Hi there, So my girlfriend that I've been seeing recently broke up with me. I've only seen her for a month and a couple weeks but I felt very attracted to her, she was like no other girl I’ve met. She is amazing everybody knows her in my town and people told me to hold on to her because she's a real catch but I already knew that.

We get on very well but today she said that between juggling her work and seeing her friends and family she just doesn’t have enough time she said. I’d see her once or twice a week but I always had an amazing time with her. I could have been with her for 12 hours in a day and it felt like half an hour, so I’m confused that she said she doesn't have the time and she said if she was offered a job tomorrow in Canada or something she would just get up and leave in an instant. She also has problems with saying affectionate things like she can’t really compliment people and takes compliments awkward herself.

I then asked her if I asked her out again down the line would she ever go out with me again. She said I don't know as I can’t even see as far as next week but she said I’m not sure. I just feel really heartbroken about the situation as she was the best girl I’ve ever been in a relationship with and the best in general. In my town where 90% of the girls are shallow she was a diamond amongst the rough if you will. I just don’t know what to do with myself but I still really do want to ask her out again. What do you guys think?


P.S, I would just like to say to anybody who read this and replied its greatly appreciated thanks

Aww, things like this really stink don't it? As far as I can tell... you two aren't meant to be together, at least not right now. She already has her priorities set, her career and her success. If she really says that she doesn't have the time, just trust that some people feel that more time needs to be devoted into a relationship when some people are just fine with 2 days a week. If this is what she feels, then you'll just have to trust that.

If all the girls in your area are so shallow.. either wait for yourself to be able enough to move, allow yourself the time and patience it's going to find in order to find amazing people. If everyone were so incredible, none of us would be. But we will all find our special someone's that are meant just for us, and most of us have to go through a lot of trial and error to find them. Maybe that's the case for her, but you can definitely find someone else, just have patience. There are more wonderful things to do in your youth than dating dating dating.

Thanks for your advice I understand what you mean its just hard at the minute my hearts really set on her or so it seems I can't stop thinking about her at all, I felt like texting her today asking to talk but I know if I did I would probably say to her that we never even gave the realsonship a chance in the 1st place, it just annoys me severely as there's no one in my town like her she's extremely special to find here and all I want is her back again but I don't know what to say or do to try and make it work any advice?

She has made her decision and you are going to have to deal with it. Unfortunately if this girl decides she doesn't want to be with you there's nothing you can do about that. You do control how you react to her decision. Keeping in contact with her will not allow you to move forward. Stay active, go out with friends, go for a run, go to the gym, do anything to keep your mind active so you don't concentrate on this issues. All of us have gone through this in the past and all of us have survived. You will too.

I understand what your saying but my best friends girlfriend who he lives with is my girlfriends best friend so it makes it hard not to talk to each other when I will presumbley see a lot of her in times to come the promblem lies in I have no were else to go I don't have any other friends at all, so my life revolved around her and now that she's left so has my intrests social events that I done with her, the only thing that annoys me is that when she broke up with me yestardy she was still going out to a nightclub that night with her friends which makes me think it might have not have been such a bug deal for her, I'm just still severely depressed iv'e never felt as bad in my life even cut my arm today that's how terrible I felt I know it sounds stupid but at the time its how I felt, any advice is appreciated

"i don't have any other friends at all, so my life revolved around her" Well now you have learned an important life lesson. Regardless of what relationship you are in, you still need a life. I am madly in love with my partner but we still kept the stuff we do without each other. For me it is tennis, racquetball, jai alai (Latin sport), and golf. For him (yes I am gay) it is surfing. That keeps the relationship healthy.

"even cut my arm today thats how terrible i felt i know it sounds stupid" - You are selling yourself short because not only is it stupid it is very very very stupid. Seriously - what is the point. You are going to allow a person that you have no control over control how you feel, your emotions, your actions, etc? Does that make any sense? You control those things. Yes breakups hurt, but never allow anyone to control your feelings and how you feel.

"i don't have any other friends at all, so my life revolved around her" Well now you have learned an important life lesson. Regardless of what relationship you are in, you still need a life. I am madly in love with my partner but we still kept the stuff we do without each other. For me it is tennis, racquetball, jai alai (Latin sport), and golf. For him (yes I am gay) it is surfing. That keeps the relationship healthy.

"even cut my arm today thats how terrible i felt i know it sounds stupid" - You are selling yourself short because not only is it stupid it is very very very stupid. Seriously - what is the point. You are going to allow a person that you have no control over control how you feel, your emotions, your actions, etc? Does that make any sense? You control those things. Yes breakups hurt, but never allow anyone to control your feelings and how you feel.

