I am thirty one years old, female. I have been sexually active for thirteen years. My problem is that every partner I have had, cannot obtain or maintain an erection. The first ten years or so I had thought erectile dysfunction or a handful of other medical or perhaps psychological conditions. However, after ten partners, none of which could become erect, I am now seeking answers to the question which none of them could or would answer for me. Is this common?

Will I ever find someone that can find me arousing? And how much body damage do men find acceptable? Is there an overall limit to things that can be wrong with the female body before a man simply cannot find you attractive? I am not grossly overweight, I'd like to add, as I assume that would be an issue. However, I do look like a burn victim. Will post pics if it will help me get answers. I am lonely and have lost a few great guys (as well as jerks, of course) over this.

Pictures are not necessary, but a brief general outline of how you choose these partners, and how fast you move into the realm of sex would help. What confuses me most is how you can be sexually active, yet all the men are dysfunctional?

What kind of sex life have you had?

If someone truly finds you attractive and wants to have a great physical relationship with you, it will happen without issues. Maybe these guys just thought you were "easy"... Please don't be offended but so many guys think that about women who are sexually adventurous. If they had a problem with the way you look, that is their problem not yours. This may sound a bit ridiculous, turn the lights down. I know it sounds awful but it will tall you a lot about the person you are with. I bet you are gorgeous and you just have not found the right one.

I use Walmart as a example, go there and you will see the fattest women or men ever, with partners, you will find the uglist with a mate who may be great looking.

Looks is often secondary.

Erection issues is actually common, if it was not, viagra would have been out of business years ago. Today's stress causes a lot.

It is all in finding the right person. I agree how are you finding them, and how long befoe sex