I need advice on how to help my friend who is I suppose you would say is a cultural Muslim man from Turkey. We are not having an affair as many people around us think, we are just purely friends. He is only 26 and met an English woman who was on holiday in Turkey and they started a relationship. She would fly out to Turkey as they do to see her Turkish lover, they even spent a few months living together with his parents over in Turkey when she proposed they should get married in Turkey, so they could then come to live in England so they could get to spend more time together. As he didn't really want to leave Turkey they discussed the issue of living half the year in UK and half the year in Turkey, which she fully agreed to. What he didn't know at the time, but I have pieced together, is she was 4 months pregnant when they got married in Turkey. He thinks she didn't find out into very late into her pregnancy that she was even pregnant. This was the 1st lie of the trap. He is very naïve and she keeps pulling the wool over his eyes because of that. When after a few months of marriage and returning to the UK, she announced she was pregnant and told him it was because it takes 3-4 months for the Pill to get into a woman system and they obviously weren't careful enough hence why she has now discovered she is virtually ready to give birth. After their son was born she refused to allow him to be circumcised stating that isn't was we do in England as he now lives here he needs to start conforming to English ways. She then goes on later to deny and refuse to ever go back to live in Turkey stating that she is English and all her friends and family are here so why would she want to live in Turkey? So a very long story short, she has trapped him here now in this country, isolated from his family and friends and culture. He is surrounded by her and her very overbearing and racist family. He feels like he is slowing dying. Because of his cultural upbringing he is trying his best to be the husband he thinks he should be, but if you know anything about low class English woman, she is just taking advantage of this. She refuses to clean the house, cook proper meals and tells him she will not be a Turkish slave wife. He will not leave her because he will not leave his children solely in the house to be brought up by her and says that being a part-time Dad is not his cultural way. Which I am so proud of him on one hand but frustrated with him on the other. Please help me give him the support he needs to get through this period of his life. I try to be a sounding board for him as he will not tell anyone or his family about his terrible life here. But I am not Muslim and so don't know how to help him spiritually with this life he is trapped in. Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Thank You

Much of this info is unimportant - what is your question? I don't see this a matter of religion. It appears to be a rocky, bad relationship.

He has basically three choices - stay, go, stay and get counseling for one or both of them.

I realize you are his friend but you cannot make anyone do anything they don't want to do. If he chooses to live "this way," then that's his choice. The most you can do is listen to him and be his friend.