I met this young woman on Skype and she was from Surrey, United Kingdom. She went to Wenchi, Ghana to see her Mom who runs an orphanage. She told me her father built the orphanage using money from gold he found. She wants to send me the gold, buts keeps asking me to send her $70.00 so she can send me a gold bar. She has shown me pictures, but I do not know if she really has any gold. I told her I do not have the money to send her. Now she does not talk to me unless she wants me to send her money. She says she is not a scammer, but I beginning to wonder if she is. Does anyone know if this is a scam or is she for real?

It's a scam! I'm glad you don't have the money to send her.

Why in gods name would she send you gold for 70 dollars.

You know how this works, you send her 70 dollars, then you get a phone call or letter from someone claiming to be customs, since it is illegal to export gold from Ghana, and no customs paid on it. Then they start to blackmail you for more money.

If she had real gold, she would sell some and be rich, no need to send you any.

Thank you teacherjenn4. I thought it might be, but Iwas not sure. I have been talking to her for 13 months. Now I do not hear anything from her. She even told me she wants to move to the United States and live with me and marry me. It is good hearing from someone that knows this young woman is trying to scam me. It makes me feel good knowing thatr I have not sent her any money. Are all women from Ghana like this woman?

This is a very common scam from Ghana.

Thank you teacherjenn4. I thought it might be, but Iwas not sure. I have been talking to her for 13 months. Now I do not hear anything from her. She even told me she wants to move to the United States and live with me and marry me. It is good hearing from someone that knows this young woman is trying to scam me. It makes me feel good knowing thatr I have not sent her any money. Are all women from Ghana like this woman?

Like everyone has replied, it's a well-known scam. Sorry!

Why in gods name would she send you gold for 70 dollars.

You know how this works, you send her 70 dollars, then you get a phone call or letter from someone claiming to be customs, since it is illegal to export gold from Ghana, and no customs paid on it. Then they start to blackmail you for more money.

If she had real gold, she would sell some and be rich, no need to send you any.
I asked her if she could send it all the way here without any problem and she said yes. I agree with you Fr_Chuck. If she has all this gold than she should sell it and then she would be rich. I thought it was too good to be true. I did not even know it was illegal to export gold from Ghana. I am glad I registered on this site because I now have people and I hope friends that can keep me informed about these kind of scams.

Check on Snopes.com for scams that seem too good to be true. It has been very reliable for many years.

Very common scam.

Yes, they change variations, but it is just a numbers game, They will email, skype or talk to 100's of people a day, and hope that at least a few will send money.

The 70 dollars is really cheap, so that is bait money, hoping anyone will risk that little, to try and get more latter.

Check on Snopes.com for scams that seem too good to be true. It has been very reliable for many years.

When it sounds too good to be true than I now know it is. I wanted someone that really cared about me and I opened myself up to someone trying to scam me. I am glad I did not send her any money.

Very common scam.

I thank you Alty and everyone that responded so far for enlightening me on the question I posted. I will be more careful about who I talk to and who I communicate with.

When it sounds too good to be true than I now know it is. I wanted someone that really cared about me and I opened myself up to someone trying to scam me. I am glad I did not send her any money.

That's why most of us really protest against online relationships. The way that these girls trick you is skyping. People figure "I see them, I talk to them, I know they are the person I'm video chatting with, so how can they be scammers?"

Fact is, she likely works in a huge warehouse and skypes 100's of people a day.

You already knew this was a scam. Anyone that's interested in you will not ask for money, and they definitely won't stop talking to you if you refuse to send it.

I'm really glad you happened to be broke when she asked for the cash. It saved you $70 and more hurt that you may not be aware of yet.

Go out and meet people in person. Anything coming out of Ghana is likely a scam. Just Google, you'll be shocked what you find.