First of all I would just like to say thanks for replying and taking the time out of your day too its greatly appreciated, I feel I a tiny bit better but its only cause I'm with my friend at the minute I hate my own company which sucks cause before I was like that anyway so this has made me hate my company more but I think I shall seek professional help for that, iv'e decided that even though it hurts a great deal I want to talk to her again in the next few days just to be friends I know for most people that's not a good idea but I couldn't lose her altoghter because she is very special and not like a lot of other girls in general so id feel bad not being her friend and in my eyes it takes a man to be friends with his ex, I know it will be difficult and I will explain this to her but she really still wants to be friends to and I enjoy her company a great deal so would it not be stupid to throw that away?

first of all i would just like to say thanks for replying and taking the time out of your day too its greatly appreciated, i feel i a tiny bit better but its only cause im with my friend at the minute i hate my own company which sucks cause before i was like that anyways so this has made me hate my company more but i think i shall seek professional help for that, iv'e decided that even though it hurts a great deal i want to talk to her again in the next few days just to be friends i know for most people thats not a good idea but i couldnt lose her altoghter because she is very special and not like alot of other girls in general so id feel bad not being her friend and in my eyes it takes a man to be friends with his ex, i know it will be difficult and i will explain this to her but she really still wants to be friends to and i enjoy her company a great deal so would it not be stupid to throw that away?

Not a good choice at all but it is your choice to make. You will be hanging on and when she tells you again that she doesn't want a relationship you will feel worse and worse. But again it is your choice to make.

"i feel i a tiny bit better but its only cause im with my friend" - nobody said you have to feel good after a breakup and you are using what works. Go out with friends and have a good time. Do something else that you enjoy. Go for a run and appreciate the little things in life.

"i hate my own company" - what is that about? That needs to be fixed because you will always be with you. The few times I get time by myself I love. Seriously man you have some things YOU need to fix about you before you can be a great boyfriend or husband. Get those things fixed and your relationships will be better.

And you are very welcome. I wish you the best.

It would be stupid to be friends with her if you allow it to serve as a constant reminder of all the good times you shared as a couple. You might even find it harder to be your own person and comfortable being single if you are constantly involved in her life. Be true to yourself and if you think that you can separate your attraction to her and the friendship you want with her then give it a try. However, air with a side of caution if you decide to proceed with the friendship. If you really can't help but have feelings for her or hold out some false hope that she will want you again, even though you're "just friends", then it's unhealthy to torture yourself like that. Make a clean break so you can find someone who is equally attracted to you and wants a committed relationship. You won't gain satisfaction if you pine for someone who doesn't give you the same love in return. Sorry to say this buddy, but if she wanted you, she would do everything in her power to stay with you, not turn the other way!

Not a good choice at all but it is your choice to make. You will be hanging on and when she tells you again that she doesn't want a relationship you will feel worse and worse. But again it is your choice to make.

"i feel i a tiny bit better but its only cause im with my friend" - nobody said you have to feel good after a breakup and you are using what works. Go out with friends and have a good time. Do something else that you enjoy. Go for a run and appreciate the little things in life.

"i hate my own company" - what is that about? That needs to be fixed because you will always be with you. The few times I get time by myself I love. Seriously man you have some things YOU need to fix about you before you can be a great boyfriend or husband. Get those things fixed and your relationships will be better.

And you are very welcome. I wish you the best.



Thanks again I really appreciate your advice, I understand what your saying but I think I will try to be friends with her which I have never done with any of my previous ex's, but because I really only have one solid friend she would always be there to, too see my friensds girlfriend who he lives with so I just don't want things to be awkward, and I do really enjoy her company I great deal and her like wise from what iv'e heard I'd love to just feel OK again and at least be civilised around her, but also don't want to live on too much hope that I will get back with her in the future for definte, but I still more than likely will ask her again wheather it goes well or not is a different question but I will have nothing to lose at that point anyway I guess, but have any of you guys ever been able to successfully friends with any of your ex's?

Break ups suck and we never understand them while we go through it. But we all learn to build a life that we enjoy without the exes, and be happy with family, friends, and fun activities.

Maybe these stickies here (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/) will show you how others move on,heal,and find happiness in themselves and the life the rebuild.

