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yesman1234
Feb 11, 2013, 04:06 PM
Okay, me and this girl been dating for 5 months we started dating September 19th we had sex unprotected are whole relationship she said she got her period September 28th so we had sex plenty of time after that then one day she lied and toll me she was on birth control so I cumed in her so she told me she really wasn't on the pill so the next day she took the plan be pill I made sure she took it so I'm thinking there's no chances of her getting pregnant and like 3 weeks later she tolled me she haven't had her period but then I heard the pill delay your period so on thanksgiving day last year she took a test and she was pregnant I seen it but I denied it like she use to party almost every weekend but I never had proof that she cheated I just assumed it I mean. If it is mines I want to be in the child's life but its just on my mind like not knowing if its mean for sure. I mean yea I believe its mines in some way but I'll be damn if I take care of a kid that's not mines even if I love her. She turned four months last Friday the dr's told her but I will be getting a dna test for sure because she mexican and I'm black when it comes out it should be clear. I need some answers and advice, I can't sleep. I would like it to be mines and I do want to be with her. And YES SHE SAYS IM THE FATHER!

lileeob
Feb 11, 2013, 04:30 PM
If you wouldn't stick around even if it wasn't yours, don't stay with her because she deserves someone who will raise a kid that isn't his own. (it takes real man)
There are tests to figure it out, if its yours... good luck

And in my own opinion she should not even be having a baby if she doesn't know who the father is...

ScottGem
Feb 11, 2013, 05:40 PM
You will have to wait until the child is born and then have a DNA test.

Fr_Chuck
Feb 11, 2013, 06:59 PM
Let me see, you have sex with her knowing she sleeps with other guys, and do not use protection. ( pregnancy is the least of your worries)

Plan B is not 100 percent effective

Even if she was on birth control pills, they are not 100 percent effective either, so even with protection, pregnancy can happen.

You speak of her as Mexican as if that is a bad thing ? And that DNA tests work better if you are not the same race ( I should be laughing that is so stupid but I guess you are serious and believe that) We all have the same type of DNA and the match for father is no better or worst because of race.

But a DNA test after the child is born. If the child is yours, make your child support payments properly

yesman1234
Feb 11, 2013, 08:34 PM
I never said she slept with other guys.

Alty
Feb 11, 2013, 08:44 PM
You're retard, and you obviously didn't understand what i was trying to say. So i was actually laughing at your stupid remark. I never said she cheated you jerk.

Do not use that sort of language on this site, or you will be forced to leave. We are respectful educated people, and we will not tolerate this sort of behavior.

If she didn't cheat than there's no question of who the father is. You didn't say she cheated, not word for word, but you implied it, otherwise why get a DNA test? Why worry that the child isn't yours? That's pretty much a "duh" moment.

Bottom line, the only way to determine paternity is with a DNA test. There is no other way to tell you if you're the father or not. So you wait until the baby is born, get a DNA test. I would suggest that you figure out this relationship before the baby is born. If you love her, you have to trust her. If she says it's yours, and you doubt her, than you have no relationship, even if the baby turns out to be yours.

Good luck.

yesman1234
Feb 11, 2013, 08:53 PM
I'm sorry, and I appreciate everyone who commented. It's a lot of negative thoughts on my mind.

Alty
Feb 11, 2013, 09:02 PM
I'm sorry, and i appreciate everyone who commented. It's a lot of negative thoughts on my mind.

I understand that. I can't even imagine how you feel, only because I'm female, and I've never had a question of who the father of my children is. It's not a worry for me, because I know. My husband also never had that concern.

Sadly, this is not something you can solve any other way than a DNA test. Dates don't help, periods don't even help, since many women bleed throughout pregnancy and mistake it for a period. Dates given from ultrasounds can be off by as much as 2 weeks either way, which adds up to a month. The fact that she took plan B, also makes it even harder to even give an educated guess. The plan B is not 100%, and it can cause bleeding, even if the woman is in fact pregnant.

In other words, your only option is to wait until baby is born and get a DNA test.

