I am married for the second time with a five year younger guy. I have 2 kids in my first marriage. He loves me a lot. He himself wanted me and assured me that we all will live together. He is taking care of me and kids from past 4 yrs. Now I am 31 years.

We have a very open sex relationship. We both enjoy a lot. My concern is we used to enjoy talking dirty at the time of sex. Sometimes about other ladies. Sometimes about the ladies who we know. I will also tempt him in that because he will be so 'on ‘when we do that. And I enjoy that.

Recently my sis in law came to us. We were just having sex in room. She was in another room. We were just spicing up. He started talking about her. I said if he wants to f***her I am OK. Because I don’t want him to sacrifice his feelings etc. I really love him. But things changed as we proceeded. Normally we talk like this and we leave it once everything is over. But this time he was in a very tempting state he asked me to call her to our room. He wanted to do her in front of me. I thought... ok. I went out and came back I said she is sleeping there. We will have fun. Then he said can he go and ask her. I was like... I said you go if you really want to. I love you. He went and he approached her, he touched her breast, and kissed her.

She said she is OK but not now. She kissed him back. He asked for a while and she did not agree as I was there. She came back and told me. It was like heart breaking. But I did not respond. In the evening he told me he is sorry for what ever happened and he said I should have stopped him for that. I felt very badly. I could not explain. I said if he wants her he can. He said he wants me and doesn't want to hurt me. He said sorry to her. She said OK, but now when we start love making I feel like he is not much. He is loving me and caring, but when I speak about her in sex, he is performing good.

It is hurting me. Please suggest what to do. I don’t know what is there in his mind. He said that everything is over. He wants me only, but... Please suggest.

The only way to know what's on his mind is to ask him. You gave him permission to have sex with other women - or at least that's what I'm reading.

Now you've changed your mind - ? I think it's more a question of what's on your mind than what's on his.

Tell him.

The only way to know what's on his mind is to ask him. You gave him permission to have sex with other women - or at least that's what I'm reading.

Now you've changed your mind - ? I think it's more a question of what's on your mind than what's on his.

Tell him.
Thanks for your reply. Any other ans please

In my culture it is not acceptable for a man to sleep with his wife's sister. Is it common in your culture?

The games you played got carried away and a simple NO when he proposed to have your sister would have saved you much hurt, and anguish, but you egged it further. You both share the blame for bad behavior and now you must get beyond that and return to your fun knowing when to stop the game and deal with the reality of good behavior.

I mean it was plain stupid to even include your sisters name in your dirty talking fantasy sex game when she was in the house period. Forgive each other, and get over it with a simple lesson learned. Or find a better game to play that's understood to be exclusively between YOURSELVES and no outsiders especially your own sister as that's disgusting quite frankly.