My ex girlfriend and I were best friends for 2 years before we fell in love. It was an awesome relation and I used to have a lot of fun with her through out the friendship and the love affair..

The thing is she proposed me for marriage. I took some time
To say yes as she had committed suicide attempts twice in her past relationship. The only one I knew of.

Later on I came to know that while we were courting and spending time together, the time when our love was about to begin, she was still with relation with her ex boyfriend outside of my knowledge. That hidden relation lasted 6 months when the other guy finally decided to dump her.

She proposed me for marriage just after this even happened. I took a month to say yes. But after that just in a month I came to know of the secret affair from her mail account. I was hurt but I forgave her as I had decided to marry her. Things got OK in the next 15 days as she used to give me a lot of love and care.. Then I found out that she had another ex boyfriend, not an issue, but the problem arose when I got to know they were still in regular touch, and caught her lying about it.
I was hurt but she promised me it won't happen in future. And she even threw her phone on the wall and broke it into pieces when the guy next called up.

Then again I adjusted and even told my family about her that I will marry her..

Then next week I found her flirting with her best buddy of whom I had never even heard the name of.. And another incidence occurred when I came to know tha she had went to a trip of forest and thrice to some restaurant late night with another of her friend while we were in relation. And then I found out she used to do video calls late night with a guy and the chat language was really flirty.. I kept getting hurt and kept ignoring. But the trust was completely shattered.

Finally some one told me about two more of her past relationships to my dad, and then I decided to give up on the relation finally. And we broke up.. She begged and begged and begged even blackmailed me that she will commit suicide. But I did not fogive her and broke up.

The thing is she was very very pretty and I look average and she used to love and care about me like crazy all the while so I started to miss her soon.. And just after two months I found out that her family had forcefully engaged her to a guy of very rich back ground. I felt extremely jealous and got badly hurt.

And then within 15 days I found her posting love notes and other mushy stuff about the guy she was going to get married..

Even though I know this girl cheated me, but her engagement and the way she moved on so quick is hurting me like hell, I even feel like begging her back at times.. Its her wedding next month but I am still hoping I would get her back.

I am in a big trouble, as in my previous relationship my girlfriend had cheated me for my best friend and now this girl had a terrible past and she cheated me too..

I am badly shaken up, lonely and I often feel like leaving this world. Please help.

This is a perfect case of 'out of the frying pan into the fire'. Why is she posting notes about being crazy about this guy she is marrying, if you say her family is forcing her to marry? How old is the woman?

You are in for a heck of a lot of heartache if you get back together with this person.

We all have a story of horrible hurt. That's no consolation, I know, but it's all I can offer.
I was married to the sweetest, most honorable man in the world. Everyone told ME to be nice to HIM because I was always the one who dumped men in the past, and he would never do that to me. Well he did, very suddenly. There's no point in telling the story.

You can't sleep, you can't sit or stand or lie down or eat or talk or think. Elephants are running across your chest and it hurts to breathe. Time expands into eternity.

You keep busy. You ask family and friends to take you with them, but tell them not to try to cheer you up, just surround you and yet ignore you. That's all you can do for heartbreak.

This is a perfect case of 'out of the frying pan into the fire'. Why is she posting notes about being crazy about this guy she is marrying, if you say her family is forcing her to marry? How old is the woman?

You are in for a heck of a lot of heartache if you get back together with this person.



She is 24 and I am 25. I think she was doing this to make me jealous as I had dumped her. And she was a desperate girl always,she use to force me into night stays and sex etc within 15-20 days of our relation while I always preferred modesty. So may be she got desperate with this new guy too.

Yes you are true, my mind knows I would make my life hell, if she came back, but my heart does not want to listen to these logics. May be because I know she just can't come back now as she is deeply involved with the new guy. And I am not as much rich or good looking, plus the new guy will not bother her about her ugly past as he is from a distant city, where nobody knows my ex. So he might never come to know of these facts. It's a win win for her. And lose it all for me.
Life is just not fair.

We all have a story of horrible hurt. That's no consolation, I know, but it's all I can offer.
I was married to the sweetest, most honorable man in the world. Everyone told ME to be nice to HIM because I was always the one who dumped men in the past, and he would never do that to me. Well he did, very suddenly. There's no point in telling the story.

You can't sleep, you can't sit or stand or lie down or eat or talk or think. Elephants are running across your chest and it hurts to breathe. Time expands into eternity.

You keep busy. You ask family and friends to take you with them, but tell them not to try to cheer you up, just surround you and yet ignore you. That's all you can do for heartbreak.


I feel so sorry for you, at least I was not married to this girl. I hope you heal soon. Thanks for the valuable suggestions. On my side, I devote a lot of time to my business, try meditating, I pray a lot and I read a lot of articles to keep recalling all the reasons I hated her to keep going through the rough times.. I suggest the same to you. May god heal us all and lead us to the perfect love of our life.

I feel so sorry for you, at least I was not married to this girl. I hope you heal soon. Thanks for the valuable suggestions. On my side, I devote a lot of time to my business, try meditating, i pray a lot and I read a lot of articles to keep recalling all the reasons I hated her to keep going through the rough times.. I suggest the same to you. May god heal us all and lead us to the perfect love of our life.

Thanks - it was about 25 years ago for me!