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rvbernier
Feb 9, 2013, 04:16 PM
So I'm just here to let out all my feelings.
So there was this guy I liked, and he would say nice things to me and I totally fell for him. I talked to him and asked him to see a movie with me once, but he said he was going out of town.
Anyway, after we stopped having a class together, I would talk to him during a passing period between classes. I'm really shy, and I felt really uncomfortable in that hallway because I was right in the middle of this group of people (his freinds) where I felt like the Black sheep. I've felt like that before, and usually bad things would happen when I stick out, so I would get nervous and stop talking and just kind of stand there. His friends intimidated me, so that's why I wouldn't talk. Turns out I was making him feel uncomfortable. I guess he told his friends, so they started making fun of me on twitter, taking pictures of me and calling me awkward and creepy. I decided to confront him about it, but he kind of ignored me in the hall until he was done talking to his friends.
So while I was waiting for him to turn around to talk to me, his friends were shouting across the hall "Look out!" "she's right behind you!" "run for it!"
It was the most embarrassing moment of my life. I wanted to run and hide, but I just stood there and took it while I waited.
Finally his friends left for class and I was able to talk to him. I asked him to tell his friends to stop making fun of me, and then I said that if I made him uncomfortable that he should just say so. He said I make him a little uncomfortable, so I said I would back off. Then I held in my emotions until Lunch, where I told my best friend and then burst into tears. At the time it was because of the embarrassment and hurt I was feeling, though there was a little heartbreak.
Later that night he texted me apologizing for being rude in the hallway and that I was a good person, and he explained why I made him uncomfortable, which I totally understood looking back on it.
Anyway, the embarrassment has mostly subsided, leaving me feeling hurt and heartbroken. I knew he was a nice guy from the start, but I guess I misinterpreted him being nice for something else.
I know I will get over him eventually, I just hope that we can still be friends. He's such a nice guy, and he makes me smile, which not many people can do.
So yeah, that's my vent, not a question, just a vent from a heartbroken soul.
I guess I need a question though,
So, do you think that if I explain to him about how I felt like a black sheep, that we can still be friends? I'll give him his space first of course, and I'll let him approach me first if he wants to. If not, well, I'll try and explain it to him when his friends aren't around.

Wondergirl
Feb 9, 2013, 04:29 PM
Stop apologizing to everyone and to yourself. You are as good as anyone in his crowd, as good as any one of his friends.

If his friends point at you and tease him, then wave your arms in the air, make ghostly noises and banshee shrieks, and pretend you are a zombie coming at them. Make a joke of anything they say and turn it back on them. Tell them to stop taking themselves so seriously and trying to control the world. They want you to be uncomfortable and they are trying to intimidate you. Don't let them. You are as good as and even better than they are. Actually, THEY are the ones (not you) making him uncomfortable.

Homegirl 50
Feb 9, 2013, 04:40 PM
I would not explain anything to him. His friends are creeps. Don't let them upset you. If he is decent and wants to talk to you, he will.

JARIXA
Feb 10, 2013, 02:19 PM
Ignore those pretards. And don't let them get to you cause they are big jerks. By reading this I can tell you have a low self esteem and you shouldn't. If he is a nice guy he will come around and tell his friends to stop being rude. If he isn't I hope you will mend but life goes on!! :):p

talaniman
Feb 10, 2013, 09:57 PM
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/like-him-he-may-like-me-what-do-do-723172.html

Same guy?

Homegirl 50
Feb 10, 2013, 11:09 PM
This is the same guy. She has posted several questions, I think she is looking for a different response