Please online dating is not always over sea's or at least they don't tell you they are.
I had one that said they were in Kansas I think, I was in Georgia, she wanted money to come visit. I told her I was going to be in Kansas next week and all of a sudden she started changing her story.
But beyond that on dating, let me see, I meet one who was a proclaimed witch ( after I meet her) and she was going to put a curse on me so I could never leave her. ( so I left)
Another one was into sort of bondage and things. Two others were starting to plan either our marriage or my life career on the second date.

But there are also wonderful people who are too busy for dating normally, don't want to meet people at bars or church and use matching services.

Please online dating is not always over sea's or at least they don't tell you they are.
I had one that said they were in Kansas I think, I was in Georgia, she wanted money to come visit. I told her I was going to be in Kansas next week and all of a sudden she started changing her story.
But beyond that on dating, let me see, I meet one who was a proclaimed witch ( after I meet her) and she was going to put a curse on me so I could never leave her. ( so I left)
Another one was into sorta bondage and things. Two others were starting to plan either our marriage or my life career on the second date.

But there are also wonderful people who are too busy for dating normally, don't want to meet people at bars or church and use matching services.

I didn't say I was going to curse you, I said you'd be cursing yourself if you left!

Oops... ;)

If I was still single I would be at your door. And if Toni reads this I may still end up there.

Please online dating is not always over sea's or at least they don't tell you they are.
I had one that said they were in Kansas I think, I was in Georgia, she wanted money to come visit. I told her I was going to be in Kansas next week and all of a sudden she started changing her story.
But beyond that on dating, let me see, I meet one who was a proclaimed witch ( after I meet her) and she was going to put a curse on me so I could never leave her. ( so I left)
Another one was into sorta bondage and things. Two others were starting to plan either our marriage or my life career on the second date.

But there are also wonderful people who are too busy for dating normally, don't want to meet people at bars or church and use matching services.
I do not use on-line dating services. I tried once, but found out that many women are not honest about who they are. They do not even put their actual picture on the site. They put a picture on there from when they were younger. I responded to many of them but not one of them answered any e-mails I sent them. Masny of the dating sites want you to pay upwards of $50 dollars or more a month to use their services. That is money I do not have. I am going to remove Skype from my computer today.

I do not use on-line dating services. I tried once, but found out that many women are not honest about who they are. They do not even put their actual picture on the site. They put a picture on there from when they were younger. I responded to many of them but not one of them answered any e-mails I sent them. Masny of the dating sites want you to pay upwards of $50 dollars or more a month to use their services. That is money I do not have. I am going to remove Skype from my computer today.

Skype isn't the problem. I use skype. In fact, I talk to someone I met on this site on a daily basis. He's a good friend, I've known him for 5 years, from this site. But I knew him for almost 2 years, had talked via email, and on the phone, before we started skyping. Also, it's not a romantic relationship. He's a dear dear friend, sends my kids presents, even sends my husband gifts.

I think the problem is that you're meeting people online. It may not be online dating, but you're still basically dating the people you meet online. How did yo meet this girl from ghana? Did she send you a friend request on skype? I get those daily. I block them, and ignore. Never skype with someone you don't already know.

As for dating people face to face, look into single's bars. You can also see if your town has the 1 minute dating thing. I'm not sure what it's called. Basically you go, and there are usually around 20, sometimes more, women or men looking to meet someone. You sit with each one for 1 minute, talk, and then move on. At the end of the night if you found one of them interesting, or they found you interesting, you can ask for a date. Even if you don't meet anyone there, it will help you learn to communicate, and since it's only for a minute or so, you have nothing to lose. It can really boost your confidence.

But leave the ghana girls alone, nothing but scams coming out of that country.

If I was still single I would be at your door. And if Toni reads this I may still end up there.

LOL! You're always welcome. You can help me take down the tree. :)

Skype is one of the greatest things around. The issue is knowing who not to talk to.

My family in America can call a US number and it is sent either to my computer or to my Chinese telephone number ( cell phone) So my son in Georgia can call me at no cost to him, and I answer on my cell phone here in China for maybe 20 cents.

