What new facts, information or other things has this site taught you through researching answers or others posts ?

For myself I have had an insight into:

The Art market with the Paris Etching Society
The arcane nature of the US tax system
Some interesting Home repair and Plumbing tips
Americans will litigate at the drop of a comma

But I still don't understand Accounting ;)

There are more people starting cleaning business than I ever knew

Women never seem to know if they are pregnant or not. They always have to ask here.

And they also can't seem to stay away from married men! ;)

1. There is an incredible amount of people who need and want emotional support and even more who genuinely want to help.
2. This is one of the few sites that I have been on where just because you post something it doesn't mean you get lots of spam or emails from people who are trying to take advantage of people. In fact, I haven't received one negative contact since joining.
3. Most of the people on this site treat people with respect even when they make a mistake, ask a seemingly simple question or something out of the norm.
4. Men have a REAL hard time with ended relationships.

Thank you for this site! I am proud to be a member!

Didi

I have learned that a disproportionate amount of people frequently have premature stains or spotting of an unnatural color or consistancy in their unmentionables. I find that quite perplexing and I have started checking my own more than usual, just to be safe, from what, I have not a clue. Although I have found nothing yet, AMHD will be the first to know when I do.

I have found out that I should have invested in a business that manufactures heating and Air conditioning Thermostats.

I have found out that I should have invested in a business that manufactures heating and Air conditioning Thermostats.

I'll second that one!

I never knew until I came here how popular Skin Whitening was.

Funny: Light people want to be darker and dark people want to be lighter.

How many people that get told "i need space", and have those mind games played on them.

This thread seems awfully familiar...

:D

I'm with rick on this one I really can't get my head round the whole skin lightening thing it really baffles me hehehehe

Medicine bottles are rarer than they seem.

This thread seems awfully familiar ......

:D

NK yep excon has already mentioned similar, but I was looking for more serious answers.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/member-discussions/things-ive-learned-46321.html

That I was 14 during the wrong decade (evil grin).

That I was 14 during the wrong decade (evil grin).

What decade would you choose then Scott if you could change it?

I also agree with Rick. I do not understand why people are not happy with their natural skin colour and want to change it all the time. Never seen that ever before until on this site.

Oh, another one is how many people do not know how to prevent and use the proper protection for pregnancy.

Another thing too, I just thought of is how many people come here looking for advice and when they here something they do not like they get very defensive and state they do not want to hear it and get all stomping mad and nasty then leave. Although I got to say it is not a regular occurrence but that is something that baffles me.

Joe

What decade would you choose then Scott if you could change it??

Oh to be 14 again in this day and age and know what I know now! <EG>

Scott your making yourself sound like old father time ;)
I don't think id want to be 14 maybe 18 again I would certainly choose my path a little better that's for sure.

Scott your making yourself sound like old father time ;)
I don't think id want to be 14 maybe 18 again i would certainly choose my path a little better thats for sure.

I'm just being a DOM <EG>

I've got hugs for you if you were born in the '80s.

I learned that spelling and grammar are very important in asking and answering questions.

I learned that spelling and grammer are very important in asking and answering questions.
Grammar. :p

That there are many people out there who just want someone to listen to them and not just to be told to take a pill and go away.

That a surprisingly high number of Kenmore appliances fail, I will avoid this brand.

I've learned that I'm more normal than I thought I was.

I've learned that there are a lot of movies out there that I missed in the 80s and 90s that sound pretty cool and I should probably see.

I've learned that no one has to do it alone... there are people all over the world willing to help you. You just have to ask.

There are a lot of pet owners out there that would rather wait about for an answer than see a vet and have there beloved pet treated.

there are alot of pet owners out there that would rather wait about for an answer than see a vet and have there beloved pet treated.

Yes, this always seems weird to me, like there's going to be a simple solution "oh just put some windex on it, no need for a vet..."

Or somebodies eye sight. They are going blind and are waiting for a week from an answer from us before going to the eye doctor. All it is, is stupidity.

Along with much of what has already been posted...

Many people won't talk to their partner about sex, but they are willing to have bad sex and wonder why its still bad... how screwed (no pun intended) is that?

People all over the world have been as stupid as I was about relationships when younger.

I think I have become an expert on the NO CONTACT rule.

As a young lady (is 23 still young these days?) I've learned that there are so many here with so much wisdom and sense- just half of which I can only hope to gain with time and experience.

