Um well I had a bad December and I spend Christmas and my birthday (dec 31st) alone. Some of my aunts texted me a few days ago saying late happy birthday. I know I shouldn't expect anything. I just turned 19 years old and they think I turned 18 because I haven't celebrated my birthday in years.

But my cousin told me everyone bought him gifts for Christmas. All I received were pajamas.

I want to cry because I don't feel worth anything to my family that they don't even remember my birthday or age. It's a tough feeling right now.

Do you keep in touch with everyone and send them birthday cards and/or gifts?

Do you keep in touch with everyone and send them birthday cards and/or gifts?

Yes I do.

Yes i do.

Where was the rest of your family on Christmas and your birthday?

Where was the rest of your family on Christmas and your birthday?
They meet up together and didn't tell me. I just found out that it happenes because they showed me pictures and said I had to be there.

They showed you pictures of what?

You "had to be there"? Is there a previous problem that you didn't come to family events?

They showed you pictures of what?

You "had to be there"? Is there a previous problem that you didn't come to family events?

Of their xmas party
And I never get invited. Im not really the family cares about

Where are your parents?

Where are your parents?

Moms not around and my dad I don't know where he is.

Maybe you need to take the initiative and try to be part of the family.

Maybe you need to take the initiative and try to be part of the family.

I do.

How do you? What do you do to reach out to the family that is still available to you?

How about inviting them to your home?

How about inviting them to your home?

I live with friends because my family isn't there for me


How do you? What do you do to reach out to the family that is still available to you?

I Facebook them I call them I text them

If your parents aren't around, who is "family"?

If your parents aren't around, who is "family"?

Aunts and uncles

Facebooking, phoning and texting aren't the same as visiting in person. Do you make an effort to go to their homes or invite them to yours?

Facebooking, phoning and texting aren't the same as visiting in person. Do you make an effort to go to their homes or invite them to yours?

I don't have transportation. I try when I can

That makes life a little tougher, but not impossible. How far away from them do you live? May I ask why you don't have transportation?

Do you have brothers and sisters?

How about if you create your own holiday celebrations with friends near you?

That makes life a little tougher, but not impossible. How far away from them do you live? May I ask why you don't have transportation?

40 miles away.

Yeah, 40 miles is a good distance.

Do you have any close friends near you?

What do you do for a living? How old are you?

Yeah, 40 miles is a good distance.

Do you have any close friends near you?

What do you do for a living? How old are you?

Kind of

And unemployed and just turned 19

When you are no longer a child, aunts and uncles seem or trend to forget birthdays, as they did when you were younger. And often there was a mom or dad reminding them anyway.

As you grow older, move away, you will need to start your own customs, traditions and to be honest expect to get forgotten ever once in a while.

Get off your pity pot and just be grateful you have those pajama because they could have ignored your unavailable a$$ and done nothing. You could have made plans to reach out before the holidays but you didn't.

YOU didn't give yourself the chance to enjoy yourself so quit feeling sorry for yourself and making excuses for YOUR inaction. YOU did nothing and should have gotten nothing out of it. You got pajamas, and that's something.

Next Christmas volunteer at a church and meet some real people who have NOTHING. OH, a belated Happy Birthday.