View Full Version : How to keep my girlfriend happy so that she stays with me?
jodie321
Feb 16, 2013, 09:02 AM
Its like she doesn't want to be with me she won't even kiss me.
Curlyben
Feb 16, 2013, 09:09 AM
Sorry to say, but it sounds like your time is up with this relationship.
Have you actually tried talking to her ?
jodie321
Feb 16, 2013, 09:13 AM
Should I put my hands around her waist and kiss her?
JudyKayTee
Feb 16, 2013, 09:28 AM
How old are you? It sounds like the relationship is over - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/personal-growth/how-am-meant-keep-girlfriend-happy-so-she-stays-me-734489.html#post3398051
talaniman
Feb 16, 2013, 09:36 AM
Start with talking to her before you make moves. There is a reason she doesn't want to even kiss you so ask her what it is.
jodie321
Feb 16, 2013, 10:18 AM
What am I meant to say?
JudyKayTee
Feb 16, 2013, 10:22 AM
Would you please answer my question - how old are you?
jodie321
Feb 16, 2013, 10:24 AM
17
odinn7
Feb 16, 2013, 10:24 AM
Yeah, answer the question. Age makes a difference in how this will be answered.
Edit- Too late!
How old is she?
Have you tried talking to her?
The first thing that comes to mind... does she actually know that she is your girlfriend? You may think I'm making fun of you but that is not the case... does she know or does she just think you are friends only?
If she knows, then it really sounds like she isn't ready for this or maybe isn't ready for you.
JudyKayTee
Feb 16, 2013, 10:27 AM
I'm a female (last time I checked). The kiss usually doesn't just happen. Something leads up to it, hand holding, hugging, something...
I wouldn't pounce on her, hands around her waist. One of my best kisses was someone who said to me, "I find the first kiss to be awkward so why don't I kiss you now and get it over with." We laughed and laughed - but I kissed him and, by the way, I married him.
And, yes, we were adults.
And if your concern is how to keep her from leaving you I would work on the relationship before I worked on the kissing aspect. She's your girlfriend but you've never kissed her? Is this in the US?
jodie321
Feb 16, 2013, 10:32 AM
She's 17
And no I don't know what to say and yeah she knows she's my girlfriend,she asked me out!
And well then what do I do!
odinn7
Feb 16, 2013, 10:33 AM
Your first step is talking to her and seeing what she has to say.
fredg
Feb 16, 2013, 10:36 AM
If she doesn't want to kiss you, it really doesn't matter old how you are, whether 17 or 71, like me. It's time to move on, find someone who really likes you.
But first, a good relationship must have a willingness to talk about anything. Have you talked with her about it? Ask her why she won't kiss you? Good luck.
jodie321
Feb 16, 2013, 10:39 AM
Wow! So is that what I should do? And wouldn't the first kiss help the relationship? Maybe she would stay with me? And yeah I've never known how to,I'm to shy and don't know how to make the first move! And no
Fredg-will do,thank you!
odinn7
Feb 16, 2013, 10:51 AM
Yeah, thank god Fredg came along and told you to talk to her... whew! Without him, you wouldn't have known that.
Almost everyone else told you earlier to talk to her... did you miss that? Now suddenly you had a life changing revelation?
jodie321
Feb 16, 2013, 10:57 AM
And I've also been asking what I'm meant to say but none of you answered! Look mate if you ent going to help get lost!
JudyKayTee
Feb 16, 2013, 11:04 AM
Oh, Jodie - I'd suggest you read the rules of AMHD.
You are way out of line. I suggest you stop giving advice until you can understand the advice you've been given.
And it's good that someone comes along and sums up what everyone else has said - repeatedly.
jodie321
Feb 16, 2013, 11:08 AM
That made sense?
And ha okay.
odinn7
Feb 16, 2013, 11:14 AM
And I've also been asking what I'm meant to say but none of you answered! Look mate if you ent going to help get lost!
What you're meant to say? You talk to her about why she won't kiss you or what's wrong... you needed us to tell you that? Come on now. You are going out with her, right? You don't know what to say to her if something is bothering you? Do you need a script written for you? It's not as hard as you are making it out to be.
JudyKayTee
Feb 16, 2013, 11:27 AM
I would think if the question is to what to say before you kiss someone you would say: "I'd like to kiss you." Seems rather simple to me.
Of course, if the relationship is rolling downhill rapidly, I'd ask about that first.
I'd also ask how you and she are bf/gf and have never kissed - ?
talaniman
Feb 16, 2013, 03:24 PM
How many times have you been out together and does a few dates make her your girlfriend? As Judy says you have to talk to her for a while and have fun, anything will do, school, friends, favorite places.
Am I wrong for thinking because she asked you out then you get right to the physical stuff like kissing? Have you even talked of going on a real date, or being a couple, or did you assume that's what asking you out meant.
No girl likes to be kissed by a guy who doesn't talk to her guy, or have good clean fun. That's why everybody tells you to talk to her, as you would a friend. You need a written script for that? I highly suggest you forget the kissing until you learn to talk to a person.