damnineedhelp
Dec 15, 2012, 05:52 PM
I am 26 years old. First of all, I'd like to mention that we are a little different in the sense that thanks to my parents, I have more money than her, and this is why I am not as independent as she is.
I love her a lot. But she says I don't, because of the following things:
I've been with a girl for 1 year and 2 months so far.Like in every relation, we had our ups and downs. Today we broke up, more seriously than before. But I'd like to share with you a couple of moments that led to the break up and ask you guys what I should do next, because she is saying this is what lead to the break up:
4 month after we became a couple, we had to go to her sister's wedding. I promised her I would go.But I forgot whe I made the promise, and I realised later that I had planned a trip to sweden 1 year ago, so before I met her, and I would come back on Friday. Now, in Romania,at the country side, although the actual party is on Saturday, there are some traditions also on Thursday and Friday. So I got there on Friday. She got very mad,she said I left her alone( for 1 day). We got over it.
Second thing: my girlfriend had kidney stones removed through surgery.I arrived at the hospital minutes after the doctors brought her to the room.She was sleeping.They told me to come back in 2 hours cause she won't wake up earlier than that. I left 2 work, and 20 minutes after she called me and got very mad because I wasn't there when she woke up, cause she had pains and needed me to be by her side. No explanations worked, we had a fight but got over it.
Third thing: my b-day: she made some plans for me I did not know of( booked a hotel room with spa,sauna,what so ever).The weekend before my birthday, some family friends from Switzerland came over. My mom said we should go with them for a few days to the seaside. She didn't include my girlfriend. I don't know now if she didn't include my girlfriend on purpose or that she thought I would tell her. But back then, I thought she didn't want my girlfriend to come. So I talked to my girlfriend and told her that I am supposed to go to the seaside. She got very mad. We didn't go in the end as I told my parents I don't want to.
Last thing:last week my mother had a surgery because she has blood pressure problems. Yesterday was my gf's father birthday and he lives in a different town. I promised her I would go with her 2 weeks ago. At the hospital, my mother remebered that our family frriends would come this weekend.I knew they would come, but didn't realise it was the weekend with my gf's father b-day.That is why I promised her 2 weeks ago I would go with her.So since I couldn't go, my gfdidn't go either. My mom got a little mad because they would want to go out with my parents, eat go shopping. And given my mother's condition, she asked us(me, my sister and my gf) to spend time with them, as much as we can.
Due to all these things, she wants to break up, but I don't want to. Now she says she loves me, the next second that she hates me, that I made her hate me because of all the above mentioned, that she wants someone mature, who's able to make the decisions on his own, etc. But today, and the last few days, said she really wants to break up, that she doesn't feel anything for me. That if she has to make me understand she doesn't love me anymore, she will hook up woth someone else.How can I know the truth? I can't accept these, since I know I haven't done everything entirely wrong.
She can't understand that given my situation, although my parents never asked me to, I feel indepted towards them and I try to be there for them every time they need help.
I also feel like I have not been rewarded properly. All these things happened after she had a bad period, when I was the only one besides her, both financially and emotionally. I feel like she should love me and accept me the way I am, since I want to marry her in the future and hopefully if all goes well, we will have all that we need.
I love her a lot. But she says I don't, because of the following things:
I've been with a girl for 1 year and 2 months so far.Like in every relation, we had our ups and downs. Today we broke up, more seriously than before. But I'd like to share with you a couple of moments that led to the break up and ask you guys what I should do next, because she is saying this is what lead to the break up:
4 month after we became a couple, we had to go to her sister's wedding. I promised her I would go.But I forgot whe I made the promise, and I realised later that I had planned a trip to sweden 1 year ago, so before I met her, and I would come back on Friday. Now, in Romania,at the country side, although the actual party is on Saturday, there are some traditions also on Thursday and Friday. So I got there on Friday. She got very mad,she said I left her alone( for 1 day). We got over it.
Second thing: my girlfriend had kidney stones removed through surgery.I arrived at the hospital minutes after the doctors brought her to the room.She was sleeping.They told me to come back in 2 hours cause she won't wake up earlier than that. I left 2 work, and 20 minutes after she called me and got very mad because I wasn't there when she woke up, cause she had pains and needed me to be by her side. No explanations worked, we had a fight but got over it.
Third thing: my b-day: she made some plans for me I did not know of( booked a hotel room with spa,sauna,what so ever).The weekend before my birthday, some family friends from Switzerland came over. My mom said we should go with them for a few days to the seaside. She didn't include my girlfriend. I don't know now if she didn't include my girlfriend on purpose or that she thought I would tell her. But back then, I thought she didn't want my girlfriend to come. So I talked to my girlfriend and told her that I am supposed to go to the seaside. She got very mad. We didn't go in the end as I told my parents I don't want to.
Last thing:last week my mother had a surgery because she has blood pressure problems. Yesterday was my gf's father birthday and he lives in a different town. I promised her I would go with her 2 weeks ago. At the hospital, my mother remebered that our family frriends would come this weekend.I knew they would come, but didn't realise it was the weekend with my gf's father b-day.That is why I promised her 2 weeks ago I would go with her.So since I couldn't go, my gfdidn't go either. My mom got a little mad because they would want to go out with my parents, eat go shopping. And given my mother's condition, she asked us(me, my sister and my gf) to spend time with them, as much as we can.
Due to all these things, she wants to break up, but I don't want to. Now she says she loves me, the next second that she hates me, that I made her hate me because of all the above mentioned, that she wants someone mature, who's able to make the decisions on his own, etc. But today, and the last few days, said she really wants to break up, that she doesn't feel anything for me. That if she has to make me understand she doesn't love me anymore, she will hook up woth someone else.How can I know the truth? I can't accept these, since I know I haven't done everything entirely wrong.
She can't understand that given my situation, although my parents never asked me to, I feel indepted towards them and I try to be there for them every time they need help.
I also feel like I have not been rewarded properly. All these things happened after she had a bad period, when I was the only one besides her, both financially and emotionally. I feel like she should love me and accept me the way I am, since I want to marry her in the future and hopefully if all goes well, we will have all that we need.