There's this girl I always see at the store, she always smiles at me and asks me if I found everything OK, and she just keeps smiling at me and staring. Well 4 days ago I got into another lane and she was there, but at a different register and she saw me and was cheesing and grinning and she made a special effort to say hi to me, and then she went to the register I was at to mess around with some bags, and she kept looking at me, and she said bye still smiling.

I did see her today. When she saw me she put her head down and gave the customer her change, but when I went to her register she had this big azz smile on her face and motioned for me to get into her lane. She then put her closed sign up after I got into her lane. She asked me the usual and then kept smiling at me showing all her teeth. Then as the girl was going to walk with me, some other chic who was working at a register was like (to the girl I like) is that your natural hair color to turn her attention from me. This other girl she looks like a big man but she's a girl. The girl I like did turn and tell me bye and started smiling at me, and turned to start talking to the other girl. I don't know what do you think? Crush or just being friendly?

How should I handle this? My brother was like she wants/likes you, not that other chic. I was thinking maybe she wants me to ask her for her number. I don't know.

Dude this is so easy. Next time you buy something pay with cash, but have a little note with your bills. Just write "call me" on it and give her your digits when you pay for your items. If she calls she likes you, if she doesn't then she was just doing her job and keeping a customer happy. You'll only regret not making the move when you're older. You may want to give her your first name on the note as well, otherwise she won't know what to call you when she calls or who to ask for if someone else answers the call.

Good luck!

Now go get 'em killer!

Your user name indicates you are female, right? Otherwise you are using someone else's computer. Please clarify this.

Anyway, why wait for her to initiate? But then if you are female, this is a same sex situation and probably delicate. Is that why you are hesitating?

Don't be shy on here about stating the exact situation.

I have read your other questions and for a supposedly heterosexual female you seem almost obsessed with women having crushes on you.

If you are a lesbian and want to get to know this person better, ask them out. Worse they can say is, 'no'.

If you aren't interested in her for any reason, be polite but do not encourage anything more.

How would you handle a male who seemed interested in you, but you weren't interested in?

Asking total strangers online if someone likes you is just not productive. We can only go by what YOU say about all the little smiles and actions. And you make it sound like she likes you. How would we know more than you do?
You seem to have a tough time responding to people. Yes, it can be complicated, and yes, you can get burned. But if someone smiles and says hi, all you have to do is smile and say hi back ----- RIGHT? And if it goes to a next step, and a step after that, you keep pace ---- RIGHT? And then you make a nice gesture, without making the other person do all the work. That's how it goes...

I am a female also... if a woman made a special effort to do a complete 360 turn around while she was busy with customers just to say hi to you and give you the biggest cheesiest smile showing all 32 teeth, how would take that? Friendly aka doing her job, or she likes ME? Would you proceed to take it a step further ? I was in another lane when she did that, there were other customers behind me and she didn't say anything to anyone else... she did walk over to the lane I was in and she kept smiling at me and glancing here and there... NOW TODAY I seen her and she acted odd azz hell, she wouldn't look at me, but she did slightly glance at me and then she got up and went to the back for some strange reason and got some water . She acted as if she was embarrassed or nervous about something... that is something she's NEVER done before, she came back to her register and kept her head down and smiled slightly but wouldn't look up... when it was my turn she said hi softly but kept her head down... I do like her and I was going to give her my number, but I'm not going to give her my number in front of everyone, she seems like she has a crush on me and she's EXTREMELY shy about it... why else would she act that way? What should I do?

I was going to give her my number today but she was extremely busy and there were tons of folks behind me with attitude problems... so I just left... the bad thing is that my brother likes her also but I don't think she likes him the way she likes me. I know her first name only and that's because of her receipt. I don't think ill be able to find her on Facebook.. this is the first time Ive seen her in almost 3 weeks... so I don't know when I'm going to see her again... its so busy at the store I don't want to embarrass her... you see how she acted today...
A straight chic won't act that way over another chic... I think this girl is gay and wants me to approach her... but I want to get her alone and not do that in front of everyone, she's never on the floor though...


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I think you are thinking too much into her one day of being really smiley to you. I would not do anything and just let it play out. If she's interested, she will somehow let you know. If you give her positive signs that you would possibly be interested, then it will present itself. If she seems a little down, just kindly ask her if everything is all right. That can open someone up because it shows your are interested in her and maybe she needs someone to talk to. Just go about it slowly, Never rush a good thing.

She does this every time she sees me except today was very diff and odd.

I'm not pushing her away, if you acting all giddy towards me and I'm smiling right back at you... thats a hint I'm feeling you too. She's not acting that way for nothing...

I don't want to argue with you. You came for advice, I gave you some.

I don't know what her deal is but obviously something has changed, and you may have lost the opporunity to leave your number with her. Happens that way, just be cool and see what happens in the future.

You obviously are not just a straight chick as you have said in a previous post so may I ask what has gone on with you?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/should-watch-back-662777.html


I am a straight female and I had a friend of the same sex who developed some heavy feelings for me and wanted me to be her girlfriend/mommy her kids..

"would you proceed to take it a step further ?"

For someone who has been asking about different women hitting on you and you don't like it for over a year now, this is a very strange question. Maybe it's time to come to terms with what you want rather than asking us what they want. WHAT DO YOU WANT?