My friend is trying starve herself to death because her sisters call her a diseased cow. And an ugly fat... Everyone calls her a whore. But she looks anorexic and she is really pretty. Me and my friend are stalling her so now she is eating again but very little cause her sisters eat her food. The question is whether she is going to start again... she is really stressing me.

Are her parents aware of what's going on? If she has an eating disorder, there's very little that you can do to help. She needs professional help, therapy. As a friend, there's nothing you can do. Let her parents know your concern.

How old she is ?

If a child or teen, tell her parents, tell a teacher, tell someone tell everyone, till someone gets her professional help

Her parents are aware and have no concern what so ever

She is only 12

she is only 12

Are you also 12?

Sweetie, the bottom line is this. You're a child. I know it sucks, but as a child, there's really nothing you can do. She's a minor, and any help she's going to receive, will have to be her parents choice.

You can support her, you can care about her, but there's really absolutely nothing you can do to get her professional help, which, if it's as bad as you say, is what she needs more than anything.

Don't let this stress you out. This isn't your responsibility. Concentrate on yourself. The only thing you can do for her is be there if she needs you. Okay?

I know I just hate seeing people I care about so miserable :(

I know I just hate seeing people I care about so miserable :(

It never gets easier kiddo. Even as an adult, if someone you love is determined to hurt themselves, there's very little you can do. You can offer to help, and hope they accept that help. You can pay for therapy, and hope that it works. But ultimately, it's up to them.

Sometimes you just have to accept that you can't help, that all you can do is be there, listen, comfort, be a friend, and hope that they figure out that they need help.

It's admirable to care, it's admirable to be a friend, but, if you get upset about every person in your life that's miserable, you'll end up making yourself miserable.

I can't help my sensitivity

And ultimately, there may be times when you are older that you are just unable to help someone that really wants to hurt themselves... and this can affect you if you let it. You have to do what you can and after that, let it go.

When I was in HS, I had a friend that hung himself. It affected me for a while until I realized that it was beyond my control.

... but your right so nothing I can do there but hope

Freilos :) :p

freilos :) :p

And that's how you should try to live your life, especially at 12. Freilos. :)

So stop worrying about your friend. Be there for her, but realize that ultimately, whatever she does, is her choice, and nothing you do can change the choices she makes for herself. She has to want to help herself before anyone else can help her.

Shouldn't you be getting to bed? I know I should. It's midnight here, and I have a long day tomorrow, so I'll be signing off now. I suggest you do the same. Get some rest, and then tomorrow start working on your project. If you need help, I'm more than happy to help, but, you'll have to do the work, and getting a good nights sleep is important, so you can be in top form tomorrow. :)

Good night kiddo. Try not to worry too much. Plenty of time to worry when you're an adult. ;)

Shouldn't you be getting to bed? I know I should. It's midnight here, and I have a long day tomorrow, so I'll be signing off now. I suggest you do the same. Get some rest, and then tomorrow start working on your project. If you need help, I'm more than happy to help, but, you'll have to do the work, and getting a good nights sleep is important, so you can be in top form tomorrow. :)

Good night kiddo. Try not to worry too much. Plenty of time to worry when you're an adult. ;)

Its 2:17 here and I can't sleep to many bad dreams:(