As a new member,
I have learnt to appreciate my inititave and the many roads it didn't lead me down..
Oh and on top of listening sometimes being more effective than opening my mouth...
I now know that I can learn even more from reading rather than writing

I have been around long enough to realize the world is full of people full of themselves long before I came here. I am pleased to learn how many highly skilled tradesmen there are here now, that are willing to give hours and hours of their time to help the DIY. There are some others, but I want to mention Speedball1, tkrussel, and Northern Heat. Oh, just like some other sites, we have a few professionals trying to protect their turf from those outside the priesthood.

I am HIV POZ and I was having a sexual relationship with my doctor. Hello:

I have learned that soap operas don't hold a candle to real life.

Excon

That is a good one.

Actually I have learned some things on plumbing I was not aware of yet.. oh geez so many things it is hard to list it all.

I too have learned a lot about plumbing along with cars, electrical, and certain legal issues I didn't know before.

I have learned about helpful web sites that I didn't know existed.

I have also learned the adage is true: Common sense is not all that common.

I have learned that many children worry more about their health than we give them credit for and that they are afraid to ask their parents for fear of ridicule.

Didi,

I love your answer and wish it was mine. Lol

I've learned that even smart folks can ask daft questions. So there is hope for me yet. Lol

I have learned that Curlyben needs to learn how to spell "learned." :p

And, I ditto excon's sentiments.

:p:p @ Ruby

–verb (used with object)
1. to acquire knowledge of or skill in by study, instruction, or experience: to learn French; to learn to ski.
2. to become informed of or acquainted with; ascertain: to learn the truth.
3. to memorize: He learned the poem so he could recite it at the dinner.
4. to gain (a habit, mannerism, etc.) by experience, exposure to example, or the like; acquire: She learned patience from her father.
5. (of a device or machine, esp. a computer) to perform an analogue of human learning with artificial intelligence.
6. Nonstandard. to instruct in; teach.
–verb (used without object)
7. to acquire knowledge or skill: to learn rapidly.
8. to become informed (usually fol. by of): to learn of an accident.

Isn't ENGLISH wonderful ;)

If all is to be believed from what people post - there is such great sadness and lack of morals in the world. People who do not value their own life and therefore cannot value another's life. Also, I have learned, people misrepreent themselves to make their story more believable and sympathetic. Isn't that just like life? Lol

Dictionary definitions don't cut it for me, my boy.

I am trying to find a useful grammar link but as usual, high traffic volume is stopping me. I guess I will have to pull out my American grammar book. Hmmm. Now where did I put it? I will get back to you on that one, my friend.

Another thing I have learned is what George Bernard Shaw said so long ago: Youth is wasted on the young!

Ruby, you forget I'm a BRIT ;)

Didn't forget at all. Not at all my friend... Is any other country's usage of grammar of any consequence to AMERICANS? :p

Nope, bit like everything else really ;)

Actually Benny boy, look at the top section of your dictionary definition.

"LEARNT
–verb (used with object)"

Ruby, Ben may speak English, but he writes in Latin!!

Nope, bit like everything else really ;)


I won't quibble with you there. Aren't we all a bunch of jerks?

Ruby, the object is "this site" ;)

Ruby,

Can you read it? Then be thankful. Not that it has anything to do with it but I'm Brit too, and I swear if it wasn't for my spell checker you would think you were on a forum for puzzlers and quiz addicts. Lol

No. I do believe your sentence structure negates that. Can you tell I am deperately looking for a debate today? :D arggg. Looking to bite the heads off dolls. Arggg.

BR, my favorite forms of entertainment!

Okay. I will shut up now. Apologies Ben. You know I love you. And, if you don't then your wife knows I love her and that should be enough.

Ruby, I counter your negation with the classic WIBBLE defense.

Learned and learnt are both valid, just like spelled and spelt or Ruby and Woobah.

MONKEYBOY! Where have you been? I have been looking for my little monkey!

*pet* *scratch* *pat*

Nice monkey.

WHY is everyone in love with married people?!

Sorry, just had to vent. Have a nice day. :)

Everybody is in love with everybody else. Just human nature. Nice for you to vent here but have you learnt how to vent from people on this site? Have a nice day, sorry but the day is over. Lol

Take care of yourself. New York, New York. I am surprised you do not have more attitude. Just kidding, just kidding.

Leo

LOL manimuth. It must be that spring has sprung!

