I met my ex back when we were in high school. He was 17 and I was 15. We feel for each other hard! He ended up moving, about 5 hrs away from me. But we somehow made it work... I'd go see him and then he would come see me. We kept it up for years. When we were together we were so happy and in love. But we were very young. Both of our families were nervous about how fast we were going.

About the time I was19, I found out that I was pregnant. I ended up miscarrying, which was hard and well he took it hard. Caused us to fight and then split up. Every now and then we would reconnect and things would feel the way they used to. But I had my life set up over here and he had his 5 hrs away from me.

And now I'm about to be 24 next month and he has walked back into my life once more but this time saying everything I've always wanted to hear... lets move in together, lets just get married... everything that I have been dreaming of since the day I looked into those blue eyes. But at this moment in my life, I find myself living with someone. A good man who I have been seeing for the last 9 months. We moved in maybe 2 months into our relationship so you can say it all kind of happened pretty fast. But all in all we are good. We get along well and my family loves him.

But there is a part of me that can't let go of my ex. The love that we shared between us for so many years. Usually I would just drop everything to be with him, but Id hate to hurt someone that I have grown to love.

WHAT SHOULD I DO??

Choices of the heart are best made before any bad behavior like lying, cheating, or deception. Time to be honest with the one you are with, and resolve that first BEFORE you continue even talking with the ex.

He has as much invested in this as you do, or the ex.

I would NOT engage or entertain any offers by an ex if indeed I had he responsibility of trust and loyalty with a partner.