Hi, I’m in need of some advice urgently!!

I have been with my partner 3 years now and the last few months he has told me he has a thing for wanting a gay guy to give him head. That’s all he mentioned when we first spoke. Then he got in contact with his gay friend and we organized to go. My partner wanted me involved so I tried. The whole time I had to ask him to please me but he was only interested in his friend, he was only supposed to get a head job but then he f***ed the gay guy, gave him a hand job and gave him head.

My partner never wanted to touch me, did not want to look at me. When his mate touched him, he got hard but he would be soft when I touched him. I received nothing from my partner... totally ignored even begging him to please me. He was full on attention and full on into this guy and we come home and he tells me that the guy is better than me and he wants it as a regular thing and wants just him, his gay mate and another guy. What the heck DO I DO?

I love him with all my heart and he will not talk to me now. How do I win him back?

I also forgot to mention that he got f***ed by his gay mate and really enjoyed it.
I give my partner everything from a headjob everyday to doesn't even take a bin out. Why is the gay guy better then me??

TMI, TMI!
How do you win him back? You don't. Don't be a fool for love. Pack your bags, or his.

Your partner is either gay or bi, and it seems he prefers men better. So you don't win him back, he has made his choice, let him go and have it

Why do you WANT him back?

He doesn't want you, honey... he's gay and just won't admit it. He's using you as his front.

You need to cut bait and leave this guy.

Clearly the guy is gay and used the 3 some as a way to get with his "friend". I wouldn't doubt that he was already doing this.

So give up. He's gay, he wants his friend, and doesn't want you. There's nothing you can do about it and it's not your fault.

I'd be too busy getting tested for STDs to worry about getting him "back."

At any rate, far too much information.

And, yes, why do you want hm "back"? I would say the same thing if he had sex with another woman in front of your eyes and totally ignored you.

Move on.

May I suggest instead of winning him back, face the fact that he is a gay/bi guy who prefers guys. Now that you know this, act accordingly in your own best interest. I am having trouble why love made you agree to this threesome in the first place. That was the first red flag you seem to have ignored, the second is the way it went, and the third that he wants to exclude you from his pleasure with the gay guy.

THREE RED FLAGS!! He should be out!!

I feel as if it is my fault because I tried to make him happier and this has happened.
Hellz yeah its time to move on. Im not going to be no cover up!! Thanks for the advice, and I kind of figured he is just in denial about his sexuality. No communication with us so this silly little girl is up and out of here. Shuld I be there as a friend to support him and help him to terms with it or do I just give up totally.

Disappear, make the cut clean for yourself.