New boyfriend of 2 months is going to Egypt for one week at Xmas with his ex and tells me it is of no significance and that he really likes me but it was booked before he met me. I see him one night a week at the moment due to his 4 nights shift work and my busy schedule and he has invited me there in the week but after his work at half past eleven at night so I haven't gone. I have gone out for a drink with him 3 times and had 3 nights in at his or mine. But usually I have left work Friday and am tired. He goes away in 1 week and the topic came up last night where he tried to re assure me that he wouldn't be going away with her again and we would be OK. He presented me with tickets for New Year.

I am going out tonight and so is he and he is seeing his son tomorrow and offered to see me tomorrow night and said I could go in the week at night after work .in the day( although saw him last week - son is 18 .) He said he was going out with his mates next Friday - day before he goes away with the ex.

I was feeling put out this morning in view of him going away thought it would have been nice to spend a day out together today or Sunday. Feel as though I am a night call, never taken me out as such for a meal or anywhere different and it has been very sexual so I have said how I feel.

Crux of it is it is bothering me a bit about him going away with her. Should I be worried and also am I wrong to feel put out that he hasn't offered to spend quality time with me or put me before others before he goes away ?

Most people would probably have a problem with it. Comes down to if you can trust him?

If you can't then don't stick around.

I certainly would have a problem if I had a girlfriend of mine was going on holiday with her ex.

IF he were willing to go out in public with you, then I wouldn't mind. But even if he didn't have these tickets to Egypt from before, I would wonder if there is something he is hiding from you. In fact it sounds like he might be hiding you from his ex who isn't really an ex. Unless he is cautious about being more public at first because of his child. It might not be anyone's fault, with your schedules so different. We aren't there and he isn't here explaining.

One night a week for 2 months is very, very little time to know someone. I'd keep my options open for other dates starting after New Years, but I would tell him that's what you are going to do, without tears and recriminations.

Two months and no diner or going out, you are a weekly booty call, in my opinion, nothing more. I agree ex does not sound very ex to me. I would say more to trip

It sounds to me like he is using you for sex. I also agree that the ex doesn't really sound like an ex.

Two months of "dating" once a week and its only been sexual? Man that's not even dating, it's a booty call. Egypt sounds like more of the same just a different location.

Two months is not nearly enough to be giving him all he wants and you get nothing, so YES be concerned that you are not a priority in his life the way you have made him.

Thanks this is real good advice , I like the never make a priority whilst you are an option in theirs. And the booty call is everything I tried to avoid by not going round late at night after work during the week . Yes maybe she is the same another booty call but in Egypt . His reason for not answering me is that I put the same thoughts as yourselves to him when I left his house this morning and despite buying me a christmas present and a card and buying some tickets for and years eve to spend with me I felt I was becoming a bit of a convenience.
He has totally ignored my texts so sort of proves I was right at this moment in time. Unless he is feeling offended . I upset him last night by saying how I felt and he got out of bed to sleep on the settee as it felt lilke nagging most likely. He came back , made me a cup of tea but then later on said I'm going to make myself a coffee and didn't make me one and then said I had quote 'skinny legs but you can't have everything can you ? ' Maybe this has put him off me. I have a bad complex about my legs and I lack confidence with them but having a mum with severe lymphodema and disabled I pull myself in check over it and think how lucky I am. Thanks again to all for the feedback.

Maybe you are just moving too fast for yourself. Your expectations may be unreasonable and that can be frustrating.