I think the bigger issue is really your relationship. You obviously don't trust her. You think she's cheating. So, you have to figure out, how much do you love her? Do you love her enough to trust her? Do you believe her when she says this baby is yours? If you stay with her throughout this pregnancy, and the birth, get a DNA test and find out she lied, that the baby isn't yours, what impact will that have on your relationship with her, and a baby you thought was yours for 9 months?

Can you raise another mans child because you love the mother, or is that not an option? Will this doubt you have ruin a relationship that already seems to be on rocky ground?

You both have to figure out where this is going, and you have to figure it out soon. There is another person involved now, and that person is the most innocent of all. It doesn't deserve to be put in the middle of all of this.

J_9
Feb 11, 2013, 11:45 PM
mexican and I'm black when it comes out it should be clear. That is a very common myth. You won't know until you have a DNA test done.

IF she was cheating on you, how do you know it wasn't with another black man? Also, do you know her genealogy? Colors can come out generations later. So, if her great grandmother was dark skinned, there is a possibility this baby could be dark skinned even if she were with a white man.

Oh, and by the way... It's MINE not MINES. And it's OUR not ARE.

So, schedule that DNA test after the baby is born and be prepared to pay child support.

yesman1234
Feb 12, 2013, 02:19 AM
Because we were the only black family in the town in Idaho.

ScottGem
Feb 12, 2013, 04:15 AM
Because we was the only black family in the town in Idaho.

And you know for a fact she never left town?

The point here is the only reason to think you are not the father is if you think she was having sex with someone else. So, you cleared implied that she might be cheating by asking the question.

You cannot tell conclusively from the color of the newborn's skin, genetics can be very funny that way. Only a DNA test will conclusively determine paternity and you will have to wait until the child is born to have one done.

And, if you can't keep it civil then you will not be allowed to participate.

J_9
Feb 12, 2013, 05:30 AM
Because we were the only black family in the town in Idaho. I think you mean "we WERE the only black family..."

But in the end, you either take a DNA test to determine paternity or you accept it as hour own. The choice is yours.



Oh, and no, I didn't capitalize IF wrong. I did that for emphasis.

Alty
Feb 12, 2013, 03:23 PM
You did it for emphasis. Saying "IF" isn't exactly important or helping.This post is fatuous, have a nice day.

Your post is silly, you're right.

We gave you the only advice anyone can give you, and that's to get a DNA test. Did you expect us to tell you if you're the father? We don't have that kind of power, no one does, not without a DNA test, which we can't do for you.

This is up to you. Either deny the child, wait for a DNA test when she takes you to court for child support, pay to get one done when the baby is born, or accept the child and trust your girlfriend. Those are your options.

J_9
Feb 12, 2013, 03:25 PM
This guy is a tool. Hopefully he isn't the father of this child.

Synnen
Feb 12, 2013, 03:30 PM
You know what I hope?

I hope that BOTH of these immature children choose adoption for the child.

Alty
Feb 12, 2013, 03:31 PM
You know what I hope?

I hope that BOTH of these immature children choose adoption for the child.

That's the best advice on this thread!

yesman1234
Feb 12, 2013, 04:40 PM
Okay, who say's "I hope that both of these immature children choose adoption for the child." or '' Hopefully he isn't the father of this child.'' That's even more childish. I'm sorry but this is hilarious.

Alty
Feb 12, 2013, 04:52 PM
Then someone delete my post of me correcting J_9. Who does that?

The moderators of this site do that, to keep this site civil. There are children on this site, some as young as 9 years of age, yet you post the kind of dreck you posted above this post (which will be removed) and you wonder why people don't think you should have a child? Do you have no common sense, or common decency?

It's obvious that you don't care about children, you have no self respect, or respect for anyone else, and frankly, no, I don't think you should reproduce, not until you become better educated, and more civil. Frankly, you shouldn't even be on the internet with your attitude and foul language.

Shame on you.

Good bye. I'm reporting your post, and you'll likely be banned from this site.

All you had to do was follow the rules and be a decent human being. Instead you chose to be a jerk. I hope it was worth it.