Ok, I don't know what to feel. Me and My girlfriend broke up a week ago, Just to give a little background when I met her I left a good job and moved in with her and her dad, she was 18 at the time I was 25, I know it sounds like a big difference but she had a good head on her shoulders, she was a beauty queen and model so she had a lot of attention, the first 9 months I lived with her it was great couldn't keep our eyes off each other, we did things all the time, talking about marriage and so forth. It was my time to buy a home, I bought a home (this was going to be ours) got a roommate her cousin, she didn't move in because she was in school and had a part time job, she couldn't afford to help at the time, so it was easy for me to get a roommate, well not to long after that I went into a different job or industry, the market was horrible and I worked very hard and didn't make much money, struggling I became very frustrated and down and depressed over the next year, what I mean by that is after I got off work I wanted to go to my house and relax, instead of going over to her house, she felt I wasn't giving her enough attention, we bickered about not doing anything such as spending as much time together or doing things such as movies, etc, the thing is when I had the money we did it. Well the past two weeks I have really under a lot of stress with the job, not making anything, not knowing how to pay my bills, and still be a good boyfriend that wanted to make a life for us. So one night I told her I would stay with her, she calls me the next day and asks are you coming to stay, I had a stressed day, so I told her I don't know, she just hollers at me and says don't worry about I am in a bad mood and you would have a better time not being here, so I just went home. Later, I was around her neighborhood with my friend dropping a phone off that he left at my house, she call and wants me to feed the dog cause its too big, I say OK, she asks if I am going to stay, I said no because I would have to go all the way back home pack and then stay. She wouldn't acknowledge me, she ignored my phone call for a day, so I did the same thing back, so she shows up at my house mad, she just keep on me as far as why did you ignore me, we argued for a little while (oh I hate to argue) I told her just give me a day to relax, because I was so stressed out, not because I didn't love her or want to around her, well the day after I go to her house we cook and lay on the couch together,it was kind of awkward at first just because we haven't talked about the argument, I had to go to a bachelor party the next weekend, so I said lets just take the weekend to miss each other, I told her to go out with her friends and have a good time, well I miss her all weekend, we didn't call each other the whole weekend. I get back on Sunday, and text her no response before I go to bed, I text I love you. The next day on mon I text her and ask how her weekend was, wonderful she said, then she text that she did a lot of thinking and says that she think we fell apart a long time ago, and she doesn't see herself with me anymore. So that night I really put all my feelings on paper, I couldn't sleep I was torn up, at four in the morning I put the letter along with flowers and rose petals all over, the next morning I get no response! I text her and she says she got the letter and there was nothing more she could say, that it was over. I told her lets talk face to face, she didn't want to so I finally said I will call you when I get off work, she never said talk face to face, so while she was at work I go to her house, and fix up her room (picture this) pink and white balloons all over the floor red rose petals scattered all over the room and bed white rose petals all over the room and a white heart made of them on the bed, also red helium ballons all over the ceiling each post of the bed had a bouquet on them, with a dozen red white tipped roses in the middle of the heart on the bed. She finally gets home I ask her if we can talk in her room, she walks in and just says my name, so I pour my heart out to her and tell I am sorry for not giving you the attention you needed and etc, I had just been really stressed trying to make things better for both of us, she didn't respond to that other than "if this would have been two weeks ago things could have been different", 2 1/2 years we been together and I moved for her, the conversation we had in that romantic paradise of a room seemed so cold, I told her that I loved her and she had no response, I asked her not to give up no response, the only thing was, I you love me you will give me my time, don't call - text - or stop by. That's when I left her room, with tears in my eyes not knowing what to do. I want her back so badly, I don't know what direction to go. Any advice

Not to be mean but it sounds like its over. You did what you could do and you ex just doesn't seem to be interested. We all do crazy things for love - like move, but that's life. Maybe after a while she will be able to put this all behind her. You also need to realize that the problem was you were always stressed and didn't have enough time to devote to your relationship. Those problems don't go away overnight. Perhaps the best thing would be to get yourself established and back on you feet, then when you are ready you can move on and fall in love with someone new and perhaps with a more adult perspective on the problems you face living on your own. I know this is all hard to hear but that's my take on the situation.

Thanks, its just hard to quit thinking about what I could have done better, I beat myself up pretty hard. Knowing it wasn't all me.

The best thing to do right now, as hard is it is, is to just go on living your life.

That answer is used so much, but if I did it a week into my break up I would have probably gotten her back by now.. I know it sounds hard and unrealistic but you have to.

If you give her that respect she demands she will love you again. Just be the whipped little and say, "ok hun," and go on making money so that one day you can be her man again..

Nights will be hard, maby get some sleeping pills to knock you out, they helped me, obsess with work, get work or something else on your mind, anything but her..

Thanks, I am keeping myself in the gym making myself pretty, lol. I am kind of to the point where I am angry some, so I am taking my aggression out on the weights! I am going to make myself a hater maker, so to speak! Yes, thanks for the advice, it seems as if that is what everyone tells me, so that must be the right thing to do.

Peace