Any advise on this is going to help me. I just don't know what to do any more.

I am in a 4 year relationship. I love my boyfriend so much. We are really good together. About a month ago he got really depressed and shouted at me saying he wanted to leave me. I cried and ran out the house. An hour later I came back and he said it was a mistake and he hadn't meant it. I had forgiven him although now I don't completely trust him when he tells me he loves me or says I'm beautiful.

Since then we have had silly little arguments and have had stupid fights over the dumbest of things.

We have also have a really good time as we always have had.

He challenged my trust in the summer when he suspected me of cheating on him and he looked through my phone. There was nothing for him to find and he said sorry. Now 6 months later I have to deal with him saying he wants to leave me... only to take it back an hour later.

I thought I was over this but I am not. Every time we argue over something silly it pops back into my head.

Some times I think about breaking it off. And other times I am completely happy. I don't know what to do. Should I let it run out? I try talking to him but he is not easy to talk to and makes a joke over everything.

He also enjoys winding me up so I stress about nothing and he wonders why I argue with him.

I have also been thinking about being single again and am undecided by it. I am really confused because I love him, but I don't know if I want this any more.

And our bedroom time has really gone on a downward spiral and this is making my head ache to...

What do I do?

I have tried talking, but its not getting any easier. He is such a nice guy funny and caring but I don't know if its enough. But then I am torn because I do love him and care greatly for him??

Am I falling out of love with him?

Do you think you should live in a fantasy world and expect that you shouldn't ever have an argument? That doesn't seem realistic to me. I love my partner to death but that doesn't mean we see eye to eye on every little thing in our lives.

Only you can determine whether you are in love with your boyfriend or falling out of love with him. It is your decision to make. But you need to look at the whole picture because being single isn't the easiest either.

Good luck!

I noticed a red flag when you said...


I try talking to him but he is not easy to talk to and makes a joke over everything.

And...


I have tried talking, but its not getting any easier.


Why is it that he doesn't take you seriously or that you can't talk to him about things that are troubling you? It doesn't sound like the both of you have a very open and caring relationship. Communication is key in any relationship and if you can't communicate with one another and voice opinions over things that are bothering you then where's the relationship?

You need to decide whether you can deal with this the rest of your life.

Happened with me, I also gave my boyfriend second chance but later we were never together again. I think you have done good by forgiving him. He don't trust you or don't want to trust you. Just try to talk clearly and very important, don't give him third chance. If he doubt you or humiliate you, leave him. He might be waiting for the same.