are female?

I've been practicing that voice for almost 2 years now

This sounds very similar to the Manti te'o /Ronaiah Tuiasosopo incident in the news lately. Why don't you Google this and see how far it went and how many innocent people were hurt.

i've been practicing that voice for almost 2 years now
Can you get an emergency appointment with your therapist?

I wonder how you talk to her on the phone if you're pretending to be a guy.....

But anyway, yeah, nice job. Now you just messed up someone's life all to satisfy yourself.

What can you do? You have to be honest and tell this poor girl that you have some deep seated issues and have been lying to her with no thoughts about how this would affect her life. You have to be honest and tell her that you were only thinking about yourself in all of this.

Man, I just have no idea what makes people do things like this...no thought whatsoever to how anything will affect someone else.

And what should I tell my boyfriend?

And what should I tell my boyfriend?
The truth.

You tell him that you have been cheating on him with a girl.

Can you get an emergency appointment with your therapist?

I'm not sure. Its just a free service provided by my school

It's such a shame :(. You've hurt your boyfriend and the young lady.

im not sure. its just a free service provided by my school
If you explain it's an emergency, they will make room for you.

You tell him that you have been cheating on him with a girl.

But I have no idea how's he's going to react to that

but i have no idea hows he's gonna react to that
Now is not the time to figure that out. You owe him the truth.

Oh, I know how he will react. He will be angry and break up with you. He may even spread some rumors. However, for 2 years now you have been lying to him and cheating on him.

Oh, I know how he will react. He will be angry and break up with you. He may even spread some rumors. However, for 2 years now you have been lying to him and cheating on him.

Now, I know for sure I can never tell him

now, i know for sure i can never tell him
And you will be able to carry on with that big, fat lie sitting there nestled in between you? The proverbial elephant in the room?

And you will be able to carry on with that big, fat lie sitting there nestled in between you? the proverbial elephant in the room?

I'm hoping once I get rid of sean we will go back to how we were and I can forget all the people, lose all the feeling, and forget this ever happened

im hoping once i get rid of sean we will go back to how we were and I can forget all the people, lose all the feeling, and forget this ever happened
What if this girl says she will hurt herself or even commit suicide if "Sean" leaves her?

So you're a liar, you're a cheat, and you're not a nice person. Now you're planning on not telling your boyfriend because he could break up with you? So again you're only thinking about yourself. Have you learned nothing from all of this? It doesn't seem you have.

You deserve to have your boyfriend break up with you, you deserve to feel the same pain you will be inflicting on this girl once she finds out she fell in love with someone that doesn't even exist. You actually deserve a lot worse than anything that will likely happen to you if you tell the truth.

You did a horrible thing, the least you can do now is be honest about it with everyone, and face the consequences of your actions. You deserve whatever comes your way.

im hoping once i get rid of sean we will go back to how we were and I can forget all the people, lose all the feeling, and forget this ever happened
Take a few minutes to Google those names. It won't be that easy to just get rid of her. Suppose she tells people. It's not difficult for the police to get involved, especially if she commits suicide.

Take a few minutes to google those names. It won't be that easy to just get rid of her. Suppose she tells people. It's not difficult for the police to get involved, especially if she commits suicide.
After two years of this, she must have all sorts of contact information from you, that you can be tracked down.

Take a few minutes to google those names. It won't be that easy to just get rid of her. Suppose she tells people. It's not difficult for the police to get involved, especially if she commits suicide.

Exactly. This sort of thing is on TV all the time, people falling for someone online that is completely lying about who they are. If this girl ever sent money, or a gift, or something happens to her because of the OP's lies, her boyfriend breaking up with her will be the least of her worries. She could end up being arrested, and possibly going to jail.

If the OP decides not to tell the truth, it's just a matter of time before the truth comes out. Once it's online it's there forever. The Sean persona won't fade away, and I'm very sure the girl has every email or post ever sent to her from "Sean".

This is no longer about what the OP wants, it's about right and wrong, and hopefully she'll pay for what she's done in one way or another. Let's just hope that the innocent victims, the girl and the OP's boyfriend, aren't the ones that end up paying the ultimate price.

This OP makes me sick.

This isn't the first time the OP has done something like this. She was here years ago with a similar situation saying how she made a mistake that she won't ever do again... and how bad she felt:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/he-doesnt-love-me-anymore-370150.html

Then, for a deeper look, this might give a little more insight as well:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/want-problems-yes-said-want-them-372042.html


I think the OP seriously needs some sort of help that we can't give.

After two years of this, she must have all sorts of contact information from you, that you can be tracked down.

She's saving up to come see the OP this summer, and the OP is worried about it, so obviously this girl has her address, knows where she lives. Let's hope that she gets suspicious and calls the cops.

Tracking down Simone won't be hard at all.

What if this girl says she will hurt herself or even commit suicide if "Sean" leaves her?

