I have an 18 year old son who is verbally abusive with me (mom) and sister. Does not look for work or to get his GED since he has been kicked out of alternative school for the second time due to behavior and attendance. He comes in at the time he wants. Leaves when he wants and does not clean up after himself. Name calls me all the time when I have no money to give him so he can hang out with his friends and smoke pot. Throws my things and at times breaks it. Hides my belongings and disturbs my peace all the time.

I have tried many programs, and suggestions but his main priority is friends and that is it. I am tired of my only son and though Im sad about this situation. I don't have to put up with abuse and I do demand respect and peace.

What can I do to get him out?

Does he have a key to the house? Take it away from him. Tell him he has to leave. Have his things packed for him. If he gets physical and verbal, call the cops on him.

I would serve him short notice to get out. And change the locks and be willing to call the cops.

Where is his dad or another adult male figure?

He's 18, he's an adult. Tell him that he can stay if he respects the rules of the house, respects you and all the people in the house, and contributes (if he can't contribute financially, then he can clean, cook, shovel the snow, mow the grass, etc. etc.).

If he's not willing to do that, then tell him you want him to leave, that he is no longer welcome in your home if he's unwilling to follow your rules.

He's not a child. It's time he figures out what it takes to be an adult. This may be the best thing you do for him, and the hardest.