We haven't been going out long but it felt like its gotten so boring so quickly and everything is a routine. She hasn't changed one bit, when I first met her I thought she was beautiful and I felt so lucky to even be next to her, then she became my girlfriend and Im quite scared of commitment. And then after a couple of months realisation kicked in and I realised I was someone's other half and I had committed to being hers. I got used to it, but then everything became a routine. We'd do the same thing every week. And it got so boring, I don't feel attracted to her anymore... And it's affecting my sleep by the amount of questions I ask myself at night. Like contemplating on ending everything we have. We go to the same college and have the same friends, I don't want things to be awkward either.

Another thing is when I look at other girls I feel sexually attracted to them, but when it comes to my girlfriend I don't feel like that. And I feel so guilty, I know she doesn't deserve this. But I feel like I can't carry on like this. We rushed into things so quickly. And I feel so bad. I really need other people's advice?

I understand how you feel.
Don't get to nerves. Let her know your true feelings even if it's so hard, give it a try she deserves the truth.
If you still want her, ask her to go somewhere else, have a private chat. If you really care about her give her a change
I'll Give you a tip: take it slow, what's the relationship level are you on, bring the level down a bit and don't get attracted to anyone else just her cause you know deep down you do care about her even if you don't feel in the outside of your heart.
Good luck.

Be yourself. And calm done. Everything will be OK.

It's hard and I really don't know what to say.. I don't even know what to write in here to be honest. I don't want commitment and we rushed things too much.. I'm going to do it tomorrow but I have no idea what to say to her. I need a little bit of advice. Do I do it town, mine, hers? Do I give her stuff back? I don't know the type of things to say? It's really affecting my sleep at the moment and I'd really appreciate some help.

Note: Bad thing is, she was my friend. And we have the same friends. I don't want things to be awkward between us.

Honesty is always the best way to go about it... yea its going to be awkward for a good bit... u better be prepared for that part.. cause yoyr most likely still going to see her around a lot... there is no comforting words to give you in this kind of situation... maybe alcohol? But also THAT might be a bad idea... just be honest man... she ain't going to stab you... I hope... hope this helps at least alil bit.

But do NOT do this over the phone or text... they feel cheap and disrespected like that.

But do NOT do this over the phone or text...they feel cheap and disrespected like that. okay well I'm off to meet her now in town now.. I think she kind of knows why. I feel so bad. I've never done this before. They always broke up with me

okay well I'm off to meet her now in town now.. I think she kinda knows why. I feel so bad. I've never done this before. They always broke up with mebest of luck

Good luck, it is never easy

Not really a question but I feel like I should say some blah blah... I feel really bad. I started a little cry like a couple of tears but when I did that she like broke down and we were in town. I feel so bad.. I kind of feel like it was a mistake and I still like her lots. I feel like in the future like a couple of months we can start again and have a proper relationship. Is that normal? And is it the right thing to do if I still like her? I'm not going to even flirt with other girls now I'm single. I don't want to hurt her feelings. And advice or reply on this question will help me a lot. Thank you.

Ive not long broke up with my girlfriend. And I only feel like eating fruit. ONLY fruit. Is that normal?

Everybody is different.

Everybody is different. thank you.. I don't feel like even eating like a snack or something else. It's like a massive crave

It's your way of coping.
How old are you and how long was she your girlfriend?

After my dad died 2 years ago, I ate only spaghetti for about 6 weeks. I have no idea why (to this day) and I wasn't really even aware of it when I was there alone in the house we had lived in together.

I suspect that for each of us it's a comfort food...

Everything is confusing

That is understandable. How old are you and why did you break up?

That is understandable. How old are you and why did you break up?

(He asked about how to break up 3 days ago, and he broke up with her yesterday, because the relationship was too routine and he is attracted to other girls. I think he's pretty young.)

I see. Thanks

Sorry.. I feel embarrassed about my age to be honest. I'm 17... And she is 18

Basicially: being a teenager is IMPOSSIBLY tough.
Tell us how she reacted? If she cried, of course you feel confused.

Why did you break up with her and what made the relationship improper?

I don't get the part about you being in town. Don't get why you broke up with her if you want a relationship with her later. Can you write again and be more clear about why you broke up, and why you're upset about it?

I did it in town because I didn't want her to cry but she still did.

Because we didn't do this 'will you be my girlfriend' sort of stuff and it just went into a relationship. Then after a couple of months it was like I realised I was someone's boyfriend an I didn't like that. I feel like I'm afraid of commitment and I felt this relationship going no where. So I just had to do it

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Break ups suck. Whether you get dumped, or dump someone. While we all cope with our pain in different ways it still hurts. Maybe it's the first time you have dumped someone, I don't know, but I do know that its only temporary, and will get better as time heals your heart.

Things get more normal if you stay busy with family, friends, and activities you enjoy. Read the stickies here (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/)and see how others have coped with the heart break of a break up. You are not alone.

Well, break ups are hard and being rejected can really hurt a person's feelings. That said, it's worse to continue dating someone you don't see a future with because expecations increase for a future as a relationship continues longer, so the breakup only hurts more.

It's right to break up if that's how you feel.

At the same time, know that if you don't want a commitment or relationship with a girl, you should keep that in mind in what you ask of them. For example, kissing and other physical intimacy is very emotional for a girl and most see it as a guy being interested in a relationship with them. If it's not what you want, you need to be honest before you put the moves on her.

Basicially: being a teenager is IMPOSSIBLY tough.
Tell us how she reacted? If she cried, of course you feel confused.

Yeah I had a little year which made her cry loads and I felt so bad