hkwasabi
Nov 17, 2012, 07:58 PM
We are both 27, both career oriented and have decent job, but she is materialistic. I dated her for 3 years and we just broke up yesterday. We were absolutely amazing, we were all over each other and sex was too great. Her parents thought we should just get married and build a life together and support us to get married. We talked about getting married and looked at rings recently. She gave me the feeling like no one else ever did. I set my heart on her and gave everything to her unconditionally, but nothing else hurts like that. Feels like I am just a fool to believe that this was true!
Subtle things began to change after she changed her job and relocated further away from me earlier this year. We no longer date like what we used to. I would ask her lets do this together (like movie, dinner date, get away weekend, drinks, hang out with my friend from overseas), she would say she is too tired and not interested. Our life was just between her work place and her home to have dinner. No matter how I try to do things as a couple, she wouldn't come out. We used to talk on the phone for hours and lately she just wasn't interested at all. We hardly have sex in the last 2 months. It feels like I am just unconditionally giving and trying to make a relationship work, but she is just taking and consuming and no longer contributed into the relationship! Felt like I was alone in it!
So just 3 weeks ago, she began to go clubbing with friends and drink functions with new people she meet, I think she just enjoy the attention these guys gave her and she told me she felt great and felt she is still attractive and wanted. I played it cool, until I sensed that some guy keep messaging her. And one day she had to go drinking function with business friends (I know what exactly these guys are up for) and later she told me she might be going to overseas with them to celebrate a birthday! I expressed that I am not comfortable at all, and she questioned I don't trust her and I returned "how can i trust you when you only met these people for second time and going overseas for drinking party with them, i know what they are after and you know i am not comfortable but yet insist to go". I was so frustrated that it feels she no longer cares about me and I broke off and told her that I want to go overseas alone for a weekend to think things through. Apparently, she took it very hard too and fainted in the toilet.
She demanded to have 2 weeks space. Everyone thought we were made for each other and we would get pass this stage easily. But it felt like we were so distanced and she seemed very angry at me and just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Yesterday we broke up and she told me basically she has thought very carefully and think that we cannot continue anymore as she lost her feelings for me and admitted that she didn't contribute to the relationship. She just made her decision without asking to see whether we can compromise!! I mean what else can I say when she insist to end the relationship without giving a chance for compromise.
I thank her for the wonderful 3 years and just walk away from it all and be strong... but deep inside I really really miss what it was and feeling what a waste because it felt so true and so real! I feel like a fool to believe this one will last and just a fool tricked to believe we were inseparable! How I didn't notice her subtle sign and just keep giving in and giving in. How things just turn upside down in such a short time, one day we feel like top of the world and another day we cried in front of each other. Why was she crying so badly when she is the one to make this decision.
Subtle things began to change after she changed her job and relocated further away from me earlier this year. We no longer date like what we used to. I would ask her lets do this together (like movie, dinner date, get away weekend, drinks, hang out with my friend from overseas), she would say she is too tired and not interested. Our life was just between her work place and her home to have dinner. No matter how I try to do things as a couple, she wouldn't come out. We used to talk on the phone for hours and lately she just wasn't interested at all. We hardly have sex in the last 2 months. It feels like I am just unconditionally giving and trying to make a relationship work, but she is just taking and consuming and no longer contributed into the relationship! Felt like I was alone in it!
So just 3 weeks ago, she began to go clubbing with friends and drink functions with new people she meet, I think she just enjoy the attention these guys gave her and she told me she felt great and felt she is still attractive and wanted. I played it cool, until I sensed that some guy keep messaging her. And one day she had to go drinking function with business friends (I know what exactly these guys are up for) and later she told me she might be going to overseas with them to celebrate a birthday! I expressed that I am not comfortable at all, and she questioned I don't trust her and I returned "how can i trust you when you only met these people for second time and going overseas for drinking party with them, i know what they are after and you know i am not comfortable but yet insist to go". I was so frustrated that it feels she no longer cares about me and I broke off and told her that I want to go overseas alone for a weekend to think things through. Apparently, she took it very hard too and fainted in the toilet.
She demanded to have 2 weeks space. Everyone thought we were made for each other and we would get pass this stage easily. But it felt like we were so distanced and she seemed very angry at me and just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Yesterday we broke up and she told me basically she has thought very carefully and think that we cannot continue anymore as she lost her feelings for me and admitted that she didn't contribute to the relationship. She just made her decision without asking to see whether we can compromise!! I mean what else can I say when she insist to end the relationship without giving a chance for compromise.
I thank her for the wonderful 3 years and just walk away from it all and be strong... but deep inside I really really miss what it was and feeling what a waste because it felt so true and so real! I feel like a fool to believe this one will last and just a fool tricked to believe we were inseparable! How I didn't notice her subtle sign and just keep giving in and giving in. How things just turn upside down in such a short time, one day we feel like top of the world and another day we cried in front of each other. Why was she crying so badly when she is the one to make this decision.