I met this girl online and we went on 2 dates over a span of 10 days. She doesn't have a vehicle so I had to meet her both times in her city, about 30 miles from me. We talked on the phone a number of times before we actually did go out. The first time we went for a few drinks, and just recently we went to dinner. We kept it pretty fun and it didn't appear to get awkward or stressful for neither of us. For drinks she paid a round and I paid around. For dinner, I insisted I pay since I invited her, even though she said she felt bad about it, and was weird like that.

The thing that make me wonder is that I can't tell if she is interested or not, as she is hard to read. Both times I asked if I can pick her up or drop her off (again, we spoke on the phone hours before so we seemed pretty comfortable) but she just mentioned she would get a taxi. Maybe she just doesn't want me to drive another 10 minutes out of the way to do that, I don't know. At the end of the dates we just hugged. There wasn't really any time or moment for anything more. Both times I initiated going out. I don't know if I should initiate again or just see if she reaches out. We don't really text too much, which I like, as I don't have too much time on hands when at work. And as far as talking on the phone after the first date we talk a little but try to keep it short. I guess what is different from this girl then others is that others text quite a bit and talk on the phone more, which may be part of the reason I can't get a good read on her.

She does have a lot of guy friends it seems, and one I believe from out of town stayed with her just before our first date and is coming again this week. Not sure if there is anything there.

But anyway, overall thoughts?

You can call and tell you you enjoyed the time with her and look forward to seeing her again when and if she is ready. She knows where you stand and the ball is now in her court.
Let her initiate the next conversation

she initiates random text chats. Doesn't really call

She has some interest if she texts you. You can still call her.

It normally results in that though. Me calling her.as sometimes texting does get annoying when its easier to talk.

Many women meeting a random person online would, and to be honest should not allow them to know exactly where they live. It also stops the "let me stay the night" issue many men do.

But for the first couple of dates, her meeting you, is exactly what is suppose to happen.

And after two dates and 10 days, she may not even be sure what she feels yet. Very early.

If she is still texting she likes you at least some

Texting, get over it, a lot of women love to text,

If you don' perhaps drop this girl and find another

Point taken on the picking up. I was reading other posts and sites and people said you should be a gentleman and do that.

What about initiating to do something? Do I let her ask me?

Call her and tell her you enjoyed your time with her and look forward to another date when and if she is interested. She will contact you if she is.
I don't like to text myself, a phone call would speak volumes.
Meeting you someplace is good, not having you take her home is good. She is being safe as she should be.

Yeah the night we went out she told me to text me when I got home. So when I did I just texted her that, and told her I had a great time and would love to do it again. Left it at that.

Has she contacted you since then?

Has she contacted you since then?

Yes, not a calll but just random texts.

Well she has not thrown you away, she's texxting. If there wasn't something there she would not be texting you. Ask her out again if you want. Or call her.

Well she had some guy friend from out of town over during the week for a few days so I didn't really text her much. Then on fri morning after the guy left I texted her to see if see what's up and we shot a few texts. Then I asked if she wanted to do something this weekend. Have not heard from her since.

Maybe you can tell more if you go out with her again.

Well the last we talked was me asking her to hang out. We have not spoken in days so clearly I get the vibe she is not interested. I don't want to contact her for awhile as I don't want to seem desperate, and I was the one who asked her out on the last 2 occasions.

Then go on about your business. She will contact you if she's interested

That's what I figured. I left her a message last. I was thinking about calling her today or tomorrow to see how her weekend went, but seeing how I made most of the effort by evening going out to her town to see her, I don't want to seem like THAT guy, as I tend do that, become the caterer.

Have not heard from her yet

You need enough time to tell.Best wishes.

Hm. So leave it be don't bother contacting? Or reach out and say hi. I have no heard a single thing since last fri

Leave it be.
She may not be interested, she may be busy, but I would let her contact you if she is.

tonight she texted me something random, about a TV show she was watching. I didn't reply, because I wasn't sure if that was one of those 'girls trying to see if the guy is interested' or just a random txt in general.

Stop over thinking. She texted you, you should have texted her back. It's like someone speaking to you and you not speaking back. She has not done anything to you, don't make assumptions. You know you could just tell her you like her and is wondering how she feels about you. You will know one way or the other. You guys are adults, not teens. Talk to her.

I responded basic messages also and she responded quickly. Then I asked how she was and then it was like delayed. Quite a bit. I didn't ask to hang or how she felt. Should I? Or just leave it be?

You seem to want to know where you stand with her, you should just ask her and be done with it. Tell her you like her and would like to see her again. Ask her if she thinks you two might have something. You have nothing to lose.

Do I bluntly come out and say I like her (it's only been 2 dates) or do I ask her to do something this weekend? She called this AM and I left her a text saying I was busy at work and would call later. I was thinking of calling her tonight and talking for a bit then telling her I had fun the last 2 times and wanted to go another date this weekend.

You can do that. Sounds good. She will either turn you down or she'll go.

One thing is sure that you really like her. She also like you otherwise she wouldn't have met you twice. Now you have to find out what is it she like about you, money, friendly approach or just because you have gone to see her 30 miles? Call her next time to your city, let's see.

What the hell. So last week I called her out of her flakiness out of the blue and she apologized and said we should hang. So I pick her up (The first 2 dates she met up with me) and we had a BLAST. She kept extending the date. I finally ended up kissing her a few times and then left to go home. She called me like 30 minutes home to make sure I got home safe.

The next 2 days she pretty much texts me all day. That 2nd night, Tues, she called out of the blue to do something, said I should go over there and we can order food but it was already 9PM. Me with work early I declined, and weirdly we were on the phone for 3 hours just talking about our past and making plans in the future to go do this, or go do that, etc. The whole time she said I should have just come over there. That's where I think I screwed up. We had some crazy talks about sex, and that's what she basically hinted at. Yah I know I am an idiot for not going over there, but when we went out she told me she dated s and been screwed so figure take things slow and I Just kissed her after 3 dates, that and I have work the next day so I am not going to sacrifice being tired given my role in the organization. I did make plans with her for Fri and then she said we should hang Thur night too and order in since I didn't tonight. OK cool.

So Wed she had plans with one of her guy friends who was visiting I believe (not sure he stayed over but I have the feeling he did), and before she met up with him we talked on the phone. After that I didn't hear from her. Thur morning I didn't hear from her as normal so I sent her a text. 5 hours later she responds, and then an hour later I get home and call her and left her a voicemail. Nothing. Finally responded to her text, still nothing, so I said screw it. Haven't heard from her.

So I am thinking she was like what the heck why did I not come over that night and something happened with this other guy so she is avoiding me. But this is what happened a few weeks ago. If she calls me tonight to hang I don't know if I should ignore it or do it. Don't want to see available. I'm dating 2 other girls but I am just not interested in them as her.

Just got a text apologizing that she is sick and that is why she didn't get back to me. I don't believe that garbage.

She is playing games with you. See's you when she is bored. Leave her alone.