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malibloom77
Feb 18, 2013, 06:18 PM
So how do I go about DATING because I'm definitely not use to it. I'm 22yrs old, about to graduate college, I've never been in a relationship, and I'm not much of a dater. The reason being is because the right guy hasn't come along and the guys I've talked to/dated before wanted nothing to do with me once they figured out I wouldn't sleep with them. I'm not one that wants a guy so bad that I'll degrade or low the standard I have for myself. So even still I don't get asked out much and people are always surprised when they ask if I have a boyfriend and I say no. BUT I met this guy last week, we hit it off pretty well and had a nice conversation. I gave him my number and a couple of days later he contacted me (call then texted) He set up to go out the next day and from my point of view it went pretty nicely. Although, it felt like it ended a bit awkward. Anyway, a couple of days later he called and we talked for awhile and yesterday he texted me and we texted all day. Now I'm wondering should I text or call to let him. I'm obviously interested but I don't want to be too forward, I'm really not one to constantly text/call someone I tend to be a little bad about that. Also there hasn't even been a second date so I'm not sure if I should wait until I hear from him or just take the initiative?

Wondergirl
Feb 18, 2013, 06:24 PM
Invite him to a short, easy thing -- "Hey, I've heard the coffee and donuts are terrific at Dunkin' Donuts on Oak Street. Wanna meet there tomorrow after class?" or "Want to do supper at McDonald's tomorrow?"

ArmstrongMiller
Feb 19, 2013, 12:27 AM
To be yourself. And you will be brave. Best wishes.

joypulv
Feb 19, 2013, 03:30 AM
You gave him your number, a move. He called you and you went out, a move. He called and texted again. Sure, why not call him now? He might be wondering if you aren't really interested in him. You can say something such as 'I had a good time the other day and think about it often; want to meet again?'

Being forward and saying something positive and appreciative are two very different things. Once you have gone out and done a fair amount of talking, it's not forward to take steps forward.