I met this guy in 2008 online and have been talking ever since sometime I 2009 we met one on one went out had launch together while having launch past a comment that I could nt date sum1 am big than jokely but he took it to heart and what ever intensions he had at that point he kept, we never stopped chating. He been up and about travelling all over the world on courses and trainings but we still find time to keep intouch. He eventually we both started dating other people but still kept in touch as frds. Some time in nov 2012 we met again he was in the country for a 3day program and this tym when we met again we where hanging out and before we knew we were kissin we kissed all night till the day day morning. Running around and playing like kids.he then went back 2 his country to report for work. Since then we have been talking all the time. Right now am so in love with him and he said his in love with me too. When I asked of his girl he said he loves her too. What do I do?

The issue here is he met me long before her but along the way we fell in love without knowing and when we met again it showed. Tried onces telling him I had to leave him to make things final with her first before we started a relationship but he begged me that he lost me onces and did nt want to lose me again. What do I do now because the tot of sharing him is killing me. Thanks for your urgent reply

So he is "dating" long distance two girls, I would guess he may have a real life one at home also,

The issue with long distance is that it is long distance, at some point it has to be real life, and in the same city. One person has to be willing to move to the other.

With jobs and work, who would make the move ?

And you both started dating other people,

A one night fling is exciting, the hormones are racing, and says "this is love' no it is lust and sexual desire.

Love is not there unless it is shared and grows. He is happy with things like they are, and is not looking to commit to someone who is not there all the time and may not want that type of relationship right now.

Tell him how you feel, but be prepared for the answer to be no, he likes it the way it is