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UGesedIt
Jan 27, 2013, 01:00 AM
I live in Virginia. My son lives with me and visits his mom over the weekends. When he comes home, he always has some form of injury whether it be bruises, burns, scrapes, lumps. He always has some story for how he got hurt, but his mother has a history of dating abusive men. She divorced her husband because he pulled a gun on her and my son. She got an EPO against him; however, she has broken it several times by bringing him around. In our mediation agreement he is not to be around our son at all, yet she still lets him come to her house because she has 2 kids by him.

Also, we have agreed in mediation that our son is not to be exposed to any inappropriate material such as violence, sex, and blood and gore in movies or on TV. She has flat out refused to follow this agreement. My son is 8 and knew all about sex at age 5 because of her ex-husband talking to him about it and because of her allowing him to watch whatever he wants on TV. I also found out that he used the cell phone she gave him to look up porn at age 8. He does not have a bed time at her house. Every weekend she has him around all of her friends, who drink excessively and who smoke weed. I do not have proof that he was around people smoking weed other than the fact that the person he claims was smoking does have a charge for poss. Of marijuana.

The final thing is how he comes home crying that his mom said hateful things to him. He says she has threatened to end his life before and that she never wants to see him at her house again. Granted, after the fact he gets over it but I still feel no parent should say this to their children.

Are these reasons enough to ask for supervised visitation... the fact that she tends to bring abusive men around our son, that she does not have any sort of filter on what is appropriate for his age, and that I know for a fact she hangs around people with a record?

Fr_Chuck
Jan 27, 2013, 02:06 AM
It is enough to ask, if it will be approved depends on how much of this you can prove, what evidence of all of this can you put on paper with witness other than you.

At 8 the judge may question him on how he gets hurt, what will he say ?

At age 8, some boys start looking up porn on internet, and he is as likely to do that at your house as hers.

At age 8, the courts most likely will not care about violent games or movies, ( sorry but don't expect a moral christian court)

ScottGem
Jan 27, 2013, 06:31 AM
I agree you have reasonable grounds to go to court and request supervised visitation. Whether you get it or not, will depend on how much proof you have (medical records, psych eval, etc.). You cannot go to court just on your word about things.