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Foreverpain
Feb 4, 2013, 02:00 PM
I still love my ex boyfriend... Can't see or imagine any other man but him... We are friends now with almost a daily contact... Sometimes I feel he still loves me and other times he's completely vague... I asked him before (what's our relation status)... He said ''we broke up but I don't know whether I need you as a friend or get you back... When I feel I need you back as my girlfriend will tell you ''... What shall I do?! I'm dying of that pain... I deal with him as if he were my best friend but I DO love him and need him to feel that :( help please

joypulv
Feb 4, 2013, 03:36 PM
You get over it the way MILLIONS of us get over it - you get away from him!
He isn't being very thoughtful, telling you he'll let you know if he wants more than just friends.
So you have to force yourself to have nothing to do with him.

Wondergirl
Feb 4, 2013, 03:43 PM
You cannot make him feel a certain way, but you can write in good English and not text. (I cleaned up your post so others could read it.) It doesn't sound like he wants you as a girlfriend. He doesn't care about your pain. Move on and leave him alone.

Jiser
Feb 4, 2013, 04:38 PM
I am kind of going through this at the moment and have done with others in the past.

As long as you stick around he knows he has you. Time to get real and realize he's confused and has low interest level. Walk away and go either low contact or no contact.

Either way time to start concentrating on you, your life and having fun.

Foreverpain
Feb 4, 2013, 05:27 PM
Yesss I know well that I should go away and leave him BUT all his words tell that he still needs me... His words and actions aren't those between any Just friends!! That's why I still have hope ! How to get sure of that without asking him again??

joypulv
Feb 4, 2013, 05:48 PM
I have a saying for men like him: He wants his cake and his cupcake too.
He doesn't 'need' you! He likes keeping you around while he looks elsewhere. When he finds someone; he'll dump you.
Show some INTEGRITY no matter how much it hurts.
This hurts, right?