Thanks again i really appreciate your advice, i understand what your saying but i think i will try to be friends with her which i have never done with any of my previous ex's, but because i really only have one solid friend she would always be there to, too see my friensds gf who he lives with so i just dont want things to be awkward, and i do really enjoy her company i great deal and her like wise from what iv'e heard i'd love to just feel ok again and at least be civilised around her, but also dont want to live on to much hope that i will get back with her in the future for definte, but i still more than likely will ask her again wheather it goes well or not is a different question but i will have nothing to lose at that point anyways i guess, but have any of you guys ever been able to succesfully friends with any of your ex's?

"but have any of you guys ever been able to succesfully friends with any of your ex's?" Yes. I have an ex wife and an ex boyfriend that I am friends with.

HOWEVER - you have some things to fix in your life first. If those things were fixed then maybe you could make it work. If you choose not to fix those things then I don't see it working at all. How are you going to react and feel when you see her holding another guy's hand or kissing another guy? Do yourself a favor and get fixed first.

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"but have any of you guys ever been able to succesfully friends with any of your ex's?"

After years of doing my our thing and healing from the both of us. After a break up... NEVER, just to many raw emotions and unresolved feelings to enjoy being with an ex as a friend. Seeing them move on before you can hurts like hell.

Yeah I agree with Talaniman. It is very difficult to be true friends with an ex and even if you move on to be with someone else, you will find yourself thinking from time to time, what would have happened if I stayed? Where would I be now? Only under rare and extremely mature circumstances is it possible to be friends with an ex. It largely depends on the reasons you broke up and how strongly you felt about that person.

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"but have any of you guys ever been able to successfully friends with any of your ex's?"

After years of doing my our thing and healing from the both of us. After a break up.................NEVER, just to many raw emotions and unresolved feelings to enjoy being with an ex as a friend. Seeing them move on before you can hurts like hell.

Well the NEVER part is certainly the easiest and best path forward in the long run. And in his case I would TOTALLY agree.

My ex wife and I share two kids so it just makes sense to be friends. We used to share two pups but they have passed - AWWWWW.

Hi, again I was at my friends house today and just thought will be friends and as for the going out with other guys I don't see it and neither does my best friend or her's, but yeah if I did go out to a bar and see her kiss another guy I'd probably leave and might not want to talk to her but I know she wouldn't in front of me anyway and plus she said to her best friend I was the best guy she'd ever dated fullstop

She just said she wasn't ready for a relasonship with anybody at the minute cause she has a new job and has like a million friends so between juggling that and the fact she might not know if this new job will work out to begin with she was saying, she wants to travel a lot to and she herself is a real tomboy and she's even told me herself she is lol,

But when I got back to my friends house she was there chatting his girlfriend (her bestfriend), and I just chatted away and just acted like it was all good and had a bit of laugh with her and all and I told her I wanted to have a talk before she goes back to work Monday just to pretty much say I hope we can be friends cause I guess after tonight this happens to everyone so I should just grow a set a balls and deal with it like a man, what do you guys think?

Your man hood will be tested. We all learn what we are made of and this is but one of many more tests to learn about yourself.

No big deal unless you make it one.

Trying not to, still have a lot of feelings for her but I'm just going to have to think this happens to other people to and there's people out there in a lot worse promblems but I will always really like her a great deal and will be attracted to her, as I ponder the hardest thing will be if I do see her kiss somebody else or if I see she's dating someone else I don't know if I could be friends then but I know she won't date someone else for quite a while as she's having family promblems herself and stuff and work and everything so by that time hopefully I can ask her out again if I feel she's up for it, but I don't know still sort of cuffled lol what do you guys think?

Again thanks for taking the time to read this and reply greatly appreciated all you out there thanks again

I think good or bad you will figure it out for yourself. Keep your head up, and don't give away your dignity or self respect. What she or anyone else does matters not at all. What YOU do is what counts.

I think good or bad you will figure it out for yourself. Keep your head up, and don't give away your dignity or self respect. What she or anyone else does matters not at all. What YOU do is what counts.



Thanks I just need to figure it out but not stress out too much about it I know I will be sad about it for quite a bit longer as we only broke up on Wednesday so I guess with my emotions running wild as well at this present time I just don't know the best way to approach this problem at this present in time its all I bit head frying at the minute if you get what I mean

Been there done that, more than a few times. I learned to let the dust settle, and get under control BEFORE I made a decision, or take action.

You sound like you have a cool head about you, and that's more than half the battle. Still sucks though, but what's a guy to do when he gets dumped? Move on as fast as possible without drama or regrets. Fun while it lasted, most times.

