Sorry, this might be long!

So me and my ex-boyfriend (Brian) have known each other since kindergarten and we started dating in grade 7 (12 years old). We had sweet innocent crushes on each other and held hands. Nothing more. I pretty much grew up with him. But ever since grade 7 he changed a lot! He started doing weed with his friends but I didn't care.

We got into High-school and he changed even more. Brain turned into a complete douche bag and that's when our relationship went downhill. By high-school we were complete opposites. He was such a bad boy and I was the sweet innocent girl. He started cheating on me and being rude to me. I was so blindly in love I always took him back when he apologized. He always said he would change and I would always believe it. But as always, he would always up and lie. We graduated high school and he ended up going to the same University as me because he wanted to be with me. I thought he would mature up and change, but it just got worse. I would walk into his dorm room to find him have sex with girls almost every week. I'm guessing he cheats on me because I'm a virgin that's saving it for marriage. He once went to jail for drinking and driving and I had to bail him out at 2am since his parents had enough of him. He said he would change, but the next day I walk in on him with another girl.

We graduated university when we were 22 and that's when I had enough of him. I found out he had sex with my BEST FRIEND! I broke up with him, telling him I'm never talking to him. I started dating a guy named Travis who was my childhood friend Kindergarten. He was the type of friend who would always be there for me after a hard breakup. We dated for two years (we're 24 now). He's such an amazing guy and treated me so amazingly well. But in those two years, I felt so empty without Brian. I've been such good friends with Brian before we dated and I was still completely in love with him even though he destroyed me.

Travis proposed and I said yes even though I still missed Brian.Then, the crazy part comes. On the day of our wedding right when we were in the middle of our vows, someone comes running into the church. It was Brian. He was out of breath and exhausted with tears running down his face. I was so shocked and speechless seeing him for the first time after two years on the day on my wedding! He blurted out "DON'T MARRY HIM!" He even went on his knees and begged me not to marry him. I thought my wedding was ruined until one of my bridesmaid (my new best friend) said Travis was cheating on me with the WEDDING PLANNER! Later, Travis did confirm that he cheated on me with the wedding planner. My parents kicked Brain out and cancelled the wedding

It's been a week since this happened and no one gave me any good advice on what to do? I still have feelings for Brian. He kept calling me and leaving messages saying he completely changed, but I don't know what to do? Everyone keeps telling me to do what my heart tells me to do. Sorry, but that's the stupidest advice ever. Please help? Should I go back to him? Sorry it was so long! Sorry, there was probably a lot of spelling errors.

Why was your wedding cancelled? You were in the middle of your vows. But if you are asking if you should go back to this clown who repeatedly cheated on you, you don't deserve the guy you were going to marry.
Are you seriously asking should you take this guy back? Why would you?

I saw this movie. The bride grows a brain and realizes that marrying a guy you're not in love with, won't help you forget the idiot you do love. In the end, she realizes that neither guy is the one for her.

So you want us to decide if you should take him back? You want complete strangers to decide your life?

Fine. No. Don't take either of them back. Move on.

I'm even finding this hard to believe - TWO guys from your childhood, one wayward, one stalwart, but both end up cheating on you right to the altar?
I suppose that saving sex until marriage might make it plausible... I don't know, I don't know.
What to do? Dump them both. Save yourself for someone you haven't met yet. If you really think your heart is with Brian, let him prove he won't cheat for a whole year. Bet he can't do it for two weeks.

I'm even finding this hard to believe - TWO guys from your childhood, one wayward, one stalwart, but both end up cheating on you right to the altar?
I read it as a synopsis for an upcoming romance novel. It even sounded a bit like The Graduate.

Mover on. Move to another city , even better, another state and get on with your life. It sounds like the men where you live now are nothing but liars and cheaters. Really,, put it behind you.

Is this real? It's not, is it?

Brian (or Brain as you referred to him numerous times) cheated on you all the time and you caught him in the act many times... but kept taking him back. He even cheated with your best friend. The wonderful guy you were going to marry turns out to be a cheater as well... but your new best friend didn't bother to tell you until Brain burst into the church while you were getting married. Both guys were friends from all the way back to kindergarten. Amazing stuff.

That's it, right? I've seen this in movies and have trouble believing it actually happens.

So what do you do... what do you do... hmmmm... hire a different script writer?


On the off chance that this is real, it's kind of silly that you would expect strangers to tell you how to run your life. Dump both of them, how's that?

Is this real? It's not, is it?

Brian (or Brain as you referred to him numerous times) cheated on you all the time and you caught him in the act many times...but kept taking him back. He even cheated with your best friend. The wonderful guy you were going to marry turns out to be a cheater as well....but your new best friend didn't bother to tell you until Brain burst into the church while you were getting married. Both guys were friends from all the way back to kindergarten. Amazing stuff.

That's it, right? I've seen this in movies and have trouble believing it actually happens.

So what do you do....what do you do.....hmmmm.....hire a different script writer?


On the off chance that this is real, it's kind of silly that you would expect strangers to tell you how to run your life. Dump both of them, how's that?

She can't hire a new script writer, this story has been told to death both in books and on the big screen.

Wait... Brain! Inspector Gadget!

Or Pinky and the Brain.

Now I'm lost again. :(

I misread, didn't realize the guy you were going to marry cheated too. This sounds like a movie. I don't think you loved Travis but if this is true sounds like you're dense enough to take Brian back. Go back so he can cheat again? You need to leave him alone and get over him, but don't do it with another guy, which is what you did with Travis.

This definitely must be a movie. Seriously, at what moment did the bridesmaid say, "Travis is having an affair with the wedding planner." Was that within seconds of the interruption by "Brain"? They both sound like losers! Maybe this should get moved to movies and Quinn can help name this movie!

This definitely must be a movie. Seriously, at what moment did the bridesmaid say, "Travis is having an affair with the wedding planner." Was that within seconds of the interruption by "Brain"? They both sound like losers! Maybe this should get moved to movies and Quinn can help name this movie!

This movie has been done to death. I could give you a few titles without moving it to the movie section.

My spidey senses are tingling on this one.

You make a good case for being single for the next 10 years.