Hello, I am new here and would like some help. My boyfriend of 17 months and I have ups and downs. He is married and so am I (please don't judge me on the we are both married and should not be seeing one another because it is wrong). When we don't see one another we talk via a messenger through our cell phones. I own a snowmobile and we just finally got snow around where I am from. Last night we were having a wonderful conversation and I asked him if I would see him tomorrow. He said maybe. I said OK well I am going to go for a ride on my snowmobile I will be back soon and I love you and I promise I will be safe. I hope that you will still be awake when I get back since it was 7pm. 3 hours later I get a message from him saying still riding huh? 20 minutes after he sent the message is when I replyed to him saying I just got back and I am safe. I received no messages in return and have not heard from him since that message that he has sent. I have sent 15 messages since last night at 10:10pm until now at 10:13 am. I am worried that he is mad at me. What do I do continue sending messages or ignore him like I am being ignored?

Maybe his wife saw the message and now knows the whole story.

Maybe his wife saw the message and now knows the whole story.

She already knows about us.

UGH! CHEATING!!

Are you kidding me? You two are cheating on your spouses and you are worried that he is mad about you snowmobiling? Seriously?

If you are going to cheat, then get out of the relationship you are in.

And here's another thing - even if you did that how could either of you trust each other in an exclusive relationship? You two have cheated once and will need the excitement of the cheating again.

"should not be seeing one another because it is wrong" - Really? You think so?

Obviously your marriage isn't the best but honestly speaking is having a cheating relationship that rewarding? I don't get cheating and hopefully I will never understand people that cheat.

LOL... these kind of questions amuse the hell out of me. So you both are cheating on your spouses but your main concern is that your boyfriend might be mad at you?

Get your priorities straight.

What is that country western song " when you are married but not to each other"

Thank you for JUDGING me.

Of course we are going to judge you and your cheating ways. What you are doing is not morally correct. What you are doing is wrong on so many levels. I truly hope there are no children involved.

Thank you for JUDGING me.

You knew it was going to happen when you posted this... that is why you put the "don't judge me" line in your post.

It sounds like your "boyfriend" is the jealous type. Hes not mad you went snowmobiling, he's mad because he's thinking "wow 3 hours is a long time to be out and about, she must have been with another guy." So he doesn't trust you. He probably assumes if your cheating on your husband with him, you would cheat on him as well. He's the type that is so insecure, that even if you went grocery shopping for food to make him dinner, if you weren't back in what he thinks is an appropriate amount of time to get groceries, then you must have been cheating. You come back with a ton of groceries, but it doesn't matter, because he's convinced himself you were up to no good. Im going to guess that this isn't the first time he's been mad over something so ridiculous, he probably has something to say every time you go somewhere without him. This isn't about what you did or didn't do, or how long you did it for. Hes insecure and jealous, and that's not going to change, especially if your marriage situation stays as it is. Until you and him are both separated from your current spouses, and work on having a monogamous relationship between yourselves, he's never going to trust you. And even then, he may still act the same way. Its about him and how he feels, and sometimes, as much as you love someone, its not enough. You can't fix him. And you certainly can't have a happy, solid relationship, without trust. I would really consider if this is how you want to live your life, always defending every move you make. I would slow your roll with your texts, he's ignoring you because you upset him, so he wants to upset you. Playing games with your mind. Hes getting back at you. Im wondering if you guys are in high school, but hopefully you wouldn't be married if you were... point being~ he's an immature and as soon as you ignore him for a bit, he will call u. Once he doesn't hear from you, he will be worried that you have replaced him with another lucky fellow, I'm sure. Id say that you would be better off if he didn't return your texts or calls ~ move on, fix things with your husband, or get divorced, and concentrate on yourself and moving forward. Once your happy with yourself, you'll find ONE guy to be happy with.