My son throws bad tantrums when he doesn't get his way. He's so sweet but when he gets upset he pulls his hair, he pulls my hair sometimes, he throws things in the floor. Even sometimes when he's not mad its just like he wants to be destructive on purpose no matter how many times he's told no. He screams loud and cry fits, and throws himself on the floor, will cry till you pick him up. He's so heartbroken, he grits his teeth and crunches his whole body kind of like you would be screaming in a pillow with all his might. His face turns red in the process.a low scream, angry. Is something wrong? Is this normal?

Again he's so precious kisses and hugs and smiling and laughing all the time till something out of nowhere goes wrong. What's wrong? I spank him once or smack his hand sometimes I put him in his crib, he cries louder. He smacks my hand back or cries harder sometimes I raise my voice in a fit. Am I doing something wrong? I hate giving him the strong discipline I feel like he just thinks I'm being mean to him. But I got to.

Your son is l7 months, or l7 years old? >edited to 17 months<

Either way, he needs to see a professional, or you do with him if he is only l7 months. He has serious problems you have to learn how to deal with.

A young child should not be like this; he sounds uncontrollable. Please see his pediatrician for advice.

You should not have to use abusive force to control your child.

We can't diagnose on the internet.

No, you don't have to treat him the way you are. You become a child too then. Remember, you are the adult and are to be in control of this situation.

Sing to him, talk to him constantly, read picture books to him, play clapping games, build block houses with him, spend time with him, play with him.

He is already learning how to push your buttons. Don't go down that road.

with all his night his gave turns red in the process

Huh?

Let's see - to quote you "I spank him once or smack his hand sometimes I put him in his crib, he cries louder. He smacks my hand back or cries harder sometimes I raise my voice in a fit. Am I doing something wrong? I hate giving him the strong discipline I feel like he just thinks I'm being mean to him. But I got to."

You hit/spank him on the bottom and/olr the hand and raise your voice "in a fit" to him - he responds by hitting and screaming and having tantrums.

He's learning his behavior from you.

You need to speak to a professional before you injure this child. If you can't control yourself and him now wait until he's older.

huh?
gave = face (note how close the keys are on your keyboard)