JH, NO ONE has more attitude than me. No one. :D

How to be diplomatic. To listen to Chuck. That allot of people don't know how good they have "it". What I don't understand is why people seem to post and then never check back?

Nice for you to vent here but have you learnt how to vent from people on this site? Take care of yourself. New York, New York. I am surprised you do not have more attitude. Just kidding, just kidding.
Leo

I'm a novice here and I'm just starting to feel some of the side effects. :) I feel like I've opened too many posts titled: "I'm in love with a married..."
But, you are right... human nature.

Thanks for letting me vent. But, what do you mean "have I learned to vent" from here? Is there an assigned place for venting?

Lol. No, I'm very mild for a New Yorker. (A Piscean character)


JH, NO ONE has more attitude than me. No one. :D

:) :)

manimuth, JH was asking because of the title of this post, What have you LEARNT from this site.

So, I guess you LEARNT that there are a lot of women who are in love with married men!




P.S. Hi CurlyBen

I have LEARNT that another member, of whom I have grown very fond, just LEARNT a new expression. She knows who she is. She knows the expression. I won't embarrass her.

Let's just say it has something to do with my favorite ape creatures (see avitars) and, what some parents do to their children's bottoms when they have been naughty. They get

spanked.

heehee. I said I would post it here. Just didn't say when.

Ruby,

Oh Ruby, Best not to mention any names.

Lets just say I will never admit to spanking.

I will never tell. My little monkey lips are sealed tight.

manimuth, JH was asking because of the title of this post, What have you LEARNT from this site.

Yep. Got it!
Actually, yes! I've learned to speak up, partly due to this site.



Let's just say it has something to do with my favorite ape creatures (see avitars)

That's Monkey



and, what some parents do to their children's bottoms when they have been naughty

That's Spanking

Monkey, Spanking... *gasp*

Ah, Manimuth, I knew you were a smart cookie.;)

Shhh. Don't tell anyone. Okay? It will be our little secret.

One plus one equals two. Wow, Ruby put it out there for you and you put it together really fast. Well done.

Joe

Lets just say I will never admit to spanking.

Lol. Playing it safe, huh? ;)

Trying to, is it working. Guess not well, eh. :o

Trying to, is it working. Guess not well, eh. :o

Lol. Are you blushing? Or do the smiley's come purple? Hehe

Lions do not blush. This lion is going back to sleep before he falls into more pits. Lol

Leo the Lion, signing off for now.

I finally realized, through this site, that other people all over the world can ask inane questions too and kids are really interested in someone else doing their homework for them!

kids are really interested in someone else doing their homework for them !!

You first learned that here? :D

That's been going on since there was school. The internet just makes it easier for them to trick someone into doing it for them.

Never answer any questions involving animals, people are just way too sensitive about them.

I have learned there are way to many teens having unprotected - drunk sex and now they think they are pregnant. And just don't know what to do.
I learned the other day there is actually a technique on how to shave your privates! Who Knew!

Allot of women are mad because their man is looking at porn.

Allot of women are mad because their man is looking at porn.

Yes, that is another one.

A couple more to add to the list.

When a kid is pregnant, if they do not know what is a miscarriage, they do not know how to explain what is happening to them. I assume they are not smart enough to have sex in the first place or to bring a child into the world.

I have learned that I am smarter than the average bear. LOL

Yogi and BooBoo

Smarter than the average monkey J 9

Matt,

Do you really believe what you wrote - Life is not fair?

Don't mind me, I'm into this Law Of Attration thingy and I'm a tiny bit worried that if you believe that and keep on enforcing it then... Life won't be fair for you.. ever.

Be more positive, my friend.

I learned that noobs like the color red.

I have learned that if you are going to throw God into the discussion - be prepared to back it up! Or get yelled at!

I don't know, It's just something my mother used to say when we were kids.You know when kids say that's not fair (at least in my family) she would always say that.

My Mom would say that too.
"Life isn't fair - GET USED TO IT!!"
Or
"Whoever said life was fair?"

That's the old tapes in your psyche. You can record over them with something more positive. Try working with affirmations.

Affirmations - Positive statements created and repeated in order to cultivate a more positive mind and attitude.