Been there done that, more than a few times. I learned to let the dust settle, and get under control BEFORE I made a decision, or take action.

You sound like you have a cool head about you, and thats more than half the battle. Still sucks though, but whats a guy to do when he gets dumped? Move on as fast as possible without drama or regrets. Fun while it lasted, most times.


Thanks I had quite the cool head last night but today I woke up feeling terrible and still do as it stands, I'm meant to be going to one of my friends who lives like half an hour away tonight with my best friend but it will be my ex driving us up and iv'e been thinking it will mess with my head when I get out of the car knowing I can't give her a kiss anymore and I think that it might ruin my night as it will be all I probably will be thinking of after I was to get out of her car, I just feel she can go out with her friends and after we have only broke up and have a good time herself were as when I seen her last night I seemed to feel better but the more I think about it I think its cause I'm still very attracted to her and still very hurt, what do you guys think though? Would you still go out with your friends if you were feeling like this? its not that I don't want to it's the fact I think the car journey will kill me with her as I said espically when were there and getting out of the car ill get a hug off her and I know it kills me just knowing that I can't give her a kiss I do really want to be friends with her but I'm not sure with the way my heads working at the minute or whether subconsciously my brain just hopes ill have another chance with her in a couple months again a really don't know at all anymore tbh, what is your guys opinion and what would you do if you were in my shoes?


Thanks again for taking time to read and reply to this stuff I really appreciate it guys big respect to you all and thanks again

Thanks i had quite the cool head last night but today i woke up feeling terrible and still do as it stands, im meant to be going to one of my friends who lives like half an hour away tonight with my best friend but it will be my ex driving us up and iv'e been thinking it will mess with my head when i get out of the car knowing i can't give her a kiss anymore and i think that it might ruin my night as it will be all i probably will be thinking of after i was to get out of her car, i just feel she can go out with her friends and after we have only broke up and have a good time herself were as when i seen her last night i seemed to feel better but the more i think about it i think its cause im still very attracted to her and still very hurt, what do you guys think though? would you still go out with your friends if you were feeling like this?, its not that i dont want to its the fact i think the car journey will kill me with her as i said espically when were there and getting out of the car ill get a hug off her and i know it kills me just knowing that i can't give her a kiss i do really want to be friends with her but im not sure with the way my heads working at the minute or whether subconsciously my brain just hopes ill have another chance with her in a couple months again a really dont know at all anymore tbh, what is your guys opinion and what would you do if u were in my shoes?


Thanks again for taking time to read and reply to this stuff i really appreciate it guys big respect to you all and thanks again

Don't kid yourself! You don't want to be friends with her. You want those feel good relationship feelings back. Sorry mate but face facts. Its over, don't go on this car trip with her. Your setting yourself up for a world of hurt.

Drop of the face of the earth, go no contact and get busy AWAY from your ex! That means do not speak to her. Ignore her messages. Delete her off Facebook, your phone etc.

The best thing to do now is to keep busy, that way your mind will be on other things until eventually you won't be thinking of her anymore.

I tend to agree with Jiser as the more contact you continue to have, the more your feelings get in the way. It's a roller coaster ride that make you conflicted with yourself, and gives rise to false hope, and unreasonable expectations that keeps you focused on her, and NOT you. Hell you are worried about a good time with a friend?

Dude you are in the friend zone, and she will never miss you if you are always available for friendship, NEVER! While you will always want more. Its very hard to accept a break up and move on when you are always waiting for her to take you back. Why torture yourself with the constant reminder of the good times that are gone?

Talaniman Rule- When you get dumped, disappear and do your own thing.

Go NO Contact, and when you see her be polite but unavailable and busy. Soon you will know and accept you are not her priority, but you have made her YOURS. Read my signature.

Hi again, I see you guys point I'm still tore up about her kilt really I didn't go to my friends tonight my best friend didn't go either but his gf's dog died so he's chilling with her on his own tonight which is understandable, but anyway I went to the doctors today told him my story he gave me 50mg zoloft for depression and benzo's to help me sleep I suffer from insomina by the way lol, so hopefully it should work my mood obviously hasn't raised so far but hopefully it does after a couple days, as for my feelings I'm still heartbroken pretty much and can't stop thinking about her at all just wish I had her back uno

Hi again, i see you guys point im still tore up about her kilt really i didnt go to my friends tonight my best friend didnt go either but his gf's dog died so he's chilling with her on his own tonight which is understandable, but anyways i went to the doctors today told him my story he gave me 50mg zoloft for depression and benzo's to help me sleep i suffer from insomina btw lol, so hopefully it should work my mood obviously hasnt raised so far but hopefully it does after a couple days, as for my feelings im still heartbroken pretty much and can't stop thinking about her at all just wish i had her back uno

I suffer from insomnia as well but do not take drugs for it. When life throws a tonne of c**p at you if you can deal with it than that makes you a better person.

