Hi and thanks for looking at my question.

So let me start by saying I love her so so much and we have been together for nearly 5 years, and have an 11 month old baby girl and one on the way.

We are a happy family, and was thinking of asking her the big will you marry me! BUT our sex life bothers me so so much. She never comes on to me and when we do its not really at its best.

I have a very big sex drive and it seems she hasn't. I'll never cheat on her but my sex drive is going mad. Ahhhh!! What am I going to do? Not sure I can live with masturbating to porn for the rest of my days. It makes me feel bad too
Any help?

Couples counseling?

Talk to her and see what can be done and speak honestly, calmly, and gently. Never marry someone you can't talk to, and resolve things. I can't imagine you have been together 5 years and never brought the subject up.

You are married ( sorta) just don't have a piece of paper. You live with her, have one kid, one on the way. You will not cheat on her.

So now, after 5 years, the difference is sex drive bothers you when you talk marriage.

Do you have a issue with commitment