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ilyxsam
Mar 23, 2013, 09:29 PM
Ive been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. And I swear, Im in love with
Him. To make the story short, yes I found out he cheated and he had the audacity
To lie to my face about it. He got caught up right when I started getting really nosy
And going through his things. Everyone always follows the saying "once a
cheated always a cheater" but I don't want to believe that. This is my first
Relationship and I feel like sometimes he's taking advantage of me. Im always
Buying him things and stuff like that. He doesn't have a job because he has felon
Charges. He's cheated on his girlfriends before and I took him back when I found
Out he cheated. The stupid girl was calling on the house phone and (I live
In his house with his mother). This was about several weeks ago. I found out
He cheated on me with his ex because I texted her and she told me everything.
But then my boyfriend called her up and told her "yeah I have a girlfriend sorry" and
I heard her over the phone and she was all like "omg youre going to do me just
like that?" and she hung up.

Well, like 2 weeks ago, she came to the house. But I didn't know about it because
I was at the store. I got a text from her saying, Hope you like the hickeys on
Your man's neck. And she told me that she had sex with him. I met him back
At the house and I looked at his neck. I started to cry and just stopped talking to
Him. He told me that she only came to the house to return a video game to him
And that when she hugged him she had bit his neck. I don't know if I believe this
Or not but his mother WAS home and I asked how long was his ex here for, and
She said she was only here for about 5 minutes. My boyfriend swore that
Nothing happened but its hard to believe a cheater. I feel so insure now about
The relationship cause I'm worried he's going to cheat on me again with his ex.

NOW... he recently got arrested and went to jail this week. After that whole
Situation with his ex, our relationship has been getting better. Now he's in jail
And he still calls me everyday and I visit him today on the weekend. I ask him
If he's going to cheat on me again or not, and he keeps telling me that he cut
Her off and that there's nothing between him and her. Should I believe him?
Well common sense, I know he can't cheat on me in jail, but he's suppose to
Be getting out in about 2 more weeks. Do you think his ex girlfriend was just
Trying to start some with me and my boyffriend? He keeps saying that
She's jealous that he's with me but I really don't know.

LouiseLouise
Mar 23, 2013, 10:31 PM
Wow this whole situation is seriously complicated. I have no idea how your ignoring the saying 'one a cheater always a cheater'. He cheated on you! He cheated on his ex! He will cheat again! And his ex is trying to cause drama between you two... This is bad, you need to get out of this relationship as soon as possible and find someone who is loyal and will treat you right.
He is in jail! - he clearly isn't a good person. It may not be easy but I suggest you move on

LittleBlackKat
Mar 25, 2013, 09:03 AM
You really need to look at your post and write down all the negative aspects this man has in his life. If they outweigh the good, then that should answer your question.

He is clearly not able (and capable) of staying in a steady relationship, and I haven't even touched upon the whole jail mess as well. Just leave him, get yourself out of this mess before you end up hurt.

All the best to you.

odinn7
Mar 25, 2013, 09:07 AM
What a mess... You need to gain some self respect and leave this loser. He doesn't work, he's in and out of jail, he cheats, you pay all the bills, he lies... Is he really worth it?

Don't you deep down hate yourself for putting up with this treatment when you know you could do better?