I don't analyse I utilize.
I deserve love and respect.
I am prosperous and happy.
I welcome change in my life.
I enjoy the simple things in life.
I do things in order of importance.
I alone am in control of my destiny.
I have faith in my plans and projects.
I contribute to the happiness of others.
I am in control of my health and wellness.
I attract healthy, honest people into my life.
I get adequate rest, exercise and nourishment.
I will reach out and take hold of this moment.
I honour my integrity and the integrity of others.
I have the power to make my dreams come true.
I am deeply thankful for all that I have received.
I will bring more peace and harmony into my life.
I may be alone from time to time but I am not lonely.
I am freeing my mind of negative and limiting thoughts.
I realise even big plans must be worked out in small steps.
I acknowledge my successes with gratitude and generosity.
I alone am responsible for everything that happens in my life.
I realise there are lessons to be learned in all my relationships.

This is the fifth time that after I've taken my sweet time answering a post, doing some research, thinking my words through, etc. etc. and I hit "Submit Answer", I'm directed to the Sign In page!! I hit "Back" quickly and desperately but alas! Everything is lost!

AAAAHHH! It took me 5 times to get it through my thick head!!
Lesson learned... finally. Now, I always highlight my answer, right click, choose 'Copy', before submitting.

Women never seem to know if they are pregnant or not. They always have to ask here.

And they also can't seem to stay away from married men!! ;)



I agree there!

I've learned that debt and money problems are serious in the United States... worse than I first thought... and that when I thought I hit rock bottom I didn't. Others here were and are in worse shape than I am.

- I learned that I may be only one of only a handful of peope who has not just so happened to find the odd loose pill just laying around and need to have it identified.

- Some married men are very very busy. Yes, busy little bees they are.

- That there ase some truly beautiful people here at AMHD, both inside and out.

- We all are basically the same. We hurt, we laugh, we worry, we love and we just want to be loved in return.

- Oh this one really interested me. I did not know that a female dog can have babies at the same time, from two different dads, in the same litter. Is that not amazing? Did I say that right? Labman, please feel free to correct me. That just blew my mind.





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Yes, Allheart my love, you did state it correctly. Females can mate with more than one male during their heat. The result is pups in one litter who have a different daddy. :)

I don't know so much about what I have learned here but I have had confirmed again and again that no matter how busy you people are you can always find time to spread an encouraging word.

I had a bit of a tough weekend and I gather it showed in my posts over the last couple of days and one or two lovely people sent some encouraging words. I thank you.

What a lovely forum, what lovely people, so glad I found it.

I don’t know so much about what I have learned here but I have had confirmed again and again that no matter how busy you people are you can always fine time to spread an encouraging word.

I had a bit of a tough weekend and I gather it showed in my posts over the last couple of days and one or two lovely people sent some encouraging words. I thank you.

What a lovely forum, what lovely people, so glad I found it.

You got what you give Bluerose. Many a day, if not everyday you are here, you bring sunshine to us all.

You make us look at the brighter side. THANK YOU Bluerose.

I learnt today's teens cannot write vowels and have no clue what they are saying and go bonkers at the drop of a hat and should be rounded up and kept till we can ship them to... wherever will take 'em.

I have learned that when you post something that you THINK won't cause a stir - normally does. Be prepared to defend, defend, defend!

If you don't want to defend -
"I'm sorry, you are right and I am wrong" works pretty well too!

I learnt todays teens cannot write vowels and have no clue what they are saying and go bonkers at the drop of a hat and should be rounded up and kept till we can ship them to ....................................wherever will take 'em.


LOL Tal - They certainly do. It certainly is the Bonker Generation isn't it. Poor things.
Maybe we could set up an island for them Bonkers Island and they can't come back until they are completely unbonked. I never bonked like that at their age - heck, come to think of it, I don't think I bonked like that at all, ever.

I agree with you too Talaniman.

And I so agree with NowWhat! Ain't it the truth!

I have learnt that no matter what you say or do, you just can't win sometimes. It is more important for the other party to prove their point and pound away at you than make an effort to understand.

Allheart,

"..Bonkers Island.." lol

I don't know about the US but here in the UK 'Bonkers' has a sexual meaning -a couple going at it - I think some of the teenagers would just love your island. Lol

We can send all the bonked teens to the UK and they never have to come back. Problem solved.

LOL Bluerose. Something else I learned from this website.

Allheart,

"..Bonkers Island.." lol

I don't know about the US but here in the UK 'Bonkers' has a sexual meaning -a couple going at it - I think some of the teenagers would just love your island. lol


Oh my... LOL :o

Everyone seems to be pregnαnt, involved in αdultery, wondering if there αre αliens (ehemm phillycheesecαke). I found this site when my pipes were frozen in the winter.. umm.. other thαn thαt I've leαrned thαt some of these people belong in αn αsylum

"We can send all the bonked teens to the UK and they never have to come back. Problem solved."

