I have been with a guy for a long time ups and downs and everything but we are now married and have a kid also we live together let me remind you I'm 19 and he's 22 what I don't get is he won't have sex with me when I come to him and want it really bad... he says his head hurts or his back hurts or just anything... I actually talk to him and he says we just don't need to have sex all the time I Don't believe that answer it can't be cheating because he's here 24 7 at the moment, so I need someone who has been likethis before I need to know was up

Just to clarify are you saying he isn't interested all the time, or only when you approach him about it?

One theory is that SOMETIMES men see women who have their children differently before the kid and after the kid. After his child is born, the woman becomes less of a sex object and more of a "mother of my child" figure (less of a turn on)... just a theory I have seen floating around.
SO, the questions is: Was this change soon after you had his child?

I have a similar problem. Take a look at "Our sex life is a disaster". Seee if its any help to you
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