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paige511
Mar 14, 2007, 05:56 PM
So there's this guy[hear that often] and he goes to a dif school then me but a week or two ago he broke up w. a girl from my school.. hes been flirtin w. me a lot and I'm starting to like him and it seems as though he's starting to like me.. we text talk online or fone every day but I don't know if he's just using me to make this other girl jealous... we aren't "goin out" we are just talking but I don't know if he may still like her or if he likes me?? Help:confused:

kp2171
Mar 14, 2007, 06:07 PM
He might like you... but sometimes people, guys or girls, get a rebound relationship after a breakup.

Meaning he might just want attention and affection.

He might also genuinely like you. But moving from one person to the next without a pause is sometimes a bad sign.

However, you sound like you are young. When you are younger you tend to "try on" relationships with less emotional baggage, and it may not be a big thing.

Here's the most important thing for you to know...

You need to be confident in yourself and believe that you are your biggest priority. Not him. Not a relationship. OK. So he might like you. Ask him. Learn NOW to be direct. You will find that the more you don't play games, the more you will not spend time worrying. Really. What if he doesn't like you and you ask? What is the worst thing that can happen?

People are so prone to avoiding rejection that they hurt themselves. They hide behind wall of "security" when really they don't have a clue.

Adults do this as well as younger people.

So... he might like you. Do you like him? As in, do you like him or do you like him liking you? Would you have ever thought about him before?

Its nice to be thought about. Its nice to have attention. You can let him give you some and you can give some back. Just don't feel pressured. There is no race to win.

And be up front and honest. You do that and you'll be ahead of many adults probably twice your age.

paige511
Mar 18, 2007, 08:03 AM
Ohh I won't play games.. like one day we were texting and he had started going out w. his. Ex-girlfriend but he didn't tell me my friend ashley* did and she told me and I asked him how come you didn't tell me and he was just like I know I should have did ashley* tell you? I was like yeah.. lol but she found out that he actually liked me liked me and he actually told me the next day but "i didnt know" until he said something and he's still got this girlfriend now and he still texts and calls me... I was like its either me or her he's like well I have more feeling for her and I was like that's cool [im not going to get super upset over something in high school] its not like I'm going to go cry.. and he's like okay but then his girlfriend texted me. Ohh joy right? I was like we are just friends I didn't start talking to him till after you had been broke up. Then.. oh this is getting annoying.. he wants me to hang out w. him Monday! I was like ill have to see.. then I was like no I can't you have a girlfriend I just cant.. and I'm so confused cause he still calls me and stuff