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rockrocks147
Nov 25, 2012, 09:35 PM
I've been with my boyfriend for more than a year now. Unfortunately, he moved away last June. My best friend used to be his best friend, but they got in a fight right before he moved and now they hate each other. The problem is that I think I'm falling hard for my best friend, and I know he loves me back. But I still love my boyfriend, but he lives so far away, and were so young. I'm so helpless. :( any suggestions?

Homegirl 50
Nov 25, 2012, 09:53 PM
If you are so young and helpless, do you need to be dating? How old are you guys?
How far away did he move and do you see each other? You can't love him that much if you're falling for someone else.

teensportychick
Nov 26, 2012, 05:05 PM
"Dont cheat. If your not happy just leave." I know you love your boyfriend but maybe you need to end it... you say you love him but if you love someone you love them completely and there isn't any room for anyone else.

joypulv
Nov 26, 2012, 05:17 PM
"The Young and The Helpless"
No, you aren't helpless. Do the right thing and break it off with your LD boyfriend as nicely as possible BEFORE he finds out that you are starting to get involved with his former friend. He doesn't deserve to be strung along and hit with it later. Face it NOW.

theindiankid
Nov 26, 2012, 06:24 PM
I disagree with everyone else.. who is suggesting a breakup. I mean this will be completely wrong and unfair justice for your boyfriend. Only because he lives far away, you are thinking about breakup. I assume that there is no reduction of the love and faith from his side so why will you treat him that way for no fault of his.

If distances define strength of a relationship for you, I am sorry to say you are not worthy of calling it 'love'. What's the surity of it that if your best friend moves away next, you will still love him?

Its completely your fault that you are allowing yourself to mess up between the two. Your this step will only disintegrate the relation between your best friend and boyfriend.

I suggest you to remain loyal. Plan frequent dates with your boyfriend so that you donot miss him that hard. These are the testing times of a relationship and you must remain brave and flick off all the obstacles(attractions) which come in your way.

Homegirl 50
Nov 26, 2012, 07:23 PM
You are dating him you're not married to him.

Homegirl 50
Nov 26, 2012, 07:27 PM
You are dating him you're not married to him. He has been gone a while and now you are falling for someone else. Let your boyfriend go. Long distant relationships are hard and if you can't see each other what's the point.