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Meow_meow
Feb 24, 2013, 06:50 PM
I started dating my boyfriend when I was 13 and he was 16. The first year it felt so real, I loved him so much. But he started getting more controlling I dropped all of my friends and family and spent a year only focused on him. So finally I broke up with him, then six months later we got back together and everything was OK. He was nice again. And everything was OK. Now I am 16 and he is 19. In July I am legally allowed to move out. And he expects me to. I don't feel anything else for him. When I think about leaving him I know I won't make it, I don't have any friends because all I ever do is work and go to school, and I see him once a week. He is becoming more mean and his temper is getting worse. He is starting to make me feel bad about myself. I have told him that I do not want to move in with him. I don't think he understands. In the next month he is getting an apartment/house for us. I don't know what to do. I can't move in with him, I don't want to waste more of my youth on this relationship. But if I leave he will move on and be happy and I will be stuck alone and depressed. He has never abused me or called me a bad word but he makes me feel awful about myself. I don't know what to do, somebody please help me.

Wondergirl
Feb 24, 2013, 07:45 PM
I hereby give you permission to break up with him.

My money is on you. You are one smart lady and have a promising future!

Homegirl 50
Feb 24, 2013, 09:47 PM
So were you planning on quiting school?
The smartest thing for you to do is leave him, stay at home and finish school.
You don't stay with someone you don't want to be with for fear of being alone.

Diamond67
Feb 24, 2013, 10:51 PM
If you don't want to break up with him have a small chat with him about what he has been doing and how you're feeling but do it in like a café or over dinner so he can't shout or anything.if he keeps doing it break up with him over like a lunch

Alty
Feb 24, 2013, 11:08 PM
I'm confused. How is it legal for a 16 year old to move out on her own? Where do you live that this is allowed?

You are the only one that can make this decision. Read your post. You don't want to do this, so why are you even considering it? Just tell him no, break up with him, and find someone that will make you feel good about yourself.