mmswhook
Nov 21, 2012, 07:19 PM
So, I've been with this guy for only 3 1/2 months. I know it doesn't seem like a long time, and it isn't. But when we first got together, we were so happy. We slept together pretty quickly, because we both felt like it might be love. We're astrologically perfect for each other as well. But now, I'm almost three months pregnant. I'll be 10 weeks tomorrow. For a long time, we were talking about marriage and everything because we were so convinced we loved each other, and I believe we do. I can't explain why or how we know, it's not really something I could put into words.
Our first big fight as a couple, we almost broke up, and then I found out I was pregnant. I told him, but I'm not sure I should have now. He is now always on my back, nagging me to get a job even though I can't because I'm a full-time college student, with no car, and I'm pregnant. I've looked for jobs. But the only ones I can find are ones that require more time then I have or jobs that require months of commitment and me standing on my feet all day. Which I can't do. I'm already having a hard time with pregnancy, so I know I wouldn't be able to pull that off.
He wants to plan everything out. And I'm not that kind of thinker. I've tried. But all I can focus on is the fact that my insurance takes care of all the medical bills. I've looked for places to live. I found one that my financial aid would take care of. But he doesn't see that as much of an accomplishment. So we've been fighting more and more often.
Recently, he told me he wanted a break. I had told him the stress was too much for me, because I'm pregnant and it could kill the baby if I have too much. He refused to listen, so I told him I would break up him if it continued. He again refused. So I told him he had one more chance. He again continued to cause stress. So I told him it was over.
I hoped it would make him stop treating me badly. Now, he's even more angry. I tried telling him how much I love him and need him right now. He says he'll be there for me, but that he needs and wants a break. He's been posting pictures all over his Facebook and saying he's back on the market again. It really hurt my feelings, and I got angry and told him it upset me. He said it was joking and that he wouldn't date any other girls.
He said I had his word, but his word doesn't hold enough weight for me anymore. What do I do? He's the father of my child, and I don't want to take away the baby from him. I don't want to hurt either him or my baby.
I'm at a loss right now, and I need help. Does anyone have any advice?
Our first big fight as a couple, we almost broke up, and then I found out I was pregnant. I told him, but I'm not sure I should have now. He is now always on my back, nagging me to get a job even though I can't because I'm a full-time college student, with no car, and I'm pregnant. I've looked for jobs. But the only ones I can find are ones that require more time then I have or jobs that require months of commitment and me standing on my feet all day. Which I can't do. I'm already having a hard time with pregnancy, so I know I wouldn't be able to pull that off.
He wants to plan everything out. And I'm not that kind of thinker. I've tried. But all I can focus on is the fact that my insurance takes care of all the medical bills. I've looked for places to live. I found one that my financial aid would take care of. But he doesn't see that as much of an accomplishment. So we've been fighting more and more often.
Recently, he told me he wanted a break. I had told him the stress was too much for me, because I'm pregnant and it could kill the baby if I have too much. He refused to listen, so I told him I would break up him if it continued. He again refused. So I told him he had one more chance. He again continued to cause stress. So I told him it was over.
I hoped it would make him stop treating me badly. Now, he's even more angry. I tried telling him how much I love him and need him right now. He says he'll be there for me, but that he needs and wants a break. He's been posting pictures all over his Facebook and saying he's back on the market again. It really hurt my feelings, and I got angry and told him it upset me. He said it was joking and that he wouldn't date any other girls.
He said I had his word, but his word doesn't hold enough weight for me anymore. What do I do? He's the father of my child, and I don't want to take away the baby from him. I don't want to hurt either him or my baby.
I'm at a loss right now, and I need help. Does anyone have any advice?