I know this is a broad question but I have no idea what is going on in my boyfriend and father to my only child's mind. He acts completely different. He treats me like an option when clearly I'm a priority. I need him to stop being delusional. He only started lying ignoring not communicating and simply not caring since I've became pregnant. Im busting my trying to help coparent my siblings with my single mother, staying healthy for the baby, getting back into school & going to therapy. I love my daughter but I regret having a child at times with him because I dreded being in this situation because of my personal experience. All parts of this relationship have changed.. we barely are intimate and when we are its like were just trying to get it over with ( which hurts me) he doesn't ask or help prepare for our daughters arrival, he doesn't even ask about me ingeneral, he isn't comforting or a supportive person right now at all. Which this wasn't true when we weren't expecting. My question is what should I do? Ive tried talking, giving him space and just focusing on myself and the more this goes on the worse it gets. Im open to personal experiences with issues like mine or just advice. Thanks! (:

Sadly we really have no idea why he's acting like this. Only he knows what's going on, and if you're tried to sit with him and talk it out, and he won't, then it seems like a lost cause.

To me it sounds like he's not happy about the pregnancy. Was the pregnancy planned?

That's just a guess, and that's all anyone can do.

Good luck.

[QUOTE=Alty;3329934]Sadly we really have no idea why he's acting like this. Only he knows what's going on, and if you're tried to sit with him and talk it out, and he won't, then it seems like a lost cause.


To me it sounds like he's not happy about the pregnancy. Was the pregnancy planned?

That's just a guess, and that's all anyone can do.

Good luck.[/Q



It was somewhat planned. We weren't using protection and for the six months leading up to it we always talked about having a baby. He wanted one and that's why I don't get it. It is sad, I'm really lost. I have tried saying it might be better if we break up and he won't take that route but its not like he's showing any interest in me or the baby at all. I want to share my pregnancy with someone who does.

I think he just scard and wasn't ready for what he got his self into or he don't want a bby by you I'm not trying to hurt your feelings but just give it tyme ask a friend or family member to be by your side at these times how far long are you?