Lol! Lol! If you do that, you know we will only send ours to you! Lol

Who's do you think would be the worst?

"everyone seems to be pregnαnt, involved in αdultery, wondering if there αre αliens (ehemm phillycheesecαke). I found this site when my pipes were frozen in the winter..umm.. other thαn thαt i've leαrned thαt some of these people belong in αn αsylum"

Ooooooooooo! That's harsh. Do you really. And here I just thought they were struggling to cope with life - like I do from time to time.

One thing I haven't learned from the site - how do you get more green dots? I only have one. :(

To be fair no one comes online anonymously to say that their marriage is doing great / kids are heaven sent / had an amicable break up / divorce is going along swimmingly / they tolerate all religions / etc.

No, no, these sites attract the ones that want to vent. They ask questions often solely to reinforce their preconceived solution. And we all know what happens when we go against that preconceived solution.

People thαt belong in αsylums αre the ones who αre on their 8th mαrriαge αnd αre fαlling in love with the 4th husbαnd αnd pregnαnt with the 1st:)

That there are just some topics that have no resolution and I have learned never to broach them, as the pit is endless and full of fire.

I agree with the assertion that this isn't the "talk-about-your-perfect-life" forum... so we can get some pretty wild extremes. People come here for help... but boy, sometimes you wonder how they step in such a big pile of *&^( without seeing it coming.

I don't think saraispiel19 was harsh at all... call it being judgemental but there is a difference between coping and making lousy, lousy decisions over and over. And that's something I have learned here... some people are REALLY lousy at making rational choices, over and over and over.

my brother-in-law and his soon to be ex are a prime example. Every time they wind up in an awful situation, you know... the one that EVERYONE else saw coming but they just couldn't... she says its up to "God's will"...

uh... no. I'm pretty sure God's will is for you not to have your head stuck up your... oh... never mind.

so some people should be able to see through their zipper. I suppose that makes me the crotchety guy my wife says I am from time to time. =)

I am amazed at the similarities in one individual to the next. It seems the "human condition" is a shared curse on us all. We all want and fear allot of the same stuff. And we all want in the same way. Obviously some of us tend to never learn, but in 60 or 70 years can anyone actually get good at this (life)?

• There are a lot of people who would rather get an answer from someone else versus do a little research on their own. (It baffles me they found this site but can’t put together a decent enough search to find the answer to some seemingly easy questions)
• I am thankful for the above mentioned people because it will hopefully let me put to use knowledge I have - and that is something that always feels good.
• I can burn a couple hours easily every time I log in here – and I will always learn something new and hopefully useful.

Where's the compassion? There are people out there who simply lack the skills. And as for being able to find this site, maybe someone told them about it as a place to get help. Just the fact that they are asking for advice is proof that they are trying to 'do it differently'. And sometimes it just takes a little longer for some of us to process the information and put it to good use.

In my personal opinion if we are here because we want to answer questions and help people, then we have taken on the responsibility of being non judgemental. We have no right to criticise them for their lack of skills and abilities. They are probably here on AMHD asking their questions because that is all they get at home, criticism.

All we can do is give the information that is sought and allow them to do with it as they will. Otherwise we are not being helpful compassionate people - we are being dictators. Given time I believe everyone gets it eventually.

Groundhog Day:


Day 1 - I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I'm lost. I'm helpless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.

Day 2 - I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I'm in the same place, but it isn't my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.

Day 3 - I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I fall in. It's a habit. But my eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault and I get out immediately.

Day 4 - I walk down the same street. There's a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.

Day 5 - I try walking down a different street.

I have had some very good advice on social security benefits and my rights... it has been very helpful since I am in a legal issue of garnishment.

When I first found this site - I was in a very low point in my life. I could have went to a hundred different websites to get technical information on how to get over what I was going through. With this site, I could talk out what I was going through, get advice from people that had no ties to the situation. I like that I can say what I need to with no judgement from those I love. I got to a point where everyone had an opinion (my family) and I felt that I was in a corner. I could say things that I could not to those closest to me.
Now that I am over the hurdle - this site helps me challenge my brain and HOPEFULLY help others.
I am thankful that I found this place.

Given time I believe everyone gets it eventually. I believe some never get it.

