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ShanLouxox
Nov 27, 2012, 03:37 PM
Hi ,my names Shannon, I'm 15 years of age. I used to be a really happy , bubbly person. This time last year my mother abandonded me. She changed her name & moved. Me and my mother were best friends , I loved her.Since she's done extremely terrible things. Moved so so so far away. She done this after telling me that the man that had custody wasn't my real father. Since this has been proven true since. I real father , I've known him all my life, wants nothing to do with my. He doesn't want his wife or daughter to know. I told me to disappear. I held my chin up and stayed with the man that brought me up. However recently we've been arguing. He would take out the smallest things on my , & physical hurt me and scream threats. So I left. I have been staying with my sister for a week now , but she has her own family & work to keep up with. She doesn't want me. This physically hurts inside. I just don't want to live anymore. My grades are dropping , I can't sleep, I'm just generally down. I can't cope. I have no one. I thought about maybe going into care? I've been before, short term, when my mother was ill. What do I do?

AnonJelly
Nov 28, 2012, 10:23 AM
It's a far-fetched idea, but considering your misery, I would opt for emancipation. What are the laws in your state for minors being emancipated? Mind you, if you are granted independence from your legal guardians (who have already abandoned you) it would still be necessary that you live with a trusted adult or friend. Someone nonviolent, someone in a stable environment, someone who can help raise you and be your friend and supporter along the way.

Wondergirl
Nov 28, 2012, 10:27 AM
It's a far-fetched idea, but considering your misery, I would opt for emancipation. What are the laws in your state for minors being emancipated? Mind you, if you are granted independence from your legal guardians (who have already abandoned you) it would still be necessary that you live with a trusted adult or friend. Someone nonviolent, someone in a stable environment, someone who can help raise you and be your friend and supporter along the way.
Emancipation means she has to be able to care for herself completely -- have her own place to live, have a good job, probably have a car, and generally be able to support herself without any help.

AnonJelly
Nov 28, 2012, 10:35 AM
Emancipation means she has to be able to care for herself completely -- have her own place to live, have a good job, probably have a car, and generally be able to support herself without any help.

I was emancipated at 16, and I know it entails complete independence. In my state, however, having roommates and adult support wasn't seen as a violation of the emancipation.