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soaringstar12
Nov 23, 2012, 09:19 AM
I'm a 16 year old girl and I'm very confused. When I was younger I was positive I was straight. I always had crushes on guys and I would fantasize about them and want to kiss them. However, when I was about 13 I started getting confused. I began to notice girls bodies differently. I've watched lesbian porn and get turned on by it but I don't get turned on by straight porn really. I've had the urge to kiss girls multiple times but haven't really had that sudden urge toward guys. However, the idea of being with a girl isn't that appealing and when I fantasize I fantasize about guys. I want to be protected and male dominance is very appealing-but not female dominance at all.

I also think I have a crush on a guy right now because I fantasize about him and love it when he holds me. I want to hookup with him and was excited that that could happen. However, I don't know if I truly have a crush on him and I haven't had the sudden urge to kiss him like I've had with a couple of my girl friends. When I look at pictures of hot guys I think they are attractive and get butterflies, but I don't know if I'm actually turned on. I don't get butterflies with girls. But, the only time I've been sure about being turned on is when I've watched lesbian porn. I'm super confused and I swing from thinking I'm straight to maybe bi to maybe even lesbian (although that confuses me a lot because I used to only like guys).

Am I just bi-curious? I wonder if I'm not admitting to myself what I really am because I'm scared but then I question that reasoning as well because I fully support LGBTs. Is this a stage? Will it become clear? How do I know what I am? Help.

tickle
Nov 23, 2012, 11:34 AM
It isn't unusual at l6 to be curious about your sexuality. Your hormones are kicking in and confusing you and I hope this isn't worrying you because it need not be. Your inner voice would not let you act on anything unusual, it is all about what you were brought up to be.

Sounds to me like you have a healthy curiosity about men and that's good, but if you are bi, that is cool too.

Don't worry, be happy.

Alexis Dubree
Nov 23, 2012, 02:36 PM
Now you could just be curious or going through a phase.

Do females ever do something around you that's gay-ish and makes you uncomfortable?

WisperWill70
Nov 23, 2012, 09:46 PM
All your feelings are perfectly normal. You might be attracted sexually to guys and get butterflies for them and you might also feel attracted to girls. You'll find out what you like and what you don't as you grow up. Don't let anyone else define you or make you feel bad about whatever you feel. It's OK to be straight and it's OK to be gay or bi too!

Just stay healthy and be good to the people in your life and you can't go wrong! :)

Fr_Chuck
Nov 24, 2012, 05:30 AM
Yes Teen age years you are finding out all about sex and feelings and hormones.

Don't label, just see where they all go. Just be yourself