Sadly I think I have to agree, especially when it was the subject of young people cutting themselves and even committing suicide that got me down so much over the last few days. I still want to believe though, even with such a drastic outcome, that some of them do in the end.

Oh, God! Anyone got any good jokes?
This is getting all too serious, don't you think?

If we stopped believing that there is good in people - it would be a sad, sad place. I like to believe that everyone is capable of kindness and capable of being a "good" person. If they choose not to be... well, what can you do? I, for one, believe that good will prevail over evil.

Bluerose,
Yep, that is sad. I take time away from the board often 'cause that stuff gets to me. I make sure that I try to raise my kids to try to 'proof' them against feeling that way.

NowWhat,

"If we stopped believing that their is good in people - it would be a sad, sad place. I like to believe that everyone is capable of kindness and capable of being a "good" person. If they choose not to be....well, what can you do? I, for one, believe that good will prevail over evil."

I too come from that direction. And I have to admit, with things going on at home and the tough to take things going on here, I sometimes think I need a long break. And yet at the same time it helps me to realise how much stronger I am these days. There was a time when I couldn't have read, let alone discussed some of the issues on here.

I may be feeling a little sad but it also feels like another small triumph.

Does that make sense?

NeedKarma,

Sorry. That was in reply to you too. No edit button.

[INDENT]Where's the compassion? There are people out there who simply lack the skills. And as for being able to find this site, maybe someone told them about it as a place to get help. Just the fact that they are asking for advice is proof that they are trying to 'do it differently'. And sometimes it just takes a little longer for some of us to process the information and put it to good use.

I didn't mean to sound uncompassionate - thus my 2nd bullet. And I certainly overlooked the word of mouth factor for finding this website. I found it through some very obscure searches and so my thinking was... if someone found their way here they must be fairly savvy. I definitely miss (although I don't judge) the concept of using the web as a substitute for f2f interaction. **I** see the web as tool - not some sort of emotional support provider - but to each their own. There in lies the defining point I suppose for my my lack of compassion. I have awareness but perhaps not DEEP awareness... Certainly next time I'll think before I post or I'll get a thicker skin. I'm not typically one to criticize so getting my hand slapped coming out the gate (obviously I'm new here) was a bit surprising. All the best!

Compassion: Deep awareness of the suffering of another coupled with the wish to relieve it.

I must be in a hand slapping mood.

saraispiel19,

It's your turn.

"Everyone seems to be pregnant, involved in adultery, wondering if there αre αliens (ehemm phillycheesecαke). I found this site when my pipes were frozen in the winter ..umm.. other than that I've learned that some of these people belong in αn asylum."

Well I guess that means me too then since I have spent time in a psychiatric hospital. Mainly for stress and depression caused by an abusive childhood, my dad's suicide, my soldier husband getting shot in Northern Ireland in 76, almost blown up in 79 and spending almost a year in an army rehabilitation medical facility learning to walk and talk again, to say nothing of the struggle of bringing up a family and losing my only granddaughter. The circle of life - My circle.


Try to be a little more compassionate. Compassion: Deep awareness of the suffering of another coupled with the wish to relieve it.

There but for the grace of God go........... You!

PS. Ignore me. Just venting. I’ll be in a better mood soon.

Bluerose,

Don't feel bad for venting. It's healthy and your life lessons are lessons to all of us. We tend to say things in humor without thinking. So it's important that we do remind one another of the serious side to life, the painful side, so we all can be a little more caring.

I am with you Bluerose. Sometimes I get so discourgaged and completely disgusted with the joy some experience at someone else's downfall. (I am speaking in general not with what Sariai wrote - ). Think I am having a bit of a vent myself :). I see it here and I see it in real life as well. I don't see it as much here, but it does exsist.

So have your vent, you are entitled. Plus, it teaches us all and hopefully makes us just a little wiser.

Bless you Bluerose for sharing those painful memories. I don't think Sariai meant any harm at all. I have said similar things about myself, so makes me a little more aware as well.

**hugs to you Bluerose**

I don't think Sariai meant any harm at all.She obviously did not mean any harm I agree. As in any large group of people you will find someone who is offended or hurt by someone else's words.

I've learned that young teen girls will cuss you out, and call you names, and give you a red square if you tell them they aren't in love, or can't have a baby.

saraispiel19, My apologies. Like Allheart said, it's not such a bad thing to get a shake up every now and then. I shook and I fine now. Sorry.


