Hello everyone I posted a question on here quite a while back about my marriage and an affair I had been having. Since then my marriage has ended as has his and we have entered into a relationship. It hasn't been an easy road but we have ended up together because we love each other so much and we have made things work for us. However recently things between him and his ex have improved - they are talking for the sake of the children etc and I am just a little uneasy and worried that perhaps he is having second thoughts about us (in actual fact that would be third or fourth thoughts about us). We ended up starting our relationship pretty much as soon as our marriages ended however he did have second thoughts and left me to go back to his wife and children after a few months (which only lasted a few weeks) but I was completely heartbroken during that time. I have a very abusive relationship with my ex and we very rarely if ever speak to each other directly everything is done through third parties or lawyers.

I do want him to be able to speak to her freely and to be able to have as amicable a relationship as possible with her but I feel as though she is only doing this so that he may change his mind about their relationship. The other difficulty is that his ex-wife and my ex-husband have struck up this very strange relationship and I took the brunt of most of the abuse. I had constant messages on Facebook and twitter - mainly from her - some even got that bad there was mention of body bags etc (which I understandably found very upsetting). I just doubt that I can sweep my feelings for her aside when she treated me so horribly in public (yes I know I fell in love with her husband and treated her just as horribly).

I really want to forget all about the way he left me because ultimately at the end of the day he came back and we are in a relationship now. Should I just forget about the past and move forward?