View Full Version : Girlfriend wants a break
weezyjay
Feb 25, 2013, 06:35 PM
My girlfriend broke up with me in a text by saying bye. Then told me I moved too slow and should have touched her like I wanted her. I called her and left a message saying I loved her and I needed her in my life. She texted me back and said we needed a break. I said if that was what she wanted then I would respect that. She told me that maybe in 3 weeks things will be different for us. That is when she comes home for spring break. I am left confused about whether we actually broke up. She posts on twitter about "letting go of the one you love is never easy" and how "it was a tough decision but i still love you". I don't know if she is saying we are done or not. Also our 8 month anniversary is in 2 days. Should I text her and wish her a happy annniversary or forget it?
Homegirl 50
Feb 25, 2013, 06:43 PM
I would not text her at all. She says she wants a break, give it to her. Don't sit waiting for her either. It is wrong for her to say she wants a break but maybe in 3 weeks she'll take you back.
You are no longer a couple. Don't wish her happy anything.
Oliver2011
Feb 26, 2013, 05:51 AM
Agreed. The worse thing for you is to remain in limbo. Don't text her and move on. Breaking up is difficult, we have all been there, and you will survive.
fredg
Feb 26, 2013, 08:22 AM
I think your relationship is over. I would leave the next move, if there is one, up to her. Meantime, I would meet some more people. Smile, be honest, and respectful, and you will meet someone else. Good luck.
Cat1864
Feb 26, 2013, 09:52 AM
So she is away at college? How often have you seen each other during the time she has been in school?
Long distance relationships are very difficult to keep up. It is even harder when one person starts questioning how the relationship is progressing and re-examining their expectations.
I think you need to take this as a break-up. Both of you live your separate lives while long distance is a factor. Maybe in the future things will work out, but I get the feeling her needs are greater than you can supply at this time.
After something like this your relationship will not be the same as it was. Better to let go and heal than to try to hold on to something that isn't there.
I highly suggest using No Contact as way to keep her confusion from feeding yours. Reading her Tweets is not helping you. No Contact means that you cut off all means of communicating with her and you do not accept contact from her. Ask mutual friends not to give you updates about her. Keep yourself busy so you don't think about contacting her. Give yourself permission to let her go.