How do I get my parents back together? Before they divorced my family was perfect. We did activities together, we were always loving each other and everyone around us.

Until one day I was sitting outside on my trampoline my dad came out and said I’m sorry but your mother and I are going to take a break. I screamed and ran as fast as I could. They didn’t find me for two days.

I’m 12 now. They got a signed divorce this year. Since that I’ve cut myself 4 times, took 11 melatonin’s, and I’ve made a cut in my stomach because I am so sad. My parents were the only things that keep me going and happy. I need them together. I really do. There has to be some way I can just convince them to get closer and love each other again.

I need ideas soon. I have no clue what I’ll do next.

Stella, sorry, extremely sad to knew your parents divorced. But that doesn't mean you should hurt yourself. Even if your parents are apart, they still love and care for you. Nobody will going to stop you or them from seeing each other or spending time together. I know your just 12 and this is very heavy for you but you have to understand one thing that no matter what happens they love you and you love them. You will always be their child. Hurting yourself will only create bigger troubles for you and your parents. They must be worried for you, just like you worry for them. Hence, you should do what you like, school, hobbies, friends, activities etc. Soon things will be more calm and peaceful. I would suggest to tell your parents what you feel and I'm sure they will understand you.
I would say you should focus on your dreams and studies. You should approach a counsellor. If you can do yoga or meditation, please do that. Don't worry, things will be better if you try. Take care. Best wishes.

This will not be the last disappointment in your life, and if you hurt yourself in order to punish and manipulate others, you will just spend your entire life in misery, because it doesn't work. You are NOT going to get your parents back together! This is like the 5 year old who holds his breath until he gets a cookie. It isn't going to happen. You need to deal with your sadness in therapy. Your parents need to arrange this. You also need to realize that your parents were not all happiness and roses and 'perfect' as you say, or they wouldn't have divorced. This is called facing reality. You are old enough to face it.

Your family was not perfect - if it had been perfect your parents wouldn't have divorced.

You need to do whatever it takes to find peace and, yes, I understand that cutting and physical pain take away some of the emotional pain.

What do you think would help? Counselling, talking to a responsible adult, something else?

If your parents don't want to be married to each other you cannot change that.

Tell both your parents what you have been doing with the cutting and pills, and let them help you.

Hey, Stella

I really hate to hear that you are troubled, but listen to me, just stop what you are doing for a second, step a side and pretend that you are watching yourself doing this cutting and pills.

How do you feel?
Still troubled?

You are isolating yourself ,Stella, you have to talk to some one and let them know how hurt you are. It will always hurts less when there is someone who stands by you and listens directly to your feelings. I know that there are people who care in your life, make sure you talk to someone that you know well.

All the bad things that you are doing to yourself, you might thing you deserve, but NO, you are a great person. All this pilling and cutting might make you feel less hurt now, but it will get worse as it lasts, and things will remain the same when you don't use your voice. Understand that you should go get help, from a relative, YOU just have to get help now, because you always deserve the best.