I don't know. I don't know what I should do. That's why I'm here. I'm not sure if I should tell her the truth, not only out of fear of my secret being revealed and being rejected or hated but also fear of what she will do with her life after I'm gone and how it could possibly severely damage her emotionally. She trusted me with everything and told me things she never even told her closet friends and family members. I never intended for things to go this far but they did and I don't know how to get myself out of it. Simply telling everyone the truth isn't so simple

After two years of this, she must have all sorts of contact information from you, that you can be tracked down.

It's big news here in California where it took place. Very sad for the parties involved, especially the young woman whose picture was pulled from Facebook, unbeknownst to her, and was used as the fake woman in this case.

i dont know. i dont know what i should do. thats why im here. im not sure if i should tell her the truth, not only out of fear of my secret being revealed and being rejected or hated but also fear of what she will do with her life after im gone and how it could possibly severely damage her emotionally. she trusted me with everything and told me things she never even told her closet friends and family members. i never intended for things to go this far but they did and i dont know how to get myself out of it. simply telling everyone the truth isnt so simple
It's not going to be simple, especially if the police get involved.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/want-problems-yes-said-want-them-372042.html


I want something to be wrong with me. I like being damaged. I want to have a mental illness or for something bad to happen to me. Its exciting to me. I feel that I have problems now but I want more. I want to feel more pain and cry more. Not physical pain but emotional. I want to feel like the worst person on earth. I want self destruction. What's wrong with me?? I think I might just want attention but I always push people away.


Good catch Odinn.

Ladies and Gentlemen, I think we're being trolled. Hell, she's admitted she's a liar, she lies about everything, so why should this be any different? The above quote from one of her other threads really does say it all.

This girl/guy whatever, hell, who knows if it's female or male, so I'll go with it, waited way too long to get professional help. Either way, I don't believe a word that comes out of its mouth.

I do have to congratulate it, there is definitely something wrong with it, but I won't give it the attention it wants so badly.

If what it posted on this thread is true, it'll be getting a lot of attention very soon. The girls in prison love little liars like it. Don't drop the soap when you're in the community shower.

Bye now.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/am-crazy-her-283326.html

On November 20, 2008 her mom puts her on lockdown because of her grades.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/am-crazy-her-283326.html

On November 20, 2008 (same day) she suddenly has no mother, never knew her mother.

This person wouldn't know the truth if it hit her in the eye.

I skimmed through this thread interested at first but soon becoming bored with it... The OP seems to have nothing better to do but argue with us how she feels... I find there to be no point. I don't think she need any help I think she is just bored and came across an interesting topic and is now playing with us...
Are you in the process of writing a novel?

What kind of advice site has this become?? Peopole are wanting to go to jail and track me down! What did I do that's illegal? And yes those are my previous post from a LONG time ago. And I did get profession help but only for the quality of the relationship I had with my guardian. I call my guardian my mother because I have lived with her since I was 2 and a half months old and she never told me she wasn't my real mother until I was older. My BIRTH mother, I have not seen or had contact with since I was 10 years. But think what you want. You think I come here to lie and get attention? You have the right to your own opinions. But OBVIOUSLY this is no longer a site for advise/help anonymously so I no longer will be using it.

What kind of advice site has this become??? Peopole are wanting to go to jail and track me down! What did I do thats illegal?? And yes those are my previous post from a LONG time ago. And I did get profession help but only for the quality of the relationship i had with my gaurdian. I call my gaurdian my mother because I have lived with her since i was 2 and a half months old and she never told me she wasnt my real mother until i was older. My BIRTH mother, i have not seen or had contact with since i was 10 years. But think what you want. You think I come here to lie and get attention? You have the right to your own opinions. But OBVIOUSLY this is no longer a site for advise/help anonymously so i no longer will be using it.

You admitted to being a liar, you've admitted to wanting attention, we know for a fact that you are a liar, that you go on the internet and make up stories, that's what your entire thread is about! So why would we believe you, a self proclaimed liar?

Why should we believe what you're saying. It makes more sense that this is yet another of your lies, another of your fake profiles, another way for you to get attention.

We gave you advice, we told you to tell the truth. You don't want to do that. Well frankly, yes, you can end up in jail for this. This isn't the first time you've done this, and I doubt it will be the last. Obviously the help you got years ago, didn't work.

Lie, truth, whatever, you're in a lot of trouble, and there's really nothing we can do to help other than to tell you to come clean and never ever do this again. Whatever consequences there are to your actions, you'll have to deal with them, and hopefully learn from them.

But really, how can you expect us to believe a word that comes out of your mouth when you yourself have told us you do nothing but lie to people online. It takes up all of your time!

Mods, I think this thread should be shut down. The OP got advice, the only advice anyone can give her. Now it's up to someone else to deal with.

Frankly, I don't think she should be given a choice to continue on this site. She's a self proclaimed liar, she wants drama in her life, she wants attention (her words, not mine) and I don't think this site should give it to her. Let's not allow her to play us too.

Thread closed

Simone, you are a very cruel person. You are selfish beyond imagination.

You need professional help. More than you will get here.