Any contact with this ex girlfriend of yours is going to push you back. I would love to have an amazing women spending time with me tonight as well but life is not like that for you or I.

I think it may be benefitial for you to write the top ten things you liked about her and the 10 ten things you disliked about her. (Pro's and con's). What did she do for you and what did you put into the relationship? You may find there are more negatives.

You need to get busy and fast! You need to change aspects of your life to fill that gap where you ex was. Revenge? Sure... make your life so good without her! Make your body great, play an instrument, get new hobbies =D

I have started running, gyming more, playing guitar and starting yoga soon. I also have several IT exams coming up to keep me busy. I also partake in more social meetups - like a dating website but to meet friends.

I would also advise you get some time away booked, plan some trips, something to look forward to. Lifes to short to be miserable. If you cannot move on from her then get your revenge where you have a life amazing so she will regret breaking up with you whether its in a few months of a few years!

She obviously liked you for some reason. Try and find some clever ways to remind her why she liked you in the first place.

Hi again, she was talking to me on fb and I was chatting away to but just asked her to meet me downtown tomorrow for a chat she said do mind if I ask what its about I just said "pretty much about being friends and stuff along those lines but obviously i can do it better in person would that be cool?" and she said yeah so I was just going to say something like I really enjoy your company so to me it wouldn't be right to throw away a friendship with you because of how well we get on then maybe I could ask her out again when were getting on again really well if we do in like a couple months uno, what's your guys take on this what do you think I should say tomorrow?

At least she didn't shut you down and is willing to have this heart-to-heart conversation with you. But to be honest, I think it would be wrong of you to go in with the frame of mind that you want to be "more than friends". She has obviously come to her own decision so please, for your own sake and hers, try your best to respect that and move forward. It's not easy to accept the fact she broke up but if she didn't want to she wouldn't have in the first place. If she realizes you were a great boyfriend and she made a horrible mistake by breaking up with you and wants to go out with you again GREAT! But until then, make sure you are both on the same page about where your relationship is headed (whether romantic or just a friendship) and that you're not trying to beg her to get back together with you. Otherwise you may push her farther away and make yourself look needy and desperate. Obviously, you don't want to be either. Just play this cool and if she wants more with you someday I am truly happy for you. But if she doesn't, don't push hard for it to happen. You will eventually find someone who will give you the same in return.

At least she didn't shut you down and is willing to have this heart-to-heart conversation with you. But to be honest, I think it would be wrong of you to go in with the frame of mind that you want to be "more than friends". She has obviously come to her own decision so please, for your own sake and hers, try your best to respect that and move forward. It's not easy to accept the fact she broke up but if she didn't want to she wouldn't have in the first place. If she realizes you were a great boyfriend and she made a horrible mistake by breaking up with you and wants to go out with you again GREAT!! But until then, make sure you are both on the same page about where your relationship is headed (whether romantic or just a friendship) and that you're not trying to beg her to get back together with you. Otherwise you may push her farther away and make yourself look needy and desperate. Obviously, you don't want to be either. Just play this cool and if she wants more with you someday I am truly happy for you. But if she doesn't, don't push hard for it to happen. You will eventually find someone who will give you the same in return.


Thanks, I know what you mean there I'm really trying not to set my hopes on getting toghter again but when she did break up with me she said its just cause she wasn't ready she got cheated on by 3 out of 5 people she was with one she was with for a year too, so mabye in time when she is ready I c

Could be there and then get with her again she did tell her best friend I'm the best person she has been out with or one of them can't remember exactly lol, but should I ask her a question tomorrow like if she's ready for a relationship will she let me know do you think that would be a good thing to ask?

You are already in the friend zone and I see no need to define it more and think you are leaving the door open for later.

Sooner or later you will let this go for a while, when you have had enough false hope. You are beginning to be desperate for that one last chance. Damn guy she dumped you as nicely as she could. Stop pushing.