Allheart, And bless you for listening and understanding.


NeedKarma, I agree. I'm on other forums, not as well moderated as this one, and some people really know how to rattle your cage sometimes. I also find that I am guilty of allowing certain comments to drag up memories and then get pissed off at the poor innocent poster. I mostly just vent... Hope I'm not too rude. I would hate that.


talaniman, You don't like those red square do you? lol

Oh, Bluerose! I just saw this and my heart sank. What is that old saying? "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger." Oh dear, I am truly glad you are here with us. You are 100% right about the lack of compassion.

I have learned from this site that quite a few people do lack compassion for others. But, it is not any different from life in general, as Allheart points out. It truly saddens me that some people are just too blinded by self-importance, or merely the desire to get their point across, to see it.

I agree with you too Ruby and Rose, but we have to remember that every person is individual. There are some folks who are VERY compassionate, but don't know how to express it in words. They can show compassion if they are in front of you and can see you and touch you, but to do it over the internet where it is simply words, can be hard for some people.

talaniman, You don't like those red square do you? lol
Not from bratty teen girls who think they know everything.

having empathy and compassion, while demanding more from people are not conflicting. And homogenizing all feedback into back-patting and hand-holding is, in my opinion, akin to censorship at worst and failure to accept alternative approaches at best. Then again, I haven't had any coffee yet.

what's nice about this forum is I can say what I have to say, sometimes with steel-toed boots kicking someone in the rear, while another poster can come in with soft gloves.

I'm surely not going to lose my irish temper, and I think a harder delivery is sometimes needed, esp in cases where people are choosing badly and it can and should not be happening... so I simply disagree that harder deliveries and judgements lack soul or mean any less than softer approaches.

sometimes in my life I've needed just a hug. Sometimes I needed my mother to push my back to the wall and tell me to straighten up. The mix of us makes the yin balance the yang.

now wheres my damn coffee?? Better find it soon, before I put on my "grumpy pants" and ride my "huffy bike" (all terms my beautiful, italian wife uses to belittle crotchety boys... that and "manties" (man panties)... nothing worse than to be ticked off and to have your wife ask "bunny, are your manties too tight"? You can smell the smoke come out of my ears. =)... I HATE it when she calls me "bunny" during a tiff... )

Kp,
Your wife sounds pretty cool.

:)

KP, I am going to have to remember these terms when talking to my husband - when he has his manties in a bunch. :)

Oh great... what have I done... unleashed the power for all women to use. Curses!

No, just something else I have learned from this site. Thanks!

Ruby,

Some serious decisions are being made around here - home. Regarding the grandson I have living with me. Decision that will improve our situation, nothing to be too concerned about. But it's the sort of thing that drags up past memories, the sort of thing that can bring us down a little.

Thank you for your concern and your support. I have talked to some lovely people on here who have been so very supportive. I hate to think how I might have dealt with it all if I hadn't shared some of it on here.

It's just a case of so many family members being involved, and all going through things in their own way, that you don't want to burden them with your own worries. Which are probably unfounded anyway.


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The compassion is there..... I just think some people need to be reminded sometimes of how fortunate they are.




J_9,

".. There are some folks who are VERY compassionate, but don't know how to express it in words. They can show compassion if they are in front of you and can see you and touch you, but to do it over the internet where it is simply words, can be hard for some people."

So true. Thanks for the nudge.

KP, I am going to have to remember these terms when talking to my husband - when he has his manties in a bunch. :)

Manties just feel good OK, they make us feel pretty. I like the ones that match my manzier.

Although, in her defense I do ask for panties for my birthday and fathers day... for her to wear, in case that wasn't clear.

;)

I've learned from this site that its really easy to get off topic with the mentioning of panties, monkeys, hot sauce... but not all at once, mind you. Unless you're into that sort of thing, sicko.

LMAO KP, I forgot about the hot sauce!!

I think the coffee finally hit.

I'm bouncing off the walls.

BRING ON THE MONKEYS IN HOT SAUCE PANTIES!

Yeah bring on the panties and hot monkeys... whats the sauce for?

LOL Tal - I missed the lesson on the sauce too.:confused:
But very well educated on the monkeys and I am quite proud of myself:D

Sheesh, we forgot the Kool Aid!!

Forgot the koolaid? Now that's over the top!

Yeah bring on the panties and hot monkeys...............whats the sauce for?

Now I think I have been truly damaged!