I'm 23 & sex is a problem for me... I need help. I get turned on by watching videos or thinking about sex but when I do it... Is just sex... no fun no pleasure nothing... I only have an orgasm when I use a vibrator alone but I want to have sex with out a vibrator and have an orgasm w my partner but I cant... I lie and say I came because I feel bad... & don't want to disappoint him... what's wrong w me? Oh and oral doesn't help...

I will assume you are a women, and having sex with a man ( not sex with another women)

A large majority of women do not have a organism when having actual sex. You are watching too many movies if you thing they do.

Most will have their organism either in foreplay or after play using hand, or toys.