Thanks, i know what you mean there im really trying not to set my hopes on getting toghter again but when she did break up with me she said its just cause she wasnt ready she got cheated on by 3 out of 5 people she was with one she was with for a year too, so mabye in time when she is ready i c

No problem. :) I think this answers the real reason she broke up with you. It wasn't because of her busy career and future aspirations. It was because she was having a hard time getting over her trust issues with other men. This is key! If this is the case, she definitely needs time to work on herself and realize she can't continue to have good men pay for other men's mistakes. You're not them! You want to be in a relationship where you feel you can be trusted. There's nothing worse than being accused of things you didn't do. She's smart for ending it now because it will get worse if she doesn't give herself enough time to work on herself. To be there for others and to truly love another person, you have to be in love with yourself. Otherwise your problems brush off on them and they resent you for it. There may be hope you two will go out again but in the meantime I think the breakup was the result of something better yet to come.

Thanks, i know what you mean there im really trying not to set my hopes on getting toghter again but when she did break up with me she said its just cause she wasnt ready she got cheated on by 3 out of 5 people she was with one she was with for a year too, so mabye in time when she is ready i c

Could be there and then get with her again she did tell her bestfriend im the best person she has been out with or one of them can't remeber exactly lol, but should i ask her a question tomorrow like if she's ready for a relationship will she let me know do you think that would be a good thing to ask?

No. I don't think you should ask this. She let you go as simple as that. Let whatever be, just be. If she wants you, she knows where to find you. Save yourself the heartbreak and headache of wanting to be with her in case she doesn't give you the answer you expect. With more patience, you will find out if you and her are meant to be. With that being said, don't latch onto false hope. Keep your mind active. Hang out with friends, go to the movies, if you play a sport go for it. Don't dwell. You don't want to appear like a lost puppy. She knows you're still attracted to her so let her do whatever she wants with that bit of information. If she wants you, she will let you know. I promise. If she doesn't accept it for what it is and move on. You deserve better!

No problem. :) I think this answers the real reason she broke up with you. It wasn't because of her busy career and future aspirations. It was because she was having a hard time getting over her trust issues with other men. This is key! If this is the case, she definitely needs time to work on herself and realize she can't continue to have good men pay for other men's mistakes. You're not them! You want to be in a relationship where you feel you can be trusted. There's nothing worse than being accused of things you didn't do. She's smart for ending it now because it will get worse if she doesn't give herself enough time to work on herself. To be there for others and to truly love another person, you have to be in love with yourself. Otherwise your problems brush off on them and they resent you for it. There may be hope you two will go out again but in the meantime I think the breakup was the result of something better yet to come.


Thanks, yeah she told me that just and then when she broke up with me she said she wasn't ready to be in a relationship and she's sorry cause she thought she was she keeps saying to her best friend and mine she feels really bad about she's just not ready for a relationship but again I don't want to get my hopes up too much which is proving to be more and more difficult each day uno

Thanks, yeah she told me that just and then when she broke up with me she said she wasnt ready to be in a relationship and she's sorry cause she thought she was she keeps saying to her bestfriend and mine she feels really bad about she's just not ready for a relationship but again i dont want to get my hopes up to much which is proving to be more and more difficult each day uno

Yeah it sounds like she really wanted to make a go of it but unfortunately it wasn't working out for her no matter how hard she tried. I know it's hard not to hold out hope but you must resist. Appear a little less available and who knows, she might find that more appealing! If not for that reason though, really do it for yourself. You don't need a relationship to define who you are. There's nothing wrong with being single too. Good luck!

Yeah it sounds like she really wanted to make a go of it but unfortunately it wasn't working out for her no matter how hard she tried. I know it's hard not to hold out hope but you must resist.
Appear a little less available and who knows, she might find that more appealing! If not for that reason though, really do it for yourself. You don't need a relationship to define who you are. There's nothing wrong with being single too. Good luck!

Thanks, sorry I took so long to reply just haven't really been feeling up for grabbing my phone cause then I go onto fb and see her in pics and stuff and I don't like it, I went to cofde with her yestardy I had a bit of fun with her laugh and what not and said I just want to be friends but not out of gulit and she said if I didn't want to be your friend I wouldn't have said so I was like good will be friends, but I also said it will kill me if I see you with anyone else though cause I still have feelings for and she said will its not like ill flaunt it in your face or anything but if I'm drunk you might see me going with people my heart sort of sank, but I just dealt with the rest of our time and tried to play it cool, but when I got in I just burst into tears even the thought I can't do things like kiss hug etc, is killing me and today I have nothing to do all my friends are busy its snowing outside and I just am sitting here constantly stewing with nothing to do.
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