They can use online skype and I use online skype and we talk for free. With video.

So I would say keep skype, just block people you don't want to talk to

Skype isn't the problem. I use skype. In fact, I talk to someone I met on this site on a daily basis. He's a good friend, I've known him for 5 years, from this site. But I knew him for almost 2 years, had talked via email, and on the phone, before we started skyping. Also, it's not a romantic relationship. He's a dear dear friend, sends my kids presents, even sends my husband gifts.

I think the problem is that you're meeting people online. It may not be online dating, but you're still basically dating the people you meet online. How did yo meet this girl from ghana? Did she send you a friend request on skype? I get those daily. I block them, and ignore. Never skype with someone you don't already know.

As for dating people face to face, look into single's bars. You can also see if your town has the 1 minute dating thing. I'm not sure what it's called. Basically you go, and there are usually around 20, sometimes more, women or men looking to meet someone. You sit with each one for 1 minute, talk, and then move on. At the end of the night if you found one of them interesting, or they found you interesting, you can ask for a date. Even if you don't meet anyone there, it will help you learn to communicate, and since it's only for a minute or so, you have nothing to lose. It can really boost your confidence.

But leave the ghana girls alone, nothing but scams coming out of that country.

You asked me how I met this girl from Ghana. When I met her she was originally from Surrey, United Kingdom. She went to Ghana to help her mother at the orphanage her mother runs. She said she would be returning to the United Kingdom after Christmas. This was back in 2011 and she is still in Ghana. I do not know why she did not go back to the United Kingdom like she told me she was going to do. She friend requested me when she lived in Surrey, UK. I had gotten many friend requests from women in Kumasi, Ghana. I blocked all of them. I do not understand what is going own in her life because we are 5,300 miles away.

Have you ever been in the same room with her in real life? (actually MET her, could have touched her) Or, all you know about her is what she has told you via Skype? She may never have been in the U.K. (just claimed she was), has always been in Ghana?

Have you ever been in the same room with her in real life? (actually MET her, could have touched her) Or, all you know about her is what she has told you via Skype? She may never have been in the U.K. (just claimed she was), has always been in Ghana?

That would be my guess.

Have you ever been in the same room with her in real life? (actually MET her, could have touched her) Or, all you know about her is what she has told you via Skype? She may never have been in the U.K. (just claimed she was), has always been in Ghana?

I have not been in the same room with her, but I have seen her with my web-cam on my computer. All I know about her is what she has told me. I really do not understand what is going on here and why. She just called me and ask me to come on-line in Skype and she has not come on. The number she called me from is a number from California. I try to call it back and it is always busy. So you tell me. Is she in Ghana or the United kingdom or in the United States? I do not know and I really do not know what to do. I want to tell her to stop Skyping me especially if all she is going to do is ask for money.

I have not been in the same room with her, but I have seen her with my web-cam on my computer. All I know about her is what she has told me. I really do not understand what is going on here and why. She just called me and ask me to come on-line in Skype and she has not come on. The number she called me from is a number from California. I try to call it back and it is always busy. So you tell me. Is she in Ghana or the United kingdom or in the United States? I do not know and I really do not know what to do. I want to tell her to stop Skyping me especially if all she is going to do is ask for money.

Okay, I'm going to try to explain this to you. She lives in Ghana, she's working for a company that does these sorts of scams to make money. The way they start is by meeting people online, they start skyping, you believe everything they say because every time you skype it's the same girl, and you start to believe you're having a relationship.

They usually tell a story to get you comfortable with them, and they wait weeks, sometimes months, before they ask for money. Everything she has told you is a lie. She's talking to hundreds of other guys, telling them the same story, and asking them for money. If you sent the money, it won't be long until she asks for more. She'll keep asking until you say you won't send anymore, even after that she'll try a few more times, until she knows for sure that you're a lost deal. When that happens you'll never hear from her again.

