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Toni135
Jan 29, 2013, 03:06 PM
I've been with my boyfriend 3 years. 18 months ago we broke up because I found he was texting someone else from work.. so I decided to go travelling - I came back for him early and moved in with him as he promised this would never happen again and he only wanted me. After 5 months of living together I found another text (same girl).. Moved out but still saw him.. And he begged for me back again. I then moved back after 3 months thinking he learned his lesson but found out he slept with this girl he worked with n she said they were in a relationship (she got in touch with me online) He swore it was only once which I don't really believe but I decided to try and get over it n forgive him. It's been 3 months since I found out but I still think about it everyday.. Is that normal? Is this just going to happen again? I don't ever bring it up which is maybe worse but he doesn't like to talk about it.. I'm doubting everything now and I'm not sure what to do. I know ultimately it is my decision but I'd quite like other opinions..

marq123
Jan 30, 2013, 02:51 AM
Know what you are worth and never settle for less!

Oliver2011
Jan 30, 2013, 05:55 AM
People have behavior patterns and he has shown you his pattern. He doesn't put much value in the relationship or in you as a person. What you need to weigh is the following: Is he remorseful because he cheated or because he got caught.

This is your decision but I would be hard pressed to stay with someone who consistently made poor choices that involves being unfaithful.