I'm 23 and my girlfriend is 19 we met two years ago on a beach. We hooked up that weekend and we then fell in love and dated ever since. Even though we are quite different we still have the same morals and beliefs. She's very proper and wants to be a police officer and I used to be a drug abuser and party animal I would work to party but after I met her I started to get back on a right track

I work full time and I come from a large low income family and had to work for everything I ever wanted where she is a only child her mom and dad pay for her room and board for her at school and pay for her vehicle she is kind of spoilled but she doesn't act it she really is a good girl she's smart and kind

She hates my friends she says they are weird or are bad influences she gets mad when I smoke the odd joint she says how it's a big deal to her because her job and I realize that but she gets so mad at me for everything that doesn't matter and she forgets about all the other good things I have done and when she gets mad at me she calls me names and it makes me want to end it. Then she gets on my nerves and asks me stupid questions and annoys me so much I feel like hitting her but when it gets to that I just try to leave and she won't let me most the time. I used to love her really much I stopped using drugs because of her I cut out a lot of people to be with her and I never ever once cheated on her and I had many chances to but I couldn't because every part of me wanted to be with her the problem is now when we argue I get sooo mad like I get super vexxed and I want to hit her and it scares the crap out of me. I want to I brake up but I'm not sure I'm so confused

You should get some anger management therapy. Even if you break up with her, your tendency to want to hit could someday hurt someone.

"I stopped using drugs because of her" - regardless of how your relationship turns out it will be a good idea and goal not to go back to using drugs. I hope you see it that way.

"I never ever once cheated on her and I had many chances to" - you don't get a reward for this as it is expected that once you are in a relationship you don't cheat.

You are getting enraged (to quote you) over the little stuff in a relationship. It is probably to the point where you need to ask yourself is she and the relationship worth all the drama? If it is then you two need to figure out how to communicate without the drama. Who would want all that drama in their lives?

There comes a stage in most relationships when what you did 'for someone' and what you gave up 'for someone' become little rusty spots of resentment. You gave up drugs, old friends, and partying, not really 'for her' but for yourself. She didn't hold a gun to your head. You did it willingly, for love. So please try your best to drop the sacrifice mentality and take responsibility for your actions.

You admit that you got back on some good path, so be glad for that, and at 23, I would be very glad if I were you that you worked on getting some direction in your life. There's nothing sadder than an aging party animal.

But since you only say you 'used to love her' I would say it's time to let go, and call it a good 2 years; that you are too different from each other. What's wrong with that? I don't see a future here. Be friends if she will agree, and move on. What you each expect from the other isn't going to happen.

What gets me is that you say you gave up drugs but then you say this: "he gets mad when I smoke the odd joint "... you can't have it both ways. Either you gave them up or you didn't.

On top of that, I bet your friends are a bad influence if they still enjoy the lifestyle that you once did.