I broke up with my ex boyfriend one year ago, and now I want him. I don't know how all of a sudden I was full of regret for what I did to him, and wanted him back, anyway let me tell you the story.

We met for coffee and I told him I wanted him back he said I cheated of him as one guy send a pic of his d.. k and he saw the message, even though he accepted my apologize and was ready to start again, every time I did something bad he always forgive me he gave 1000 chance and then I started to be confused was he the one? Now he said he can't forget what I did when I was him and I told him I regret that was my worst mistake of my life.

Then he told me he has moved on with his life and he's dating someone which apparently turned out to be a friend of mine, after that we start texting each other we slept together one time only, I go and sleep at his place sometimes he hugs me all night kiss my face, till one point he told me why we were good together why did you do that? It's been going on for while like that, when I asked him to break up with this girl he told me that he can't she did nothing bad to him and he can't do this to her and she is leaving the country next year.

Why does he do that if he doesn't love me or wants me back he's trying to revenge himself when he knows am completely broken? He say don't asked me to come back to you as every time I asked him he said that's make me hate you and remember everything you did to me.

And one more thing he doesn't feel sorry or bad when I cry or when he hurt me when I asked him why he said when he was crying I didn't do anything I just looked at him with cold eyes. Why does he even bother to talk to me or to come and sleep at his place if he doesn't want anything from me I don't understand I really want him back what can I do ? I really want him back I am really shattered, please help me! :(

Hi
I can understand how you may feeling.

In the past may be he were interested in you but that time his feelings might gets hurt by your acts and now he is not feeling the same way for you.

May be he would like you and like to enjoy some moments with you but right now he is not looking at you like he used to.

Now you have to accept this and try to move on . Go out with your friends this will help to divert your mind.

You can share anything which you feel..

Stop sleeping with him. He does not want to be with you aside from an occasional lay and he is not so good himself as he is cheating on his girl. (which he will not leave for you)
Get a clue and leave him alone. You can't make someone want you. You cheated on him, now you're cheating with him, no wonder he does not trust you.

You both need to mature a lot before you have a committed relationship with anyone. You had him and were inappropriate and violating his trust. You say he gave you 1,000 chances - so you chronically cheated on and disrespected him. Now you know he's in a committed relationship, supposedly, with someone you consider to be your friend and you are participating in a sexual affair with him beind this friend's back. So in this, you are disrespecting yourself, him and this so-called friend of yours.

He's just taking advantage of the fact that you're easy sexually but he doesn't trust you. He's been honest with you in telling you he's not going to break up with his girlfriend and that he doesn't want a relationship with you, so stop having sex with the guy, leave him alone, grow up and when you meet someone else that you like later, treat them better.

He doesn't want to leave as she is leaving the country 4 good

He does not want you back either. Leave him alone, or be his booty call, because that is what you are to him.

He's using you for sex. You cheated on him, now he is cheating on his girlfriend. You both need to wake up.

You need to move on and stop letting him use you. He needs to become responsible and either break it off with her or stop cheating.

Maybe after she leaves the country he will decide to take you back since there is nobody else around.

If someone cheats with you, they will cheat on you. So, lets say he makes you his girlfriend again and gets rid of this friend of yours. Then he'll have a new job open for the girl he'll cheat on you with.

Of course, you started the cheating in the relationship so - stay in this ridiculous cycle and dishonesty OR, take a break from all this nonsense, wait until you meet a man of honor, and then be a person of honor in your new relationship with this new person.

You need to stay as far from him as you can and end his false hope fantasy or be a booty call until he kicks you to the curb. Why are you making it so easy to be used by him? Why are you helping him cheat on another girl? This ain't healthy, or smart.

We only did it once and at this time I didn't knoe anything about this girl! When I sleep over we don't do nothing not even kissing

And it happen only once we slept together

This situation is crazy and you need to leave him alone. He does not want you back, he's not even nice to you. Stop torturing yourself.

You know what he told me today that he wish that he saw on of my exes talking to me or a random guy hugging me and we will cut all contact with me and I asked him why do you make me suffer and he said I need to and if you change you come back like you used to be I will not regret anything, I am so obbsesed with him I guesd I need a holiday

You need to stay away from him. He is manipulating you. Making you feel guilty. You were wrong, but so is he. This is an ugly situation.

I have a feeling that nothing we say to her is going to make a difference. It's like anything that has been said so far has just rolled off her back. She's just going to pursue this until she has to come back on here in a few months and post about "how do I get over him having used me?"

I'm done here.

See whatever resone you are giving to us will not help you. As he has himself said that he is not interested in you and he does not trust you.
This make all things clear that you have to stay away from him.

It does not matters that he is in any other relation or not but the fact is ' he does not loving you and not have trust on you'.

So wake up now and don't fantacise yourself with false imagination.
People who are advising you here have better experiences so please listen them.

We know that its very hard for you to accept this but it ia possile and you have to accept this reality.

This all are only for your good. OK

Thax for every I have understood now and I will back off from him! I wish him all the happiness and I hope 2013 bring the best for him! And guys thanks you for your advice merry xmas and happy new year

I am very happy to see that now you are making the right decision.

And I wish you will get someone who will love you and respect You.

ALL the Best.. :-)