The number you're calling is a fake number. It's easy to re-direct a call or even block a number, when you don't want the person to know where you're calling from. Most of the scams that call me are a California number. It's always someone with a scam. My favorite one is the ever popular "Hello sir or madam, I am calling from Telus, and I have found a virus on your computer. If you give me remote access I can fix it for you". Telus? Your number shows up Unknown, from California, or worse, Unknown name, unknown number. Telus would never hide their number.

Bottom line, this is a scam, and you're not ready to accept it. She's calling because she knows you haven't accepted that this is a scam, and she's hoping that she can still get money from you.

This is one of those things you'll have to either figure out for yourself, believe the people on this site, or send the money and find out the hard way. It's really your choice, but I'm telling you, this girl probably can't even remember your name without looking at the file she has on you. There are too many other guys she's stringing along.

Good luck.

I want to tell her to stop Skyping me especially if all she is going to do is ask for money.
You don't tell her anything. Just don't respond. She will get the message.

Okay, I'm going to try to explain this to you. She lives in Ghana, she's working for a company that does these sorts of scams to make money. The way they start is by meeting people online, they start skyping, you believe everything they say because every time you skype it's the same girl, and you start to believe you're having a relationship.

They usually tell a story to get you comfortable with them, and they wait weeks, sometimes months, before they ask for money. Everything she has told you is a lie. She's talking to hundreds of other guys, telling them the same story, and asking them for money. If you sent the money, it won't be long until she asks for more. She'll keep asking until you say you won't send anymore, even after that she'll try a few more times, until she knows for sure that you're a lost deal. When that happens you'll never hear from her again.

The number you're calling is a fake number. It's easy to re-direct a call or even block a number, when you don't want the person to know where you're calling from. Most of the scams that call me are a California number. It's always someone with a scam. My favorite one is the ever popular "Hello sir or madam, I am calling from Telus, and I have found a virus on your computer. If you give me remote access I can fix it for you". Telus? Your number shows up Unknown, from California, or worse, Unknown name, unknown number. Telus would never hide their number.

Bottom line, this is a scam, and you're not ready to accept it. She's calling because she knows you haven't accepted that this is a scam, and she's hoping that she can still get money from you.

This is one of those things you'll have to either figure out for yourself, believe the people on this site, or send the money and find out the hard way. It's really your choice, but I'm telling you, this girl probably can't even remember your name without looking at the file she has on you. There are too many other guys she's stringing along.

Good luck.

That last message was kind of nasty. I do not know and you do not know if she lives in Ghana. You are only going by what I have told you. I do believe that I will never hear from her again. That is because I will not send her any money. Maybe everything everyone has told me on this site is true and right now I am so confused that I do not know what to believe. The only person I trust is my Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ and my father God. I have a lot of hope that my father God will bring a Christian woman into my life so that we can share our lives together.

That last message was kind of nasty. I do not know and you do not know if she lives in Ghana. You are only going by what I have told you. I do believe that I will never hear from her again. That is because I will not send her any money. Maybe everything everyone has told me on this site is true and right now I am so confused that I do not know what to believe. The only person I trust is my Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ and my father God. I have a lot of hope that my father God will bring a Christian woman into my life so that we can share our lives together.
I hope you meet a nice lady, too. Have you tried at church?

You may hear from her again, if they think they got you close, they don't give up that easy, they have other people also that do follow up.

As for phone numbers, that is easy, I am sitting in China, and I have a Georgia US phone number, with a 678 area code. That is easy to set up with Skype.
They do this from Ghana so that you can call without costing you anything.

I have been in the offices of these types of places. They have large staffs of people, who work 3 shifts a day, they have script writers that review conversations and adapt scripts to new possible answers.

When skype does not work ( bet lots of days her video was down) she was not there and others were doing the messaging, She reviews the talk history before talking to you live again.

The reason they use Ghana, there is no police worry or laws they have to worry about.