Sarahmarch14
Nov 24, 2012, 01:29 PM
Ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years. We hung out last Friday and we were super happy and had lots of fun. I even asked him if he was happy with us and he said yes. The following Monday at school everything was good too. But I was feeling a little down because I felt like I wasn’t that important to him because he always seemed to put me last. I didn’t try to show it because I wanted to wait and see if it got better. The next day on Tuesday morning everything was good too until lunch when once again I felt unimportant because he just went off with his friends and I just wanted to spend a little time with him.
Lately I was trying to give him as much time as I could with friends so he wouldn’t be unhappy but I got upset because he didn’t want to come by me. He said if I wanted to spend time with him I would have to come to him and his friends. I always did that so I figured I would stand up for myself and let him come to me because I didn’t want to give in. Well after lunch I went to class by myself and until after 8th hour I decided to give in because I didn’t want to argue and just wait for him after class. So I did and everything was fine I walked him to his last class. After school he went to get subway with a few friends I got a little upset but he said he would be back soon. When he got back he didn’t pay any attention to me only his friends. This time I got with him was important because thanksgiving break was the next day all the way until Monday. So I was crying and my cousin [also his friend] told him he should go to me. So I was crying alone and he came over and asked what was wrong I told him I didn’t feel important and he got mad and walked away to play cards with a few friends [I’m friends with his friends too] so I followed him and asked if we could talk about it and he said no I don’t want to.
I kept asking him until he finally said fine lets go talk so we found a private place to talk. I began by saying that I felt like I was last to him etc. He then said I can’t do this anymore and I kept begging him not to and said I loved him and he was a special person to me but he kept saying no I can’t change my mind I just can’t. He said he loved me and he didn’t want to hurt me. He was also crying. It took us 2 hours... one of our friends told me after he left and got into his car he balled his eyes out... I didn’t make any contact with him for almost 3 days. One of our friends told me he was talking to my boyfriend and my boyfriend said he didn’t think talking would help. So I waited a few days.
Yesterday I texted him. I had a pretty simple short conversation. I asked him how he was and he said "ok you?" I said "I’m ok" he said 'truth?" [We would always ask that when one of us would give an unusual answer, we would ask truth to make each other tell if we were really OK and not lie] I said "no not really" then he said sorry and I said thanks. I asked him how his Thanksgiving was and he said "good but the Lions lost" and I said "yeah I saw that I don’t think many people enjoyed that" and he replied with lol but it was close... I got him to laugh? That’s good right? Then after he asked me what I was up to [I told him I was shopping]. We talked about that for a little. He all of a sudden said "yep well I got to go" just randomly! I said ' wait can I ask you a question" he said "sure" I asked him if we could talk in person this weekend because I didn’t think dealing with all this would be good at school. He said "I can’t" I said" not even for a few hours or on Sunday?" and he said 'sorry I can’t" and I said " I don’t mean to be rude but I think it would be good if we did it before school so there’s not stress on both of us". He suggested next week and I said school isn’t really the place so I asked for next weekend and he said sure and I said OK then he said "but I will have to see". I said OK well I hope you can and I hope you consider it and he said he would.
I haven’t talked to him since that little conversation last night and I don’t know how I’m going to get through this week :( HOW DO I GET HIM BACK? What do I do this week to make him miss me or us? Please help!!
Lately I was trying to give him as much time as I could with friends so he wouldn’t be unhappy but I got upset because he didn’t want to come by me. He said if I wanted to spend time with him I would have to come to him and his friends. I always did that so I figured I would stand up for myself and let him come to me because I didn’t want to give in. Well after lunch I went to class by myself and until after 8th hour I decided to give in because I didn’t want to argue and just wait for him after class. So I did and everything was fine I walked him to his last class. After school he went to get subway with a few friends I got a little upset but he said he would be back soon. When he got back he didn’t pay any attention to me only his friends. This time I got with him was important because thanksgiving break was the next day all the way until Monday. So I was crying and my cousin [also his friend] told him he should go to me. So I was crying alone and he came over and asked what was wrong I told him I didn’t feel important and he got mad and walked away to play cards with a few friends [I’m friends with his friends too] so I followed him and asked if we could talk about it and he said no I don’t want to.
I kept asking him until he finally said fine lets go talk so we found a private place to talk. I began by saying that I felt like I was last to him etc. He then said I can’t do this anymore and I kept begging him not to and said I loved him and he was a special person to me but he kept saying no I can’t change my mind I just can’t. He said he loved me and he didn’t want to hurt me. He was also crying. It took us 2 hours... one of our friends told me after he left and got into his car he balled his eyes out... I didn’t make any contact with him for almost 3 days. One of our friends told me he was talking to my boyfriend and my boyfriend said he didn’t think talking would help. So I waited a few days.
Yesterday I texted him. I had a pretty simple short conversation. I asked him how he was and he said "ok you?" I said "I’m ok" he said 'truth?" [We would always ask that when one of us would give an unusual answer, we would ask truth to make each other tell if we were really OK and not lie] I said "no not really" then he said sorry and I said thanks. I asked him how his Thanksgiving was and he said "good but the Lions lost" and I said "yeah I saw that I don’t think many people enjoyed that" and he replied with lol but it was close... I got him to laugh? That’s good right? Then after he asked me what I was up to [I told him I was shopping]. We talked about that for a little. He all of a sudden said "yep well I got to go" just randomly! I said ' wait can I ask you a question" he said "sure" I asked him if we could talk in person this weekend because I didn’t think dealing with all this would be good at school. He said "I can’t" I said" not even for a few hours or on Sunday?" and he said 'sorry I can’t" and I said " I don’t mean to be rude but I think it would be good if we did it before school so there’s not stress on both of us". He suggested next week and I said school isn’t really the place so I asked for next weekend and he said sure and I said OK then he said "but I will have to see". I said OK well I hope you can and I hope you consider it and he said he would.
I haven’t talked to him since that little conversation last night and I don’t know how I’m going to get through this week :( HOW DO I GET HIM BACK? What do I do this week to make him miss me or us? Please help!!