Hello,
I'm a girl at University and currently in a massive friend-zone pit. The guy in question is on my course, and is generally the easiest person to get along with and hang out with of anyone I've ever met. We've known each other since December, and the level of which we get along with is like someone you've known for years.

We started dating, but he wasn't ready for a relationship, so we stayed seeing each other, and then he said I was too much like a guy friend than a girlfriend, and so we've stayed friends. He said he doesn't see me in that way, and at the minute is very set about this.

Our friendship is to the extent whereby we'll sleep at each others places (just cuddling), he keeps a toothbrush at mine, we have plans to visit each others hometowns over the next break.

Normally, this would be a situation I'd walk away from, but the extent of how well we get along makes it quite difficult so I'm not liking the idea of giving up. He's been described as the boy version of me.

I've realised that I need to be seen as a girl, calm down and cool it a lot, and try to be easy-going about all this. I've started going to the gym, stopped talking about any relationship predicament, yesterday on a night out I got another guys number (sadly friendzone guy witnessed this by accident, kind of awkward, but probably won't hurt), and am generally trying to get on more hobbies and filling my time up as well as spending time with this guy as a friend.

I figure if I gain more confidence, put a bit more effort in to my appearance etc, I'll be as dateable as I can be, then either hopefully he will change how he feels (or at least see me as a girl), or I can ask him out on a date/test the water on maybe trying again.

My question is generally if anyone has any advice in this way. At the minute I don't feel it looks great for me, though at least if I get rejected again it will be at the fittest point physically and mentally I could possibly be, but I really want to give myself a fair shot. If someone has liked you before, could them liking you again be out of the question?

I say stop spending so much time with him. You can't make him like you as a "girl" He does not have those feelings towards you. Be his friend but stop the sleeping over, cuddling and all. Be a casual friend and date someone who wants a relationship with you.

Its simple really, stop trying to change his mind about you, and be more open to other things, and people. Friends don't cuddle, or blur the lines between friendship, and being a couple. When you stop trying to convince him what a great girlfriend you could be, you might start seeing him as a friend, and have a social life without him, and it won't be awkward that you talk to other guys when he is present at the same party.

Give his tooth brush back, and get yours from him, and stop those silly sleep overs. Know when to go home, and make him go home. I mean why set yourself up for another rejection from he same person? That's crazy since if he wants you he has to come get you now, and NOT as a friend. False hope, and fear that you can change his mind, or he will chose another when he is ready, is what keeps you in the friend zone that he defines, and you allow.

Stop all that nonsense. Take control of your own life, and stop following his. You are already trying, keep going.

So, you mean what's keeping me in the friend-zone is by allowing it to be like a half-relationship blurred lines thing? Or to simply tell him to go away for good?

You are already in the friend zone, you want more and he doesn't. But the lines are blurred. You are carrying on like gf/bf in your mind but not his. You can be friends but get out and enjoy yourself with other people. Cut out the sleepovers and cuddling. Friends don't do that.

So, you mean what's keeping me in the friend-zone is by allowing it to be like a half-relationship blurred lines thing? Or to simply tell him to go away for good?

"allowing it to be like a half-relationship blurred lines thing?"

Exactly, you are NOT ready for his friendship,on his terms. Stopmaking yourself available, and you have no need to tellhim why unless he specifically asked as my preferred action is to simply disappear.

No begging, no explaining. Just acceptance that he doesn't want what you do.

Honestly I don't believe in dating, I believe in friendship. Friends are for the life time. What you are doing is flirting. There is no friendship. These days everyone become friends on chat, internet,collages etc. and they think it's friendship. The guy doesn't seems to be interested or else he would have given some signal till now. Stop getting into confuse zone. Good luck.